What's it like to be a father and a mother for the first time? Are you afraid of holding a baby?

1. My wife's relatives came a few days late and said, Fat Guo, I'm so tired these days, and then my period didn't come. I'm not pregnant?

I took a disdainful look and joked with her. If you are lazy, just say so ... and then she bought a pregnancy test. Come out of the toilet a few minutes later and say, congratulations, I won the lottery! I put the pregnancy test stick under the headlights and watched it carefully over and over again. Just to be sure, if there is nothing wrong with the pregnancy test, it is that the wife has it. Huh? Seriously, at that moment, I thought, I'm going to be a father? I'm going to be a father! ? Damn it, I'm going to be a father! Ha ha!

I held her and put my ear to her stomach to listen to the sound. I heard my wife's stomach growling. My wife gave me an awkward look and said, I'm sorry, I didn't eat enough at night!

After confirming that I have the next generation, I decided to change my life I took out several sets of clothes to iron at once, for fear of jumping up happily when I was idle. After ironing, I mopped the floor twice. After all this, I picked up my mobile phone and wanted to call everyone in the address book and tell my family, relatives and friends that I am going to be a father! And my wife stopped me. She said, look at your watch, brother. It is eleven o'clock. I suppressed my joy and asked my wife to go to the hospital tomorrow to check and confirm.

At the beginning of the next day, I was looking forward to the hospital opening soon, and I quickly came out. When I got off work at noon, my wife called and said: the pregnancy test is no problem. Ha ha ha ha ha ha. I hung up in the surprised eyes of others. At that moment, I felt that the whole world cast envious eyes on me.

Just because I'm going to be a father!

2

My husband has been giggling since the day I checked the parallel bars and sent messages to every gay friend.

Then he asked me regularly, "Wife, what did you do for him today?"

Once asked me: "wife, let's buy the big bear home." When the baby is born, he will like to play with the bear ~ ~ ~ "

I refuse.

During my pregnancy, he was fat, sleepy and ate a lot. Apart from infertility and vomiting, he is more like a qualified pregnant woman than I am.

When I want to make a decision, let me make a decision resolutely, even if I buy a bag of bread: "You choose, you have two votes now!" " "

Last week, I was lying in bed thinking about my name. When I remembered it, I continued to giggle.

I saw the baby's little hands and feet in the B-ultrasound yesterday.

Giggling till now.

three

When my husband first learned that I was pregnant, he blurted out:

"Ha ha ha ha ha! I am going to be a son! I have a father! "

four

I was infertile for 5 years and divorced my ex-husband in 14. /kloc-marry a male god at the end of 0/5, discuss before marriage, and adopt a baby for two years.

/kloc-one day in 0/6, I thought I had mastitis, and the doctor who had treated me for n years said that I needed a urine test, as if I were pregnant.

Sure enough, I don't believe it. The doctor asked for a B-ultrasound.

Then I called the male god and he said, "No way! It must be wrong! ! "I came from home and waited in line with me for inspection. The male god said that an hour is impossible. You should calm down and take it easy. I won't get excited if you see me.

Results The gestational sac was born safely in the uterus.

At the door, this guy was finally exposed-the key was stuck in the door!

Haha, it's a good thing we live on the top floor ...

five

I was pregnant that year, and I told my husband what my husband and my father-in-law were arguing about.

As soon as my husband heard that I was pregnant, he immediately raised his voice and said to his father-in-law, "I am a father now, so don't yell at me in the future."

My father-in-law replied coldly, "I'm grandpa." Won't you talk to me? "

six

When I was pregnant, I saw my bankrupt sister. She complained to my mother that what I saw was not suitable for prenatal education.

My mother said, yes, it depends on the rich family. ...

seven

At the first test, it was very, very weak. I'm nervous every day, thinking it's blown up. I can see it for a while and I can't see it for a while. A few days later, we ran out of test papers at home, so we went out to buy them.

I said, buy more, in case it takes a few days to see it. Later, the traces became more obvious, and I still insisted on taking the exam every day. .

He finally couldn't help vomiting:

"Wife, such a thing is generally qualitative, not quantitative ..."

eight

I was sitting on the bus back to my hometown. My wife sent a WeChat saying: You are miserable, you are going to be a father!

In fact, the first reaction has nothing to do with the child, but I feel sorry for her. I always feel that she is still a little girl who has not grown up in my eyes. How did she suddenly become a mother?

She doesn't understand and is not good at dealing with society. Her usual activities are cooking at home, making clothes and reading novels. When she went out, she couldn't even read the map. She is delirious and very stubborn. No matter what she thinks, she can't rest assured that she is muddling along in society.

Then, she will be ready to take care of a child and bring him up?

In the future, she will have morning sickness, check-up in July, 7788, labor pains, feeding, changing diapers and getting dressed ... There are many things I don't know I will encounter in the future, and I need a silly little girl like her to deal with them. Can she handle it?

In the eyes of this child, her mother will be a particularly versatile and wonderful mother, who will cook all kinds of delicious meals, help him with his studies in every possible way, and answer all the puzzling questions he asks. Of course, he will also be grumpy and will be reprimanded for every mistake he makes.

Children will force her to gradually fade away every trace of her girlhood.

I feel that youth is gradually leaving us. I'm not ecstatic about the arrival of this child. Although it was natural, at that moment, I only felt a little confused, a little stressed and a little moved.

I remember that night on campus in 2007, when we were sitting in chairs and talking about having children in the future, we argued for a long time about whether to let the children enroll in the study class.

I don't think so. After struggling off and on for so many years, I finally had a baby. Looking back on this road, her persistence is not easy.

Looking out the window, scenes of the past. I'm a little choked up, back to her:

Seize the opportunity, your breasts can finally get bigger.

nine

Married for two years, in love for six years, seven and a half months ago, I didn't take measures for the first time. For once, I did it.

I went downstairs to see a Chinese doctor that night. The quack said that I had a cold and was probably infertile. That night, I cried and ate dinner alone, and then called my sister and cried, fearing that I would take the road of slowly finding children. My family comforted me that from the beginning of pregnancy preparation, I would buy some pregnancy test paper and have a check-up once a month.

Two shoulders that night. Take a picture of my husband. He is fishing, throwing the fishing rod and running back. After he came back, he touched my stomach and kept smirking, making sure it was true.

I was working the night shift that night, and he slept in the duty room next door, saying that he would protect his son. Since then, he has been traveling, staying up late and smoking. Originally, I thought that we would be a happy family of three, waiting for the baby to be born twice, but when I was pregnant for five months, my husband was admitted to the hospital because of hypertensive cerebral infarction, and his left side was hemiplegic, and it took three months to recover.

When he was pushed into the emergency room that night, he took my hand and said, don't worry, don't run, take care of the baby in your belly.

I said yes, I really didn't cry, paid the fee calmly, went to the hospital, discussed the most expensive medicine with the doctor, and waited for the result. Four hours later, the result of thrombolysis was not satisfactory, and his left half could not move. I began to inform my parents-in-law in Xi 'an. The whole family joined the rescue team. This is a road full of tears. I have no energy and time to do prenatal education. All I give my baby every day is "Dad, please!" .

Three months have passed, how bitter, how tired and how desperate. My husband can walk, drive, swim and ride a bike now. The doctor said that he recovered very quickly, which was a miracle. However, our nightmare is not over yet. Because the control effect of malignant hypertension is not good, the kidney has been damaged to stage 3, and now we are preparing for renal puncture in the hospital to clarify the pathology. The family has gone back, and the baby's father, who is very strong, is alone in the hospital, preparing for the puncture the day after tomorrow.

I'm pregnant. I'm very tired recently and I can't sleep well. I always have nightmares all night. I always want to go to the hospital to see him in the middle of the night. I can't sleep well and feel depressed. I want to hug him. I want to name the baby with him and talk about what the baby will look like in the future.

Whatever the result, dear, please come on!

10

I was at home when the pregnancy test paper was in the second column, and I sent a text message to my husband saying that I was pregnant. He went back, really? I said go to the hospital to confirm. He said, then I'll take tomorrow off.

When I got home, I said, why aren't you surprised? He said I laughed when I saw your news!

I always thought that he was naturally calm, or that men were slow to respond to it. Until the eighth week or so, he suddenly told me with the list in his new B-ultrasound. Look, this is the head, this is the ass, this is the leg and this is the hand. I said, are you God's eyes? It's too dark for me to see clearly. He said you have a bad eye.

After returning home, he showed it to my mother-in-law, who couldn't see anything clearly. He pointed from head to toe again, this time accurately to the location of the eyes …

My husband is a neat freak. Before going home to the hospital, he should wash his whole body, and even the documents and cards related to the hospital should not be touched. But a few days later, when this man was free, he gave me a detailed explanation of every structure of his child with a B-ultrasound sheet. ...

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I have experienced this situation twice.

The first time was more than five years ago. My wife didn't have her period for two weeks, and she told me to be mentally prepared. My wife got up early in the morning and went to the toilet for a check-up. She went back to my room and said, "Congratulations, you are going to be a father." . At that time, I just wanted to send an advertisement to share that joy with others (of course, our custom here was not to say a few months ago). In the next few months, some relatives and friends told us about it, and we could only smile sweetly.

The second time, more than two years ago, it was still similar to the previous scene. However, when my wife came back from the exam and said, "Congratulations, being a father again" (obviously this time the tone is much more dull than the first time), I just replied "Oh" lightly.

The excitement is much lighter than the first time, because there is a little sister who is close to 3 years old sleeping next to me.

Still as before, I can't talk about it everywhere, but I told my sister at the first time: "Mom has a BB in her belly, so you should be prepared to be a sister."

Then a few months ago, we adults naturally couldn't say it, but it was my sister who asked her to keep this important secret for her. It was really difficult for her. I wanted to say it when I was happy, and finally I couldn't help laughing silly.

What I remember most is taking my sister to the kindergarten to meet the class teacher. My sister finally couldn't bear it anymore and shared this happy secret with the class teacher.

12

I was in Beijing, and she was studying thousands of miles away. After a week apart, I heard the news that she was pregnant, and my heart was:

Lie in the trough!

Get out of here! /Really?

You're kidding!

I am so poor and uneducated.

How does such a bird look suitable for being a father? Being a brother is very hard! Great! I can't stand it anymore. I'm going to make a fool of myself. Uh-should I get a part-time job after work at night? Which is more profitable, selling stinky tofu or baking cold noodles? Will the urban management hit me? Stall vendors+intellectuals, it makes no sense not to be beaten!

No, no, no

The gentleman's career is based on this, not for this purpose. My top priority now is not lack of money, but lack of character. Be a good person in the future.

The next day, I went to burn incense.

13

My husband and I are a pair of animals. After 30, we are heartless. I found that I couldn't give birth to small animals and went to the hospital for examination. Omaga, a small animal, I got early ovarian cancer, removed one side, cleared lymph, and had chemotherapy for four times.

I lay in my hospital bed, so desperate that I said, "Bird, maybe we will never meet again." I am sorry for you. " He said angrily, what do you want children for! Drag a man to death, stop it!

Then I continued surfing for half a year. Seeing other baby birds, I squinted and said, I can't figure out why I have a baby! Little beasts and thieves never die. I saw several doctors, but he didn't have any good suggestions or exact answers. Every time he comes home crying.

After half a year of chemotherapy, my hair fell out and I honestly went back to work.

On a business trip, I found that menstruation's plan was delayed. I thought I was tired, and after another day, I continued to have a high fever. I bought a stick with trepidation, which is said to be the most accurate in the world, that is, the front is shown with a cross. It took me a long time to understand the instructions.

When I got back to the hotel, I didn't have a minute. I made a proper cross and fell down. I was scared to death by this estimate. Dry your tears and send a WeChat to the bird. Why? The other party said not to disturb the shit! ..... Consider going back to Beijing the next day, and say it face to face.

When I got home at eleven o'clock the next night, the bird cooked tomato and egg noodles. When you are hungry, sneak in and watch me pack with a bowl. I also played the company WeChat group with my mobile phone. I said give you a present. What did he say?

Pass the stick, the bird is a little confused, say this? Is it? What is this? Explain? Huh?

I was right. You're a father. He continued to grin, stood up and gave me a hug, kissed his forehead and said that you were tired and went to sleep. I calmly continued to force the company's WeChat group.

When I got up the next day, the bird seemed to come. Seriously, this baby seems to be a Virgo! How about this! Then struggle, you tell your mother first, and I'll tell my mother first, mother-in-law

The phone is connected, I can't say it. I threw the phone to the bird. He said, oh my god, XXX has it. My mother asked loudly, yes, what's the matter! The bird was speechless, and I couldn't say a word for a long time. I grabbed my cell phone and said you were going to have a grandson!

Turning to look at the bird, the man shouted.

I don't feel like I've wasted my life

When my daughter was born, I really didn't dare to hug her! Touching a small hand is afraid of hurting her with great strength.

On the first day of my daughter's birth, I looked at her grandmother and grandmother, both holding their children, but I dared not. I can only stand beside them and watch the child smile at her. She smiled at me and wanted to hug her. I believe that few fathers dare to hug their children when they are born. At first, I thought I was too strong to hurt my child, but I wanted to hug my child, which was very contradictory.

On the fifth day after my daughter was born, I went to pick her up. Under the persuasion of my mother and my wife, I took my daughter for the first time. My limbs are really stiff. I dare not do anything when I pick them up. I am still very happy in my heart. Accustomed to holding my daughter every day, it's not as complicated as I thought!

I am glad to answer this little friend's question. Being a mother for the first time, the mood is complicated except surprise! First of all, when you are pregnant, the process of pregnancy protection is very tense, and every pregnancy test is like passing the customs. Then there is the production process. It's really not easy to be a mother. It's very enjoyable to make. Finally, when I was born, I met for the first time. I was really confused at that time. I was too small, too soft and unstable to hold it. I was afraid of falling into the basin when I took a shower. In short, being a mother for the first time is really surprising and at a loss!

Being a parent for the first time, I should have such a reaction when I face a red baby: how can I hold it so small? Will I bend his waist when I hug him? Excited, my hands are at a loss, but I want to hug but dare not. ...

After giving birth to Dabao, every time in the hospital, my mother-in-law and husband carried the baby to bed and breastfed the baby. When she got home, her mother-in-law said that she could pick her up and feed her, but it was not good to keep her baby lying down. In the face of such a small baby, I dare not hug it directly. My whole body feels soft, my head feels a little soft, and my small arms and legs are particularly delicate, for fear that my movements will make him uncomfortable. Not to mention my husband, I remember when Dabao was four or five years old, he still dared not move while holding it, and he felt stiff all over.

Being a mother for the first time, many things are the first experience. It is normal to be at a loss in the face of the baby in front of you. Children grow very fast, they look the same every day, and the feeling of holding them in their hands will get heavier every day!

When I was preparing to be a mother for the first time, I also did a lot of homework. After two months of pregnancy, I failed, and I intend to give up, because the new baby zodiac is a sheep baby, because we have a saying here that ten sheep are incomplete, which may be the superstition of the old people! In fact, my parents are both sheep!

When I was just pregnant, I was too careful to play with my mobile phone and watch TV (afraid of radiation). No spicy food, no crabs, no ice cream, in short, a lot of rules and regulations. Coupled with the daily pregnancy reaction, I have prenatal depression and sweat, crying every day, feeling hopeless in life, when can I get over it!

It was not until four months later that my pregnancy reaction disappeared. Except that I don't like meat (I used to be a carnivore and I was unhappy without meat), I have a big appetite. My weight ranges from 100 kg before pregnancy to 150 kg before delivery. My child is only over 6 kg, and the whole length of meat is on me.

When the baby was born, I became a mother and always felt uncomfortable. If I change diapers, I will sweat profusely (even if the baby stands up, I can change it quickly). For the first time, my husband put the baby in my hand and let me breast-feed. Although the baby weighs more than 6 kg, it feels heavy. Because I am used to hugging and feeding, my shoulders are caught in the problem of scapulohumeral periarthritis. I can't hold my baby for a long time to cut vegetables, so I can't lift my arm for a long time. The old man said that I was ill for two months every month, and I gave birth to a second child. It turns out that the more children you have, the more tired you are, and the illness is not good, but worse!

Therefore, novice mothers, please put the baby on the bed side when feeding, and don't fall into the problem of periarthritis of shoulder like me!

1 What's your mood as a parent? Are you afraid of holding a baby?

I became a mother for the first time 1. In fact, my daughter was born in my inexplicably, and I was not prepared at all. Pregnancy is an accident, and the expected date of birth is even more unexpected. Because it was not ready at all, it was already born. After giving birth to the baby, I thought the baby was ugly at first sight, but it looked much better when I grew up. I dare to hold the baby and dress it. How to say this thing? Who will do it if you don't do it? No one can always help you. It's better to rely on yourself than anyone else. But to be honest, I always feel that the baby is sleeping next to me. I'm afraid I'll forget about it and crush her. So I bought a crib next month and let the baby sleep by himself.

Haha, when I saw this question, I thought of the scene when my boss was born and brought home. I hugged him like a tiger and scared my wife and them.

When I became a father for the first time, I felt very strange and magical.

It's a good thing I can still be with the baby when I give birth to the boss. I was a little at a loss when the nurse cut the umbilical cord and put it in the car. I don't know whether to take care of my weak daughter-in-law or to see my newborn daughter after giving birth.

At that time, I looked at the pink baby on this table stupefied. Her curled-up body, wet fetal hair on her scalp, my thoughts fly far away. A pink girl opened her hands and ran towards me while calling for her father. I was moved to tears, really moved. It is the kind of life that suddenly appears in front of you, with your blood in the world, with you.

The three of us asked the nurse to take a photo for us. In the photo, our daughter is lying in her daughter-in-law's arms. I gently hugged their mother and son, and countless forces rose on me because I had another object to protect.

Being a father for the first time must be the most unforgettable experience of a man's life. At that moment, various ideas will emerge, and many people will really grow up at that moment.

On the way to parenthood, every new parent has his first time. That kind of feeling will make you remember it all your life, whether it's joy or sadness, laughter or tears. Everyone may be different, but the same may be: sigh the magic of life.

As a nursing father, I clearly remember the feeling of being a father for the first time.

When my wife told me that her relatives didn't come as scheduled, I still couldn't believe it. I went to the drugstore to buy a pregnancy test, and the test results showed that I was pregnant. Because it is the first time to use this product, I read the instructions repeatedly and confirmed that it is true. I froze for a while and thought it was amazing. How can I say that when I am a father, I will become a father? I still can't believe it.

At the weekend, we went to the hospital to check and confirm. When the result was confirmed, I couldn't believe that I was really going to be a father. I've called my dad for more than 20 years, and now some people want to call him dad. I really didn't get used to it for a while.

So, in the following days, as a prospective father, I took the initiative to contract the housework at home, and lived the life of a practitioner of the household contract responsibility system, and really experienced the feeling of being the master of the house, haha.

My wife and I are looking forward to the birth of the baby. Every time I checked, I didn't leave it behind, and I basically followed all the instructions of the doctor. I also bought a lot of parenting books. Although I didn't read many books (whether they were the same or not), my spirit was there. At the same time, I bought a lot of things to be used in labor (most of them have not been used, and those strategies are too detailed to use), waiting for the baby to be born.

Finally, the long-awaited baby was born. When the midwife showed me the newborn baby with bloodshot wrinkles, I had only one thought in my heart: it was amazing. It was in my stomach just now, and now it has become a living person.

I was holding my newborn baby, and she squinted at me without crying or making trouble.

It's amazing. I am really a father. This is not a dream. I have a real villain in my hand. Oh, my God.

Tell me how I feel.

Holding a baby for the first time is really a technical job.

My hands were stiff when I held the baby for the first time. I breast-fed my baby for the first two days. After eating one side, my family needs to help me finish the other side.

It's interesting to think about it now.

Although, I read a lot of parenting classes and books when I was pregnant. When the child was born in your arms, I was in a hurry and needed practical experience badly. I always sweat.

I will say to my son who is only ten days old: "Baby, you are a big boy for more than ten days. You can't toss your mother! " "I also looked at my son who had been in the cradle for less than five months, crying and pushing the house back and forth.

These painful experiences at that time are full of happiness and satisfaction in retrospect.

Through this question, I also want to know who I was like when I first became a mother.

My husband is usually afraid of holding a baby. The doctor handed the child to him and said, "Let daddy hug you." He kept retreating and waved his hand in fear. I dare not hold such a small and soft baby. Don't give it a bad hug! The doctors were amused and taught her the right way before they dared to pick her up. Later, she became a daughter slave!

I don't know how I feel, but I feel a little strange. Is this mine? I feel novel again. How can there be such a cute little doll? There is something wrong with it. What should I do? I can't do anything!

In short, novice parents will have such problems and make a lot of jokes. We all grow, learn and practice step by step, and no one is born. When a child is sick, it is inevitable that he will be anxious and angry if he is disobedient, but as long as the child has a sweet smile, all the hard work will disappear and everything will be better.

The world is worth it because of you. This is what I just read in a book. I am very touched.