Why choose death?

Many people will feel how wonderful it is to live, but why do some people choose to die? Why choose the following death? I brought it to you. I hope it can help you.

He can choose to live, but why will he die in the end?

From a psychological point of view, there are roughly three forces at work: living in the present, every minute is unbearable; Looking ahead, the road is long and Xiu Yuan is awkward, only despair and fear; Look around, no one is with you, only the wind is whistling. It may be his best choice to explain to himself and his family.

Acheng who has no intention of living.

On the National Day, an amazing short message exploded among junior high school students: Acheng died at the age of 33. I thought it was a black joke like April Fool's Day, and I tried to prove it one by one. Neighbor classmates went to his house and heard a wail in the distance. A large crowd gathered at the door. In the hall, on the floor covered with sheets, a person was lying quietly, sleeping quietly, and the scar on his left face was particularly dazzling? It's Acheng. On the balcony outside the door, coffins are being made, and the smell of new paint mixed with rosin is floating in the air, which stimulates everyone.

Chin, I can't remember what I look like. Three years in junior high school, little contact, and little contact after school. However, due to the similar age, the classmates fought and suddenly left, which was somewhat shocking. I heard that I borrowed a lot of usury from playing cards and was forced to pay it back by a gang of gangsters every day. I was in a state of anxiety, exhausted physically and mentally, and gradually unwilling to live. Thinking about the past and the future, it is better to die than to live with a snowball of huge debts for free. As for parents and children, they are too busy to attend to, so let nature take its course.

After contacting the psychological counseling industry, I will unconsciously try to figure out what his daily psychology is and what kind of struggle he is making from the moment he makes up his mind to his death. Imagine that his heart has roughly gone through three stages:

In the first stage, I didn't want to face the reality and felt a little lucky.

Borrowed a part of usury, the amount should not be too much, but you have to sell your car and house to pay it off. In this way, a young general will have no place under the tile. Once he sought the support of his family, he declared his complete failure, which he could not face and bear. In this case, he still has a lifeline in his heart: take another gamble and win it back with interest. This seems to be the probability of minimum risk and maximum win. According to Murphy's law, it is doomed to the end: people who are eager to make profits often lose all their principal. Unfortunately, the second time I came down from the gambling game, I was not only penniless, but also added a large amount of usury, which should be several times that of the first time. The amount of principal and interest can cover all the income of rural people who have worked hard for several generations. At this point, his first stage has been completed, regret the pain? Afraid of failure? Bet again.

Go to the second stage, unwilling to give up efforts and seek support.

The usury is like a spell, which makes him breathless. He tried to drill a crack and ran around looking for various possibilities: negotiating with the lender, reducing interest and relaxing the repayment time limit; Seek the support of brothers and friends to solve urgent needs; He ran to the temple at the top of his hometown, begging for Buddha and showing him the way. He tried many methods, but with little effect. As a last resort, he pinned his last hope on the people closest to him: he decided to tell his family the truth. As he expected, feedback from his family was endless. Anger, accusations, complaints and disappointments, after all the emotions are vented, will enter a short period of calm, and the family will sit down and consider ways to solve or escape: either go out to work to avoid debts and come back in three to five years; Either sell the garage and borrow a sum of money to pay off the usury; Or move out and start over. Running alone, making the old and the young threatened every day? Sell everything and live on the street? Borrow another sum. With fame, who will borrow it? As for immigrants, this is where generations have lived. Move to where? All the entanglements and anxieties are gnawing at him every minute, and there is no moment of peace. In the dead of night, when tossing and turning, a vague idea jumped out from the crack in the bone.

At this point, he took the third step:

Unable to bear the pain, he decided to die and get rid of it.

When he decided to say goodbye to all the entanglements and anxieties now, he gained unprecedented peace and a little pleasure. As usual, he boarded the WeChat group of junior high school students, spoke with water, and said while grabbing a red envelope that if I left, I would give him three wooden drums, make a Dojo, sing an evening performance and send him off enthusiastically. The group laughed and laughed, and no one took it seriously. It was 5: 30 pm on National Day. At six o'clock, after arranging everything, he opened the poisonous pesticide as usual and drank a whole bottle.

People often say that there is life and death, but it is not enough to count the people at the foot of the mountain to expect the monks in the temple at the top of the mountain to meditate all the year round. What kind of disaster will there be? He can choose to live, but why will he die in the end? From a psychological point of view, there are roughly three forces at work: living in the present, every minute is unbearable; Looking ahead, the road is long and Xiu Yuan is awkward, only despair and fear; Look around, no one is with you, only the wind is whistling. It may be his best choice to explain to himself and his family.

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