For the wedding ceremony, my husband's family was found filling a newspaper in a red envelope for tea. What was the result?

Marriage and love are two completely different emotional ways. Love is more infatuation caused by passion collision, while marriage is a mutual trust and inclusive integration. When a couple enters the marriage hall, they must trust each other. In the process of talking about marriage, both parties must be honest, so as to better manage their marriage in the future.

Although it is a well-known truth to trust each other and understand each other, there will always be new people who make mistakes in the process of talking about marriage. Since we want to be a family, we must reach an understanding on some principled issues, so as not to bury the knot for our married life. Even if there are some difficulties or problems now, you should honestly explain them to each other.

After all, marriage is not a matter for one person, but for both husband and wife and even two families. Sometimes, some self-righteous cleverness can be concealed for a while, but it will leave permanent scars in people's hearts. Instead of calculating and guessing each other in marriage, it is better to express your opinions generously and plan carefully with each other in order to live a happy life in the future.

Marriage needs to be managed. Don't hide or even cheat each other in the name of love. This is not a reason to get married smoothly, but an excuse to satisfy your own interests. Only a marriage that treats each other honestly is complete. Once you choose to calculate for your own interests, love will lose its original meaning, and the trust between the two sides will be in jeopardy. This kind of marriage is no longer the purest appearance, and it is very likely that the two sides will part ways and cause irreparable consequences. A marriage with a test will be consumed by contradictions and eventually separate.

There is no regret medicine in the world. The only thing we can do is to be honest. Don't haggle over every ounce for temporary interests. Win your partner's trust with your sincerity and generosity, and work together to create a happy marriage. Don't try to deal with each other through small tricks. Marriage is the basis of trust. Since what you promised should be done, you should not break the contract for the benefit. When you break the contract, you not only lose the love of the other party, but also lose the most basic integrity.

I wrote this article because a reader told me what happened when I was a bridesmaid. After four years of long-distance love, her best friend finally moved towards the palace of marriage. On a well-chosen day, the original lively wedding scene turned into a farce because the tea-offering red envelope given by her husband's family was stuffed with newspapers. The bride said on the spot that the marriage was not married, and it was a pity that the original loving couple parted ways overnight.

This reader's best friend Xiao Xu, that is, the bride, runs a clothing factory at home and is engaged in foreign trade business. Family conditions are not rich and expensive, but they are better than the average person. Xiao Xu and the groom Xiao Zhang met and fell in love from college. Xiao Zhang's parents are both employees, and their family conditions are ordinary. After graduation, Xiao Zhang started a hot pot restaurant with friends, while Xiao Xu taught in a primary school. Xiao Zhang, who just started to open a shop, is usually not well off, and Xiao Xu doesn't mind and has always supported him. When the business of the store was on the right track, the two put the marriage on the agenda.

Xiao Zhang and Xiao Xu have known each other since college, and they have been together for four years. It is normal for them to get married as soon as their lives have settled down. The two also have a good emotional foundation, and the economy is stable. They soon met their parents, and both families were happy to see it, and they were ready to arrange the wedding quickly. Xiao Zhang's family is ordinary, because he started a business just after graduation, and he has invested a lot in his family. Xiao Xu also understands that all the bride price and three gold can go through a process, and the two families will bear half of the cost of the wedding. This lightened the burden on Xiao Zhang's family, and the two families soon negotiated and began to organize the wedding.

It is reasonable to say that two people should get married smoothly, but when Xiao Xu takes a wedding photo and books a hotel to buy furniture, he wants the best, looks good on his face, and wants to get married in style. Even if the cost of the wedding is half that of the two families, the Xiao Zhang family has spent a lot of money. I can think that Xiao Xu is a good boy and really likes Xiao Zhang, so Xiao Zhang's parents will bear it. When it comes to the details of the wedding, the two families have differences.

Xiao Xu said that the red envelope for tea worship must be 11 yuan in cash, which is a good sign of "one in a million", and receiving a big red envelope in front of the guests can also show the importance attached to the bride and look good. The little Zhang family thinks that this is to win the lottery. It can be stuffed with more or less in the red envelope, and it can't be seen outside. Xiao Xu advised Xiao Zhang to say, "I can't compare how many tens of thousands of jewels other people have bought when they get married, but can't you give me a big red envelope in front of so many guests?" I didn't want anything from your family when I married you. Can't I just save face and make a good sign? "

Xiao Zhang's parents feel a little distressed to pay another 1, yuan. Why should it be so serious when it is obviously a formality? What's more, his family is not as good as Xiao Xu's, and he has already spent a lot on starting a business for Xiao Zhang. Now it is really unnecessary to spend another 1, yuan for a tea red envelope. Anyway, the red envelope is sealed. Just put a newspaper in it, and the package is thicker. From the appearance alone, no one can tell whether the red envelope is filled with paper or money.

and Xiao Xu won't say it in front of the guests even if he thinks it's wrong, just to save face, so this red envelope thing is over. Xiao Zhang originally wanted to discuss it with Xiao Xu again. After listening to his parents' ideas, he acquiesced in his parents' behavior.

The wedding day is coming soon. Everything is going smoothly in wedding date. Xiao Zhang went home immediately after receiving Xiao Xu. At her husband's house, Xiao Xu offered tea to her parents-in-law. The mother-in-law took out the "red envelope" that had been prepared long ago and handed it to Xiao Xu: "This is a good daughter-in-law in a million."

Xiao Xu happily took it. As soon as she got the red envelope, her face cooled down: "Grandma, why is this red envelope so light?" "The words sound just fell and before her mother-in-law could explain, Xiao Xu opened the red envelope and found that it was actually a newspaper.

at this moment, Xiao Xu was unhappy: "Did I get a newspaper instead of the 1,-dollar red envelope I promised? I don't want this 1 thousand either. Isn't the wedding day just a good draw? Do you really think that I will suffer this loss in front of guests? "

My mother-in-law's fake red envelope was uncovered, and she was humiliated, and her tone was not good: "Isn't it just that the bag is thicker and the face is decent?" You want that 1 thousand, I'll give you the money right away "Xiao Zhang also persuaded Xiao Xu:" Mom didn't mean to. Look at the red envelope so thick. If you don't say who can tell, you won't save yourself face if you say it! I'm still married today, stop it! "

Xiao Xu felt even more wronged. Did he do it for the ten thousand dollars? This red envelope is a good face. Since it has been agreed, it should be done, instead of accepting the red envelope stuffed with newspapers and eating this dumb loss, knowing that you like what Xiao Zhang won't say. I have been giving in to everything since I prepared for the wedding. This fake red envelope simply doesn't value myself. Now you can make a fake red envelope. What can you do in your life?

thinking of this, Xiao Xu cried and said, "I won't get married!" " Say that finish and run outside. The family also felt that Xiao Zhang was dishonest and didn't stop Xiao Zhang from chasing him. The marriage did not form, and the two families also misunderstood.

how can a happy wedding be like this? Was it only because of a red envelope for tea that the loving two sides parted? To sum up, it is still not honest.

Is the bride Xu asking too much? It's not too much. When a girl marries, it's really no problem to want to get married with a beautiful face. Is the little Zhang family wrong? You don't have to be so careful about going through the motions. You just have to be decent, and that's right.

but the mistake is that the two sides have not communicated well. If Xiao Zhang had talked to Xiao Xu earlier and expressed his family's meaning, Xiao Xu might have understood. On the contrary, if Xiao Xu says this is very important, he must pay in cash, and Xiao Zhang will also take out cash-filled red envelopes. The mistake is that Xiao Zhangjia thinks that Xiao Xu doesn't care, has a good face, and wants to deal with the big things in Xiao Xu's heart hastily.

Xiao Zhang didn't tell Xiao Xu clearly in advance, which led to a tragic scene at the wedding. Xiao Xu lost his trust in Xiao Zhang and thought that Xiao Zhang's family had calculated her. It's really embarrassing that two people who are predestined friends will never see each other again.

if I had known today, why should I have? Had I been honest, Xiao Zhang and Xiao Xu would have had different endings. The two sides have feelings and can come together, but they are influenced by different ideas and make an irreversible choice. The trust established between two people collapsed, leaving only a chicken feather, which is difficult to end.

At this point in the story, everyone must have thought about it. Since you have made a promise, you must do it, instead of deceiving others through small calculations and cleverness, and making a regrettable choice just for the sake of temporary interests.

There are always all kinds of small frictions and disputes in the stage of talking about marriage. Marriage and love are different after all, and they will need to be coordinated after all. And trust is the cornerstone to support them to continue. Only when they support each other and understand each other can they build a beautiful marriage life. It is a pity that the bride and groom in the story are separated because of the collapse of trust.

No matter what problems you encounter on the way to talk about marriage, you should be frank with the other party. Only communication and understanding can strengthen the trust between the two parties and increase the chances of them coming together. There are lovers everywhere in the world, and couples who can rely on each other all their lives when they go to the marriage hall, who have not accumulated their feelings for each other from daily life, from simple love to an indispensable part? Since we have chosen to get married, we should consider the long term, tolerate each other with our own generosity and generosity, and open a new chapter for a happy married life.