Mother will always be the backbone of the family.

Many years ago, I asked my father who was in charge in our family.

Father smiled, and then said unnaturally, your mother and I.

If I ask my father the same question now, he will answer bluntly: Your mother cares.

It's not that my father is old enough to admit this now, but decades of factual experience. Besides, it's not a shame to admit that your wife is more capable than yourself. It is a man's tolerance.

1?

There is an old saying that "I would rather have a beggar's mother than an official's father", which means that when I can only choose one, I would rather choose a penniless mother to live than an official's father, which shows the weight of a mother in the eyes of my children.

Besides, my father is just a civilian, and my mother is not begging in the street. On the contrary, my mother is very capable and superior to my father in many ways.

At that time, in the production team, my father scored 8 points and only did some farm work that was physically competent, while my mother was equal to the labor force (young and middle-aged) in the team. One day's farm work, she got 10 (the highest score). Not only did the whole production team look at her with new eyes, but even the leaders of the brigade and rural cadres praised her greatly.

Digging, harrowing plough, carrying loads, and spraying pesticides; Cutting rice, threshing, transplanting rice, bundling grass, and building a bean shed (a shelf for drying beans); Raising rice seeds, fertilizing and carrying sacks; My mother is good at repairing canals, picking earthwork, paving stones, and engaging in farmland capital construction, and never falls behind.

Whether it is hot or cold, monsoon rains is open all year round. As long as I go out to work, I will pay more than others. I will choose dirty work. My mother will win a good reputation for herself with her hands and wisdom.

At that time, the village instructed the brigade to organize the establishment of an agricultural scientific research experimental group to engage in scientific farming. My mother believes it, has no culture and dare not expect it. I didn't expect the team leader to be a mother in person, not only invited her to participate in the scientific research experimental group, but also appointed her as the deputy team leader.

This matter, not to mention the mother, even the father's face is full of brilliance, because only 8 people in the whole brigade 100 were selected, and the mother was the only woman.

One year when the mountain was opened (firewood cutting was not allowed during the closing of the mountain to facilitate afforestation), all the team members could go up the mountain to cut firewood (firewood stoves were burned in those years).

Because it is necessary to count the total amount of firewood cut by the whole team, the firewood cut must be weighed and counted by a scale before it can be transported home.

Because there is only one chance to go up the mountain to cut wood every year, every household attaches great importance to it. The whole family mobilized, and everyone let go. They choose firewood that can't cut wood, help them sort out the cut firewood and tie it up with brown rope.

The quiet mountain forest suddenly became lively.

Mom and dad are chopping wood in the same place. Mother first picked up the bundled firewood from the mountain and weighed it.

When two bundles of firewood were put on the scale, the person who weighed it really got a fright. He looked at weighing scale carefully, and it was 220 Jin.

The people present at that time were in an uproar. Surprisingly, an ordinary woman can lift a burden of 220 Jin from a steep cliff. Many young people can't compare with how much effort it takes.

Of course, neither can my father, but my mother can.

Since then, the mother's "strong" reputation has spread like wildfire.

? ? 2?

Perhaps because of my father, I always feel that grandparents prefer uncles and aunts, including cousins.

When I was a child, I saw my grandmother stuffing food for my cousin behind our backs several times. I told my mother about it. Although my mother didn't say anything at that time, I could see her resentment from the expression on her face.

Later, grandma had a stroke, couldn't walk, and collapsed on the ground. The whole family was at a loss in the face of this sudden change, and so were her father and uncle.

Mother was very calm and said, since things have happened, let's go with what happened.

Let dad go to the countryside to ask a doctor, make the bed, and put grandma to bed with his family. I also arranged for someone to buy a spittoon toilet. Because grandma needs someone to take care of her urine at night, my mother slept in grandma's room the night before after discussing with everyone.

A family illness without warning was arranged in an orderly way by the mother, and the family's heart was no longer so flustered.

It wasn't long before the family production quotas settled down, and there was too much farm work in the field. My mother was busy in the field, and then she came back to do housework. She also has to bring tea and water to her grandmother who is paralyzed in bed and change clothes and quilts.

Mother herself has always been very particular about hygiene, and she has also kept grandma's bed tidy, without any wrinkles and stains. During grandma's paralysis in bed, the bed was always clean.

Unexpectedly, grandma lay down for three months and left.

Before leaving, grandma took her mother's hand and said that she was ashamed of her mother. A bowl of water was not flat and she was not a competent elder. Hearing this, my mother choked up and couldn't even speak.

Grandpa's life became a problem after grandma left. Grandpa can't cook by himself. Grandma used to wait on grandpa and get used to the life of hot dishes, hot meals and hot soup.

Father asked grandpa to come to our house for dinner in the future, and grandpa looked reluctant.

My mother knew grandpa's worry, because she was afraid of causing too much trouble to our family (my father and my uncle separated in the early years), so she proposed to take turns eating at two houses (my house and my uncle's house) and change one every two days.

This is fair and innovative, and does not affect the farm work of each family. Grandpa's taste can be changed from time to time.

Grandpa nodded and accepted his mother's proposal.

As long as there are good dishes on the table and the rice is cooked to a pulp, I will know that it is grandpa's turn to eat at our house today, because grandpa's teeth have long since fallen out.

Grandpa is old, his memory is vague, and he sometimes jokes. He has been in our house for two days. On the third day of eating, grandpa still came to our house, took up his rice bowl and sat at the table safely. Mother didn't bother, pretending to be cooking, she went to the kitchen and cooked another dish that grandpa loved.

When my uncle and aunt came to invite grandpa to dinner, grandpa realized that he had made a mistake and smiled wryly: I remember wrong again.

Mother, uncle and aunt laughed with them.

? ? 3?

I know that my talent is not enough, and I always want to make up for it through my efforts the day after tomorrow. So at school, I have been studying very hard, but my grades have been difficult to improve. I didn't even get enough marks in ordinary high schools when I took the senior high school entrance examination.

Depressed, I went home to do heavy manual labor to punish myself. Only through heavy physical labor can I feel better when I see myself sweating. Later, I even felt that it was a good life to work at sunrise and rest at sunset every day.

My mother realized my self-abandonment and the frustration caused by my failure in the senior high school entrance examination. But she didn't criticize me and blame me. She just asked me in a consulting tone: Do you want to repeat the study for one year and try again?

Yeah!

An exam can't explain anything, besides, there are many accidental factors in it. I believe my foundation is solid. If I consolidate and improve in review, it should change.

Why not give yourself another chance?

My mother's words woke me up at that time, and I made up my mind. The next day, I made an appointment with my classmates and signed up for a review class dozens of miles away from home, which started my different life path.

4?

My mother only went to night school for four days and didn't know many words, but her words and deeds were always so philosophical and practical.

Can inspire me like a spark at the critical moment of my life, give me the firmest support when I am helpless, stabilize people's hearts when the whole family is flustered, be filial to the elderly, respect the old and love the young, be tolerant of others and give full play to my strengths.

This can't be explained by life experience alone.

Now every time I go home, the first thing I want to see is my mother, followed by my father. Because my father can't cook, I rely on my mother to help me cook three meals a day, so my father can enjoy ready-made food with peace of mind.

There are big and small things between brothers and sisters, and mother is the first to be told. By the way, while listening to her advice, let her experience their experience of dealing with people together.

Several grandchildren grew up under their mother's wings, and they respected their mother more. Whether in college or studying abroad, they often share their study life with their mothers through mobile video.

Mother is the backbone of the whole family and can never be separated.

Mother is well, home is well, everything is well!