Kindergarten daughters, parents' jokes, adults.

Parenting is a long process, and it is still a very complicated thing for many new parents like me.

Kindergarten has a parent-teacher conference every semester, and I am nervous and looking forward to it every time in the first two years. Even if I have the opportunity, I want to talk to anyone related to kindergarten about my daughter's situation in kindergarten, and I don't want to let go of any details.

With the increase of enrollment time, this kind of worry has gradually faded, and every time I pick up my children, it is just a simple greeting.

Yesterday, at the last parent-teacher meeting in kindergarten, everyone began to worry about the adaptability and various problems of children after entering primary school.

The mother next to me, to be honest, I haven't seen her for three years, and I thought she was the mother of a new classmate this semester.

After a few commonplaces, I realized that it was the mother of a little girl in the class, and told me that her child was procrastinating, staying up at night and getting up in the morning.

In fact, I was deeply impressed by this girl, mainly because picking up her grandmother impressed me deeply. The old man is over 60 years old, with white hair. The most important thing is that sometimes he holds a small one in his arms and comes to the kindergarten to pick up the children.

The mother next to her said that she was very busy at work, her father was in Xi 'an, and only she and her mother were in Yanliang with their two children.

I instantly admired her courage, and suddenly it was difficult to understand her children and grandmother.

Han Han said: the so-called love is companionship, and there is not much else!

My daughter is unhappy every day after her father went on a business trip for two days, because she lacks her father's company.

On such a busy day for parents, the only time children can see is at night. How can she go to bed early? The lack of companionship has never been satisfied, and children are naturally unwilling.

Three mothers at a table are discussing with each other how to solve the problem of procrastination.

Our family members are relatively simple. My father, my daughter and I have a fixed schedule because our daughter is 9 months old. At bedtime, the whole family washes, turns off the lights, listens to stories and goes to bed. My daughter won't delay in this matter, and she is used to it.

In fact, many times it is not that children have bad habits, that children are procrastinating, but that we as parents have no self-discipline. Suddenly thought of a joke:

Two children are chatting.

A child said: Why do adults never picky about food?

Another child replied: because adults never buy food they don't like!

Hit the nail on the head.

We always ask our children to do this and that, but can we do it ourselves? When you get home, you play with your mobile phone, stay up at midnight, and think about how your child can convince you.

Another mother said she had an idea!

For children, just two o'clock.

First, if you do a good thing, such as a teacher's praise, or do something that makes me happy, you will meet the children's requirements.

One more thing: if you make me angry, or anything I think is wrong, then nothing can satisfy you. Besides, I will never forgive you, never forgive you.

The mother said that the more so, the more the child loves her, and the more she talks, the more willing the child is to listen.

In my opinion, this is undoubtedly an emotional kidnapping. A child of five or six years old is so young that everything depends on you, so naturally he has to listen to you. Children are very dependent on their parents at such a young age. In her mind, parents are the most important people. Once you say you'll never forgive her, she won't dare, no matter what. For the weak, this consequence is beyond her capacity, and neither can she!

However, I don't know if this mother ever thought that this method would still be effective several years after the child grew up and became more and more independent. I'm afraid the sequelae are difficult. When children grow up, her values are that they are cute only when they are useful to others. In such a competitive society, how can she be brave enough to be herself? Her childhood experience told her that everything depends on the approval of others, not to mention happiness.

At least, in my opinion, I can't think about putting children through this!

I will be angry if she is unreasonable, but I will insist on telling her that even so, I love her, and I will not hate him or like her because she has done something wrong.

I want my daughter to know that mom and dad love her forever, not because she is so excellent and charming, but because she is our daughter!

But that doesn't mean I let her go.

When my daughter was two years old, I felt that my education method could not keep up. After reading the positive discipline recommended by friends, I feel that I have benefited a lot, but I can always be firm but not gentle!

Until now, I slowly realized: gentle and firm power.

Perhaps only as parents can we constantly strive to improve ourselves and create a better atmosphere for children's growth!

Only when the heart is truly peaceful can we solve the problem peacefully!

I love my children, and I believe all parents love their children! Our love should be pure love, not to bear our unfulfilled ideals, not to load our hopes of life, not to highlight the importance of our own lives, as Hassan wrote in the song "For My Children":

You are not my hope.

You are your own hope.

My unfulfilled dream is still mine.

It's none of your business, so let them have nothing to do with you.

……

All this time, I don't want to admit it

In fact, we are all miracles in the sense of life.

I just think that the future will not be more important than the present.

You and I can only be part of each other's lives.

But I love you, my child.

I love you, that's all.

Yes, I love you, my child, that's all!