Low emotional intelligence and selfishness

In life, you will see many people with low emotional intelligence doing some speechless things and saying some speechless words.

The key is that he feels very good about himself at this moment, and feels that he is different from those hypocritical people with high emotional intelligence.

I don’t realize at all that my behavior makes people around me unhappy. I feel that low emotional intelligence means being sincere, straightforward and individual, so I don’t feel ashamed but feel proud of it.

But, do you think you have low emotional intelligence? In fact, you are selfish.

1. Low emotional intelligence does not mean being outspoken

When I was in high school, I had a classmate who lived close by, so we often met him when we were at school, so we would chat and talk.

Although she always looks happy, her speech always starts by belittling herself, "Like me, I am ugly and have poor academic performance...", so people around her Listening to her self-deprecation, I thought she didn't mind, so I also liked to make fun of her appearance, and she laughed along with me. But I knew that she did mind, and the reason why she belittled herself so much was just because of low self-esteem.

So I often encourage her, "Actually, you don't have to say this about yourself, I just think you are very good, you have a cheerful personality and you have great personal charm."

But I found that when I encouraged her, she always made fun of me, "Why is your face so round? I thought you were a fat person just by looking at your face." Your calves are so thick and short, they look really ugly from the back."

So every time I chat with her, I lose the desire to talk halfway through the conversation. I am obviously encouraging her, but she is making fun of me about my appearance, but I feel that this It's not a joke, it's a naked personal attack.

Later I also wondered if I was too stingy, maybe it was unintentional, but when I told her tactfully that I thought her joke was a bit hurtful, she would always say it with a smile. , This is the kind of person I am, I am straightforward and straightforward. If you don’t like me, there’s nothing you can do about it. What I tell is the truth, so I don’t look like those scheming people.

Later I stopped contacting this classmate.

Some people with low EQ always like to speak out and tell the truth to show off themselves. They are not ashamed but proud of it. They think people with high EQ are scheming bitches. In fact, in the final analysis, it is selfish and self-centered, regardless of other people's moods and thoughts, and just spits out all your own thoughts, without caring whether it will hurt others.

I am unwilling to resist the urge to express my feelings because of others, and I am unwilling to try to speak in a tactful way because of others.

2. Low emotional intelligence does not mean personality and a clear distinction between love and hate

I have also met this kind of person. It is obviously the first time you meet, but you say hello in a friendly way, but she pretends to be disrespectful. He had a stinky face and looked indifferent.

When you talk to the other person, she doesn't respond. You think she didn't hear you, but in the end, she just raised her eyes and glanced at you, and continued to lower her head. We often meet in the same place, and every time she looks at her with a smile, the other person turns her head and pretends not to notice.