What should I do if my child is too naive and careless?

The child is now a teenager. He is straight-forward when talking and doing things. He does not understand, is short-sighted, and is very annoying. That's because you haven't cultivated your children since childhood. Emotional intelligence is more important than IQ. A scheming child will grow up to be calm, capable, and have high emotional intelligence. When parents hear the word scheming, they think they are teaching their children bad things.

The word scheming is not a derogatory term. On the contrary, scheming is an excellent quality when used in the right way. It represents: wisdom, ability, and strategy.

Think about it, if your personality was always straightforward, you must be outspoken now. I have been cautious about my words and deeds since I was a child. You must be calm and collected when you grow up.

Liu Bei has no scheming, how can he be equal to Cao Cao and divide the world?

Zhuge Liang has no scheming, how can he defeat Cao Cao by burning Red Cliff and make Zhou Yu angry to death?

Liu Bang has no scheming, no matter how good he is, he can defeat Xiang Yu and become the emperor as a ruffian.

People who have scheming are calm, calm and not panicked when encountering big events.

On the other hand, people who are not scheming are straightforward, irritable, impulsive, and narrow-minded. They tend to offend others and are unlikely to achieve great things. So the ability of scheming needs to be grasped from childhood. So how to cultivate children's scheming from an early age? The following ten items are recommended to be forwarded to your children.

1. You don’t need to tell too many truths to unimportant people, and you don’t need to tell your secrets to important people. Don't tell others about your past, and don't tell others about your future plans. You can share some little secrets appropriately to gain the trust of others.

2. Learn to listen more and express less. Listen first, speak later. Don't express too many opinions against others. If you don't like people and things, choose to shut up. You must not say extreme remarks, and remember that disaster comes from your mouth.

3. For some people and things, if you don’t want to answer, just smile. Try not to judge others, let alone talk about others behind their backs. If you want to say something, be sure to say good things, whether it is against your will or not. There is no cost in praising others.

4. Don’t agree to other people’s requests easily. Don’t talk too much. Don’t say that I can definitely help you. Just rest assured. Your business is my business. Don’t try to show off. . Don't make promises easily, the promises you make are the debts you owe.

5. Don’t make decisions too easily, especially major decisions. I should think about it first and weigh the pros and cons before making a decision. Once I make a decision, I won’t change it easily.

6. To be an emotionally stable person, you must learn not to show your emotions in front of others. When you meet someone you don't like, don't show disgust. When you meet someone you like, don't be too enthusiastic. Many people are good at pretending, and you should also know how to disguise yourself.

7. Don’t show off, be low-key and humble, learn to hide your true strength, don’t say you are great, don’t be humble, say you are bad at everything, and be a very ordinary person.

8. Maintain your own sense of mystery and avoid being caught in your weaknesses. Try not to complain. When you complain, others will know your weaknesses. Take any bitterness to your heart, know how to adapt, and don't take advantage of others.

9. Observe more, think more, pay more attention to details, learn to observe words and expressions from details, learn to read other people's expressions, and decide whether this should be said and whether this should be done.

10. Try your best to make your head and body stronger and better. Only when you become better can you control your own destiny.