The custom of making bridal chamber in various places

Beijing-Tianjin region:

Some people say that there is no custom of disturbing houses in Beijing because there are many Manchu people, and Manchu customs are different from Han customs. However, some people say that the custom of disturbing houses also exists in old Beijing. Mr. Ma Zhi also believes that there is such a custom in old Beijing, but he also points out that Beijing is a place where the royal family of the Qing Dynasty is concentrated, and the activities of sexual relations are not so intense: "Of course, cousins are relatives; Cousins with cousins and in-laws must attend. The most fashionable move is to let the bride kiss. At that time, although influenced by the west, men and women were more open than before, but there were still not many men and women kissing in public, so when guests shouted' kiss! Kiss! ? Often make the bride blush. But after all, Beiping is a city with an ancient cultural tradition, and there are many descendants of the Qing royal family. Some people are conservative and think that marriage should be conducted in a serious atmosphere. Such a family is more' custom-free'. "

Hebei province:

There are many people who can have sex, such as friends and guests of the groom's age, the bride's sister-in-law, brother-in-law, sister-in-law, cousin, cousin and so on. All my peers also come to have sex. It's just that elders don't have sex because they are always detained. Of course, the method of making trouble cannot be the same in every family. But there are always these kinds: troublemakers try their best to make the bride talk, but the bride always doesn't talk, even hits her, pushes her and scolds her, in order to make her anxious and angry. But the bride must not be angry with the noisy guests, because being angry will offend the guests. Sometimes they will ask the bride and groom to sing opera or "Lotus Waterfall" (a folk tune in eastern Hebei) for them, but the bride naturally won't agree, so some people will say many provocative words to the bride. For example: "Does my sister-in-law have a concubine at home? We all know, just say it! Call us all to listen? " Or, "Don't you like the groom? Why don't you talk to him? " Some people clamor for the bride and groom to talk, and if they don't talk, they tie the groom up. Or roll up the groom and push the bride to untie him. Sometimes it makes the bride cry. However, noisy rooms were never banned until the noisy guests were tired and dispersed in a hubbub. "

The custom of listening to rooms is also very popular in Hebei. "Although the people who have sex left the bridal chamber, they can't let the bride and groom go so easily. Some people listen to new people under the window or outside the new house because they don't want to speak first, because they believe that whoever speaks first will die first. Another taboo thing tonight is that there is a lamp in the new house called "ever-burning lamp", which means "long life without end" Always turn one side of the bucket upside down. This lamp is placed at the bottom of the bucket and must not be blown out. Blowing out this lamp means that the couple will not live long. Everyone who listens outside wants to hear the new couple talk, so the next day they have materials to tease the bride and groom. Sometimes they will break enough paper (because the windows in the country are all made of paper) to look inside, so most brides always sit under the bed all night on their wedding night, afraid of being seen by people who listen to the room.

The gangsters acted in batches and came up with various tricks. Some people put a toad in the bride's quilt in advance, and when the bride is covered, she will scream with fear, while others force the bride and groom to kiss in public. Some bedroom behaviors try to keep the couple away: some hide in the window and eavesdrop, and whenever the bride and groom talk, they hiss. Some young people are hiding in the closet. One minute they bark like dogs, and the next minute they bark like cats. The purpose is to prevent the bride and groom from whispering.

Datong, Shanxi:

The noisy room in Datong is still quite powerful. Therefore, in the first two months of a girl's marriage, her sister or aunt and others all gave guidance and practice in advance to avoid embarrassment at that time. There are many people who can have sex, whether they are brothers-in-law, cousins or friends of the same year in the village. Some manners are necessary when making trouble. The first is the "lion opens his mouth" ceremony, which is a ceremony when the bride greets the guests. Opening the sleeves together is called the "lion opening" ceremony. After the ceremony, the guests asked each couple to take an ancient coin with eyes and exchange it with each other's tongue. It is absolutely forbidden to help with your hands. After that, she buckled a small cup on the ground and asked the bride to turn it up with her toes. So visitors can take this opportunity to see the bride's golden lotus. After that, the groom hugged the bride's feet and asked, "Did you come well?" Soon the bride will say, "Come, the big one runs, the little one walks, hold it in her arms, and there are squeaky breasts in her stomach, so fan her back." After the question and answer, tie the groom to the bench, tie the knot of the rope around the groom's waist, and then let the bride untie him. If the bride is embarrassed to solve it, the guests will threaten to stay in the bridal chamber for one night. When the bride went to solve it, the people in the dormitory burst into laughter. At this point they are finally satisfied.

Hua county, Shaanxi:

If a family marries a bride, at dusk, people in the village go to congratulate and set off firecrackers at the door first. When the master knows, he will come out to meet them. Everyone bowed to each other before the throne, and then set up a banquet to reward the guests. At this time, the couple came out to propose a toast to thank the guests. Pour a glass of wine, and they kowtow once. When the banquet is over and some guests are dispersed, ordinary young people stay in this noisy room. When the bride and groom entered the bridal chamber, they prepared a bowl of salty boiled water. The two drank the water first, saying it was drunk, so that the couple could live in harmony in the future. Then we eat jiaozi. Everyone eats a little, and then exchanges bowls and chopsticks. Three times is called "chopsticks for bowls". After these things were done, the guests began to make trouble. Or ask the couple to bow to each other, or call the bride solve riddles on the lanterns, and stay up until midnight. If there is another rule, it is noisy for three nights, so the lights in the bridal chamber will not go out for three nights until dawn. ""There is a noisy room first, then a listening room. Most people in the room listen to the groom's sisters. What to listen to so as to make fun of the bride and groom in the future. Sometimes, when the newlyweds are asleep, they try to open the door and steal the bride's clothes. Only the next day did the bride agree to their demands, such as asking for candy or inviting them to dinner, would they return the clothes.

Jinan, Shandong:

The phrase "no matter what happens for three days" is also used by Jinan people to describe a noisy scene in a room. If no one makes trouble, the main family will be jealous! The way to make trouble in the bridal chamber is to find some young people who like to play in advance. One of them will dress up as an "empress" (a deacon serving the public), put a lot of powder on his face, put on women's clothes, sit in class, drag the bride and groom, and kneel in front of the empress. The queen picked up a cotton boy doll and threw it at the bride. The bride carefully ran to the new house with the doll, expressing her expectation of having a son. Then all kinds of farce, regardless of men, women and children, all say some shy words of men and women and ask the newcomers to make all kinds of shy actions. It lasted until late at night. "That night, the new house was brightly lit, and relatives, friends and neighbors came to see the bride, see the dowry, see the bride's' manual work' (the work of pillows and uppers), get married cakes, grab fruits and so on. , which is the so-called' noisy room'. At night, my brothers and sisters eavesdrop outside the new house, whispering: when no one is listening, they put a broom behind the window, and some put a chopping block, which means' roll the chopping block and have grandchildren'. This custom no longer exists.

Henan:

There are very lively haunted houses in zhenping county, Gushi, wen county and Mengxian. "In zhenping county, on the wedding night, the bridal chamber should be filled with midnight snack wine. Usually relatives and friends-mainly my sister, brother-in-law, uncle, etc. In addition to cousins, cousins' grandfathers, or some young friends-will have an affair at this time. The methods of having an affair are really varied and strange. This noisy method won't stop until midnight. Although the noisy room is over, the custom of listening to the room still exists. These noisy tenants listened in the room under the window and came up with an idea while the bride and groom were asleep. Open the door, steal into the bridal chamber, and sometimes take off her coat, so casually grope for her upper body and face, which is allowed by custom.

Shouxian County, Anhui Province:

There is also a saying called "three days, big or small". However, male elders have never had sex, because they are always polite. Others, such as brother-in-law, nephew and sister-in-law, can naturally find ways to make the bride laugh at will. For example, they can greet and bow to the bride and introduce themselves. The bride was embarrassed to make any promises, so she called her "sister-in-law" or "aunt" and said, "Why don't you pay attention to me?" I hope I can make the bride laugh, but I must not disturb the bride with teasing tone or some obscene statements. If you say it carelessly, the groom will give you an ugly face when he is young, and will beat you or scold you when he is old. Can't say that the groom is rude. Sometimes after breaking up, I often let my sister-in-law and others pretend to be the groom and cheat the bride. It is said that once the groom went out to see a guest off and didn't come back to the house. Taking this opportunity, the bride's sister-in-law put on the groom's clothes and went into the new house, while the others closed the door. The bride pretends to be the groom and lies in the new bed in her clothes. The bride doesn't know the groom at all and thinks it's the groom. So he said to the groom. The groom ran out of the house at once for fear that the bride would say something to avoid people's eyes and ears. Later, I often used it to tease the bride.

The custom of listening to rooms is also popular here. This is a necessary thing after a noisy room. It is considered unlucky if no one listens in the room. Therefore, if there is really no room for listening, you must put a broom under the window of the new house instead of the listening room, so as to avoid bad luck.

Shanghai:

On the first night of their wedding, the bride and groom sat at the main table together. At this time, the guests made all kinds of jokes and made everyone laugh. This is called eating greenhouse. As the saying goes, "it doesn't matter if you get married for three days." In other words, within three days of their marriage, people of all ages can play all kinds of jokes and make the bride laugh in the new house. There is a special way to tease the bride by taking off her shoes in exchange for money and things. Shanghai can be said to be the new york of China, which shows the prosperity of Shanghai. Because residents have many opportunities to meet people from Europe and America, their thoughts have naturally improved a lot with the trend. But so far, I haven't got rid of the custom of noisy rooms. From two local folk songs, we can learn about their bedrooms! Song who delivered the room: "Holding a red light will light up, and both of them are blessed to send the groom. Sit in the bridal chamber today, and you will be the number one scholar next year. Noisy song: "This wedding banquet is for the bride, who turns to the groom. A man of talent and a woman of beauty, two people love a man of love. Meeting for the first time is like a jade girl and a mandarin duck. "

Suzhou:

In Suzhou area, they look at the listening room more carefully behind the noisy room. Not everyone can go to the listening room, only Quanfu people are qualified to go to the listening room. If there is no one at home who can listen to the room, they put the broom under the window instead of listening to the room, because they believe that if no one listens that night, there will be a flower god to listen to the room, which is very unlucky for the newcomers. Using a broom means letting the flower god see and trust people, so she doesn't listen!

Mianyang County, Hubei Province:

The people who make trouble with each other are also brother-in-law and sister-in-law. Although there is also a saying that "three days regardless of size", it is always the peers who make the most trouble. Most of them flirt with the bride when they make trouble, and they can say anything, which is very unpleasant. For example, "No bride!" ! We must eat full moon wine at once! "Or:" Let me see your eyelids, bride. Look at your hands, your feet and your milk. "Not only that, sometimes I really touch these places, and sometimes I touch the bride's hands very thick. I mean," Look how thin the bride's hands are! " "Even so, you're welcome. The bride should not only be angry, but also apologize, otherwise the whole village will scold her and say that she is not sensible and unreasonable. Sometimes even the grandfathers will scold them and say, "My grandfathers married such a daughter-in-law without virtue?" Sometimes the local ruffians will rob the bride's shoes, so the bride's shoes are always made tightly to avoid being taken off. If they take off their shoes, they will even take away the bride's foot binding strips, and then let the bride stand on a stick, deliberately embarrassing the bride. Sometimes they even put some "beautiful women undress" on the new bed, so that the bride can't help but take off her coat. In addition, they can rummage through the bride's things at will. It is common to steal them, and they will not return them until the bride promises to invite them or give them some food. "If there is no listening room, it is not bad luck, but if someone goes to the listening room, it is best to listen. Listen, it's very unlucky for the listener. They not only monitor the room, but also often steal into the room and take things from the new bed. Because Mianyang's custom is that couples sleep at two ends, there are pillows as wide as the bed at both ends of the bed. It is said that on one wedding night, the bride and groom slept at one end, and the pillow at the other end was stolen by a noisy person. They didn't know, so it became a joke for their whole lives.

Jiangxi Ji 'an:

Wedding night, regardless of age. Every time you call the bride, you should kneel down to her, and the recipient need not return the gift. The troublemaker enjoys it, but the bride's legs can't stand it.

Nanchang, Jiangxi:

Any male relatives and friends can have sex, and female guests are not unable to do so, but most of them are embarrassed to go. Noisy guests often play the huqin to invite the bride to sing. If the bride doesn't sing, they sing by themselves. For example, "Eighteen Horses" and so on are all sung in noisy rooms. This kind of music is very vulgar. ? There are many ways to make trouble. Let the groom smoke, let the bride light a fire, or get some flowers to hang. Ask the bride to take them down. If the bride can't carry them, let the groom carry them. Sometimes they are forced to kiss. Even if the guest drinks wine, falls asleep in the new bed and throws up, the couple can't be angry, because if the guest looks at the couple angry or anxious, he has to say something ugly, such as "Aren't we leaving yet?" They are already very anxious! "On this day, the bride will hide the menstrual cloth, otherwise noisy people will look for it. If they find it, they will make fun of the bride.

"Listening to the room to steal things after the room is noisy is also common in Nanchang. They call it "stealing a house". Steal the bride and groom's clothes and accessories and travel around the city happily. The couple won't stop until they have a big meal. Therefore, Nanchang brides are more afraid of stealing houses than making trouble.

Xingguo, Jiangxi: On the wedding night, "friends and relatives will joke in the bridal chamber, embarrassing the newlyweds, so the bride and groom invited two or three eloquent male and female friends and relatives to be' bodyguards' in advance to help the newlyweds cope with the jokes of guests and friends. After seeing the bride, relatives and friends got together to send the couple into the bridal chamber and immediately held a banquet with them. During the dinner, the bride and groom sat opposite each other, and all relatives and friends sat on both sides. Two people with good acting skills were elected as the leaders of the haunted house. They made suggestions, posed problems and teased the couple. The most embarrassing thing is to openly say some vulgar and obscene words. This custom has not disappeared so far. "

After dinner, they began to make trouble in the bridal chamber. Put three or four tables at the entrance of the bridal chamber first, and put tables on them in case the guests enjoy themselves. Everyone sat around the table, leaving two empty seats for the bride and groom. At this time, a couple is in the bridal chamber. The noisy guests chose two leaders as noisy leaders, one for calling the door and the other for getting the bride up. The person who calls the door should say a few auspicious words outside the door, such as "the weather is good, the earth will last forever, and the bridal chamber will be full of joy", and then the groom will open the door. Those who ask the bride to get up should enter the bridal chamber with a glass in their hands and say to the draped new bed, "I respectfully invite the bride out of the lotus bed, giving birth to a daughter with her right foot and a talented person with her left foot." Exit the new house after singing. Therefore, the bride must get out of bed with both feet at the same time to show her willingness to be both a "daughter" and a "gifted scholar". After the bride and groom walked out of the bridal chamber together, they bowed to everyone, and the toaster asked the couple to sit down, so everyone toasted the couple together. It is natural to say some witticisms during the dinner, but the way of making love without contact is more elegant.

Zhejiang Wuyi:

"Please male guests is at the time of eating. After dinner, these guests began to make trouble. It is not necessarily relatives and friends who have sex, but strangers who have relationships with men and women are also eligible to have sex. The main family has never banned it, because' the louder the better', because it is rich, it is rich. At this time, the bride is sitting on the edge of the bed, with two or four unmarried women on both sides, and the attendants are not disturbed. The purpose of having a noisy room is just to make the bride laugh, and there are many ways to use it. They can tell stories or jokes, get rid of unlucky words, and use any frivolous tone or dirty words at will. When they make the bride laugh, they will ask the bride for pleasant fruit. After begging, you can make her laugh again and keep the bride laughing. That's what they want. Sometimes I ask the bride for fruit, and I also ask the escort for fruit. This noisy room is not a one-day event. It depends on the number of days the host family invites guests. If you invite guests for five or six days, you will make trouble for five or six days. Because they invited seats for at least two days, the noisy room was at least two days. " Listening to the room is also popular here, which is characterized by "stealing" things from the new house: "After quarreling, they can't be so willing to rest, so they must listen to the room or steal things from the groom. Sometimes even robes, pillows, clothes and bedding with crests are stolen. The next day, I asked the bride for money to buy them crisp candy, at least 10 kg, and more than 40 kg! They won't return the things unless they get the money. "

Sichuan:

There is a bamboo poem in Sichuan that says, "When the glass sedan chair arrives at Huatang, it helps the bride into the bridal chamber. Pick up the hijab and drink it until dawn. " I can see that the noisy room is full. In Shunqing County, on the wedding night, the bride will pour wine for all the guests until they can't drink it. When the bride enters the room at night, the groom's mother will invite many people to eavesdrop or peek outside the room. If nobody listens, mother must put a broom behind the door. It is said that if no one looks at it, it will be seen by ghosts. This couple is unlucky. The lights in the new house can't go out. Quxian also has the custom of disturbing rooms and listening rooms. On the wedding night, the bride must propose a toast to every noisy guest, which is called "flower picking wine" or "dismounting banquet". The listening room is always a female guest, because the new house can't turn off the lights, so I will take the opportunity to peek. On the wedding night, the bride and groom sit side by side on the edge of the bed or on the same stool, and everyone is around them, saying humorous words. Naturally, vulgar and obscene words are inevitable. Some also ask the bride to sing and dance, or give the couple various program problems, and even make rude moves, often making the bride blush. People think that the more lively, the more auspicious.