Can raising children prevent old age?

My uncle and aunt worked hard all their lives, building a house and marrying an only child, and spent all their savings. I thought raising children to prevent old age, but I didn't expect my old son to do such a thing to them.

When my uncle and aunt got married, it was in the late 1970s. At that time, my grandfather's family was very poor, and there was no wedding room. After getting married, they were crowded into my grandparents' old house. It was a low-rise tile house with yellow mud on the wall, dim light and narrow space. My aunt thinks she must have a house of her own.

In order to build a house of their own, uncles and aunts work in the fields from dawn to dusk every day. They sell their own crops, such as sugar cane and vegetables, and take their own pigs and chickens out for money, but they can't save much money all year round.

In the early 1980s, my uncle and aunt had two thousand yuan and decided to build a house. At that time, a few thousand dollars was enough to build a house, so my uncle and aunt spent five or six thousand dollars to build a new house with brick structure. Of course, the insufficient money is slowly owed.

My uncle originally had two sons, but the younger son fell into the river at the door and was flooded when he was four years old, so the couple pinned all their hopes on the older son. However, the eldest son is not easy to stand up from an early age. Although introverted, but stubborn and rebellious, so there is no shortage of uncle's belt.

Finally, when his son came of age, his uncle and aunt asked the matchmaker to tell him about his marriage. Auntie's criteria for choosing a daughter-in-law are correct facial features and tall. So, my cousin went on a blind date with a girl from a neighboring village through the introduction of the matchmaker.

That girl is very handsome, with a picture 165. My cousin took a fancy to her at a glance, so he gave her a bride price of 50 thousand and married her into the house. In the 1990s, there were a lot of bride price, 50,000 yuan, which was the savings of uncles and aunts for many years.

I thought it was a great achievement for my daughter-in-law to get married. I can breathe a sigh of relief, but the bitter days of my uncle and aunt have just begun.

At first, my aunt felt satisfied that she had married a beautiful daughter-in-law at home, and she felt proud in front of relatives and neighbors. However, gradually, I heard my mother say that my cousin is afraid of his wife, his uncle and aunt are afraid of suffering at home and so on.

It is said that the daughter-in-law forgets her mother, and the cousin is such a man. Since they got married, they have done nothing but hide in their rooms every day. My uncles and aunts are very busy every day, and my son and daughter-in-law never help, but they all make ends meet.

Cousin bought fruit and brought it directly to his wife's room. He never gave it to his uncle and aunt. Not counting this, my daughter-in-law also thinks that the dishes cooked by my aunt are not delicious, either light or salty, and all kinds of picky.

But even so, menstruation can only submit to humiliation. After all, I chose my daughter-in-law, and I spent a lot of money to marry her. What can I do but endure? I just hope she will have two grandchildren soon so that they can carry on the family line.

A year later, my daughter-in-law gave birth to a fat grandson, and my aunt was happy from ear to ear. That is a loyal servant. I almost didn't think of her as the empress dowager. My aunt feels that as long as she has a grandson, she will not complain about all other hardships.

My aunt felt that a son was too lonely because she lost one, so she said that she must have two grandchildren anyway. She said that her daughter-in-law only gave birth, and she helped to carry it.

The next year, my daughter-in-law gave birth to another grandson, and my aunt was very satisfied. Besides working at home and abroad, I have to help my daughter-in-law take care of her grandchildren every day. My aunt likes her two grandchildren so much that she is afraid of losing them in her hands and melting them in her mouth.

At the end of 1990s, it was the tide of working that started, and all the young people in the village went out to work. When they got home, they all said that the money outside was easy to make. Cousins and young couples were also moved. As soon as husband and wife are married, why not leave their children with their parents and go out to make money by themselves?

So, cousins threw their two sons to uncles and aunts, and they went out to work. My aunt thought it was better than two people sitting at home doing nothing every day, so she agreed.

Cousins go out to work, only go home once a year, and never send a penny home. All the expenses of the two sons are borne by my aunt. Although my aunt has some opinions, she thinks her grandson is the fragrance of her family. Didn't she work hard all her life for them?

20 10 during the construction of new countryside, the whole village moved to the provincial highway in the town. Because the village is flooded every year, the villagers move collectively. My uncle also built a three-story villa covering an area of 150 square meters on the edge of the provincial road in the town, but they built it for their son, and the old couple still live in the village.

My aunt took two grandchildren from toddler to junior high school graduation, which can be said to be painstaking. For so many years, my cousin didn't give a penny. Instead, she went back to her hometown and ate her parents' meal. My aunt thinks her son's grandson's is her own. Anyway, her son is raising her when she is old, and she doesn't feel wrong.

On 20 15, my cousins ended their working life, returned to their hometown and opened a billiards room in the town. The two sons didn't want to go to school after graduating from junior high school, so they managed the billiards room with their cousins. My uncles and aunts felt relieved at last, but what my daughter-in-law did to them completely chilled them.

Although my uncle built a spacious three-story building by the provincial road, it was for my cousin. My uncle and aunt usually take care of them, and they don't live there. They still live in the brick house they built in the village before. Because there are vegetable fields and rivers, it is very convenient to grow vegetables and wash clothes at ordinary times. Besides, I've lived my whole life and I'm used to it.

After my cousin came back, the family lived in a new house, and my aunt sent her own chicken vegetables and eggs to my cousin's house every three days. But my aunt never eats at my cousin's house because her daughter-in-law thinks she is dirty. My aunt works at home and abroad all the year round, but she doesn't have a decent dress. In summer, she is barefoot and covered in mud.

Every time she goes to her cousin's house, she puts the food on the first floor and doesn't go upstairs for fear of polluting her cousin's house. Once, my grandson saw her and asked her to sit in the living room on the second floor. She was just about to go up when her daughter-in-law scolded her son and asked him to help in the billiards room. My aunt stood awkwardly for a while and went back, and my daughter-in-law didn't leave her.

20 18 before the Dragon Boat Festival, it rained heavily for several days and the village was flooded again. There are only two or three families in the village, and both of them were taken to the new house by their children to avoid disaster. My uncle and aunt thought my cousin would pick them up, but they waited all day and didn't even call.

Seeing that it was getting dark and the rain was still falling, my uncle said to my aunt:

; Let's go out when possible. If there is a flood at night, we can't get out.

So, two 60-year-old men helped each other, braved the heavy rain, crossed knee-deep water, walked out of the village one foot deep and one foot shallow, and went to my cousin's house. My cousin was eating when he saw his uncle and aunt standing at the door in wet clothes. Uncle said:

; Our house is flooded, so if we are afraid of floods in the future, we will come to your house for a few days and go back when the water recedes.

My cousin didn't speak, my cousin said:

; Don't tell me if you want to come. Go to the bathroom to wash and change before you come out.

Uncle and aunt heard that the daughter-in-law could take them in, nodded, and went into the bathroom to wash and put on the clothes they brought. My cousin invited them to the table for dinner. My cousin had a straight face and 10 thousand unhappy expressions.

After dinner, my aunt helped clean up the dishes and chopsticks, and cleaned the restaurant and kitchen. My cousin made a room for them on the first floor and let them stay for a few days.

After living in my cousin's house for two days, my aunt's hands and feet were not idle, and she did all the housework, but my cousin was still unhappy and scolded, and my cousin dared not speak for her uncle and aunt for fear of offending her daughter-in-law.

My aunt can't stay any longer, but although the rain has stopped, the water has not completely receded, so I have to submit to humiliation and continue to live in my cousin's house. But because of a little thing, my cousin actually threw my uncle and aunt's things outside the door and told them to get out.

It was the morning of the third day when I lived in my cousin's house. After dinner, my aunt cleaned up the dishes as usual, but because the kitchen floor was too wet, my aunt slipped and smashed a pile of dishes in her hand.

My cousin heard the noise and ran out of the living room to have a look. She scolded her on the spot and said, you old man, you are really useless. You only know how to make things difficult for others.

Aunt was daughter-in-law scold tears, just replied:

; I'll pay for the bowl. how much is it? But don't be so ugly, everyone will get old.

Cousin dared to talk back to her aunt, which made her even angrier. She pulled her cousin out of the bedroom and let him judge her. Cousin has always been a hen-pecked wife. As soon as she listened to her daughter-in-law, she scolded her aunt. My uncle couldn't stand it anymore, so he came over and said a few words about my cousin. This is terrible. My cousin jumped up and scolded my uncle and aunt and told them to get out at once.

After listening to his daughter-in-law, my cousin ran into the room directly, took out my uncle's and aunt's things, threw them outside the door and told them to get out.

Aunt tearful, thrilling, cried to the cousin:

; If I had known you were such a baiwenhang, I shouldn't have built you a house and taken care of your children. Now that we are old and useless, we are left alone, and our conscience has been eaten by dogs.

Uncle and aunt packed their things and walked home through the mud. Fortunately, the water receded and the ground was exposed. The two old people came home, cleaned the surroundings and settled down.

Since this incident, my uncles and aunts have been very cold. Think about your life's hard work, build a house for your son and take care of your grandchildren, and spend all your money and energy on them. In the end, I not only didn't get their gratitude, but also swept myself out of the house.

My uncle and aunt realized that it is a joke for my son to provide for the aged, and money in his hand is king. But when I realized it, I was old and broke. what can I do?

However, just when my uncle and aunt gave up completely and wanted to break up with my son's family, something happened to my cousin's family, which completely changed the attitude of my cousin and his wife and made them filial children and grandchildren.

It was half a year later, my cousin suddenly called my uncle in the middle of the night and said that something had happened to my cousin, and she was rolling in bed with pain, vomiting and diarrhea. My uncle thought of his heartless son and daughter-in-law. He didn't want to talk to him at first, but he softened when he heard his son's anxious voice.

Uncle said: don't worry, take her to the hospital first, and I'll come later.

My uncle woke up my aunt, and two people rode a tricycle to the town hospital in the middle of the night. The town hospital said they couldn't see it, so they were transferred to the city hospital. So, I was sent to the city hospital overnight, and the next day, after various examinations, the doctor said it was enteritis, which was very serious and needed hospitalization for surgery.

Two days without surgery, my cousin still vomited and diarrhea, and the whole person lost weight. Cousin is busy with the billiards room at home and can't be in the hospital all the time. I can only keep my aunt in front of the hospital bed every day. When I am sleepy, I will lie down. My uncle ran up and down to find a doctor and brought rice with him. The two old people stayed in the hospital for more than half a month before they cured their cousin.

After returning home, my cousin can't work. Menstruation ran to her cousin's house to wash clothes and cook for her uncle and herself. Cousin saw that her aunt was so busy every day that she asked her aunt to take her uncle over together. The family lived together without her aunt running at both ends.

My uncle moved in, and the old couple took care of my cousin and helped them with housework. My cousin never mentioned them again. My cousin once bought two sets of clothes for her uncle and aunt and said to them:

; Dad, mom, we were wrong and ungrateful before. Thank you this time. We will live here together for a long time in the future, and we will treat you well.

When my aunt heard her daughter-in-law's words, her eyes were red and she said, Let bygones be bygones. It's useless to blame us two old things. When we get old, it will add to your burden.

; Mom, stop talking. My mother died young, and you have been my real mother ever since. My cousin said emotionally.

Since then, my uncle and aunt have moved to my cousin's house to help them do some housework. My uncle also planted some vegetables, which saved my cousin a lot of money. Now uncles and aunts praise their cousins for their filial piety and are sensible to everyone. Through my uncle, aunt and cousin, I also got the following points:

No matter how many sons you have, don't have the idea of raising children for old age. Children will come into this world only with the help of our bodies. They have their own lives. What we can do is to cultivate them and give them the ability to stand on their own feet. We can give our sons some guidance and help when they are still incapable, but we can never give them everything, let alone raise a neet.

Because uncles and aunts only have one son, their thoughts are their own and their sons', so that they do everything for their sons, and they don't let their sons suffer, and they don't let their sons understand that a happy life can only be realized by their own hands.

It is easy to have children, but difficult to educate them. Therefore, as soon as a child is born, he must be educated well, let the child know what his parents have done, be grateful for his parents' efforts, and honor his parents when he can. Crows still know how to feed back, let alone people? Therefore, how your child treats you when he grows up depends on whether you are properly educated during his growth.

Uncle and aunt have no culture, and the way to educate their sons is to beat and scold. During my cousin's adolescence, he had rebellious thoughts. His uncles and aunts don't know how to communicate, nor do they know how to guide and educate their children in the right way. They just slapped him with a belt, which is why my cousin threw his uncles and aunts' things outside the door and told them to get out. Parents are children's photocopiers, and only when they do it themselves can children follow suit.

No matter whether the children live well or not, they should keep the money for old-age care. Only money can bring you a sense of security, and money is king. Children have their own families and have to raise children. There is great pressure. Try not to burden them when they are old. Only when you own your own house and have a pension will you not become a burden to your children when you are old.

The biggest mistake of uncles and aunts is the concept of raising children to prevent old age. They always feel that they spend all their money and energy on their cousins, and when they get old, they will naturally support them in turn. In fact, cousins saw that uncles and aunts were useless and couldn't help them, so they began to dislike them and drove them out.

Conclusion:

No matter what your children's financial conditions are, you must remember that at any time, only money is the most reliable, raising children for old age is the biggest joke, and only money in your hand is king.

If it weren't for my cousin's illness, my uncle and aunt suddenly realized that they had a hard time in their later years, so although they finally made up, in any case, living under the roof of their children is far less rich than their own hands.