When people reach middle age, they are most afraid of suddenly understanding a song.

Sometimes, I am most afraid of understanding a song, as if it is suddenly hit in a corner deep in my heart, and I can't help but burst into tears.

"I walked home alone at night

Passed drunk on the sofa alone

When I was alone

Occasionally Talk to yourself"

NetEase Cloud Music left more than 150,000 comments on "What I Want to Say About Loneliness" by Lao Fan next door.

There is this passage in the comment area: "I went out to eat a bowl of noodles alone, and chili oil splashed into my eyes. I didn't dare to go to the bathroom to deal with it, because I was afraid that the waiter would take away my noodles. , and then I can only endure it and eat the noodles with tears in my eyes."

That feeling must be very sad!

There are really many lonely people.

A person faces various challenges in life alone; a person faces the departure or betrayal of the person who was once the closest to him.

As time goes by, loneliness has become a standard feature for every middle-aged person.

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"I was under the bedside with the light on, and wanted to ask myself about my heart

Didn’t I want to let others see my joke at the beginning?

I am unraveling my lies. I shouldn’t have said that I didn’t love her at the beginning.” There is a question on Zhihu: “After the age of 40, Do you regret not being with the person you once loved deeply? ”

Someone answered: “Yes, she was with me for 8 years, and she ruined the relationship with her own hands because of her lack of appreciation, just like Zixia Fairy is the same as Zhizunbao. Everything can't go back. Now, I am very lonely."

When I reach middle age, I often look back on the past for a moment in the dead of night. , longing and regret are like surging beasts, swallowing up reason in an instant, but there are only memories and regrets over and over again.

Just like a passage in the comment area of ??this song: "Those who appear to be free and easy on the surface have a corner in their hearts that is completely broken."

In the city square at three o'clock in the morning, a drunk uncle was holding a billboard on the roadside with his left hand and a phone in his right hand.

He turned on the speakerphone and said loudly over and over again: "I have money, come back, I will take good care of you."

However, there was a message on the phone What came over and over again was "The number you dialed is unavailable."

The dim street lights reflected on the deserted street, his decadent shadow fell alone on the ground, It's sad.

The words of a netizen are very sad: "I am most afraid that there will be no results, I am most afraid that we will grow old alone, and I am most afraid that the person sleeping next to me in the future will not be you."

Somewhat People, once missed, will lose their lives.

From now on, you have your thousands of lights, and I live my long journey; from now on, we can no longer live together, nor are we willing to forget each other in the world.

It’s really a pity that you are not the one who will accompany me until I grow old. The loneliness that is engraved in my bones can only be fully understood in middle age.

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I once saw a popular question: “Why do so many people drive home and can’t get downstairs? Will you have to sit in the car for a long time? ”

One netizen’s answer received a lot of comments: “Because that’s a dividing point. You are a father and a son when you open the door. , It’s your husband, but it’s not you; in the car, if you want to be quiet and smoke a cigarette alone, this body belongs to you.

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This is what a mature middle-aged man is like: he hides his true self in the car, and when he opens the car door and walks out, he is the high-spirited and successful person again.

My friend Andy, when he gets off work, he often drives to the river alone, turns off the engine, turns off all the car lights, mutes his mobile phone, sits in the car alone, and listens to music quietly, just like that Quietly, don't think about anything. Wait until your mood calms down completely before driving home.

Every middle-aged person has this kind of moment when he suddenly feels aggrieved and has no one to talk to. I can endure it alone.

At 2 o'clock in the morning, there was a middle-aged man sitting alone at the stall. He ordered two bottles of beer and a plate of peanuts. It suddenly started to rain heavily, but he did not get up to hide from the rain, but continued to drink in silence, letting the rain soak his back.

I don’t know whose son or husband he is. Whose father? I don’t know what kind of injustice he suffered, but he didn’t want to show his vulnerable side in front of his family, so he had to hide in a rainy stall to heal his wounds secretly.

There are comments in the comments section of this song. The words are very touching: "May you survive the loneliness. May you hide under the stars and the sea." ”

When people reach middle age, they must learn to survive the loneliness and learn to hide in the stars and the sea, just to give the people they love behind them a stable home.

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Fangyuan in "Little Joy" had a smooth life, but one day when he was 45 years old, he was suddenly laid off.

After losing his job, Fangyuan struggled quietly, not daring to tell his family.

He pretended to go to work every day, but actually went out to look for a job. But for a long time, he could not find a suitable job. , he had no choice but to hang out in shopping malls and supermarkets every day, and then go home on time.

But even if he pretended to be calm on the surface, when all kinds of pressure continued to accumulate in his heart, and he became increasingly overwhelmed, he suddenly felt something. One day in the corridor, I cried like a helpless child.

That crying scene revealed the grievances, loneliness and helplessness of many middle-aged men.

The second half of life. , it seemed that I was the only one left alone on the battlefield. He suddenly raised his head, drew his sword and looked around at a loss, not knowing where to turn.

At 1 o'clock in the morning, a delivery boy sat on the ground and broke down crying. Next to him, there were two takeaways sitting alone...

Unfortunately, his son suffered from leukemia. He had to work hard for more than 16 hours a day to pay for his son's treatment.

While he was delivering the meal, his son suddenly developed a high fever, and his wife couldn't leave, so she had to ask him to deliver medicine to his son.

He quickly turned around, bought the medicine, and rushed back, and then hurried back. The food delivery was still 10 minutes later than the stipulated time. However, before he could explain, the customer canceled the order, which meant that his whole day was in vain.

For a moment, he felt lonely and depressed. , despair, and helplessness all came up, and this grown man in his thirties cried loudly like a wronged child.

Sometimes, a small thing can defeat a middle-aged man. That’s it.

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Lao Fan next door said: “I am a common person and I feel sad when I listen to my own songs. ”

Yes, we are all secular people. We have to face all the chaos and chaos in the world, and we will all feel alone, lonely, and sad.

In life There is always a part of the journey that you need to walk and carry on your own. You are born alone, and no one can rely on you, not even your loved ones.

Xi'an Railway Station during the Spring Festival. Under the falling snow, a middle-aged man sat on the side of the road, coughing constantly.

He took out the prepared bread and ate it slowly.

But while eating, he suddenly lowered his head, and tears fell on his hands together with snowflakes.

This man burst into tears at a busy station.

A long, long time passed like this.

At the moment when the snow stopped, he wiped away his tears, cheered up and went home.

After the despair that was pierced by thousands of arrows, he still picked up his broken heart, put on his strong armor again, and continued to face life.

Yes, instead of escaping loneliness, it is better to face loneliness and life firmly.

This is the middle-aged man who still has the confidence to fight after crying loudly in the lonely night; when no one talks to him, he can still be his own shoulder.

Because he believes that after every night of singing and crying, the sun will still rise tomorrow.

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