It is a clever trick to let the other person know how to leave.

It is a clever trick to let the other person know how to leave.

First, listen to the sound, listen to the sound of gongs and drums

There are many words in life that don't need to be said directly, just bring them out, and there are more meanings that can't be said directly, but should be expressed by hints. So there is the artistic language of pun, innuendo and innuendo.

1952, US President Nixon, who is visiting the Soviet Union, will visit other cities in the Soviet Union. General Secretary Su * * * personally saw Liezhnev off at Moscow airport. Just then, the plane broke down and an engine couldn't start. The airport ground crew immediately carried out emergency maintenance. Nixon and his party had to postpone boarding.

Brezhnev looked at it from a distance, frowning more and more tightly. In order to cover up his dilemma, he pretended to be relaxed and said, Mr. President, I'm really sorry for delaying your time! ? As he spoke, he pointed to the busy crowd at the airport: Look, what should I do with them?

? No? Nixon said,? Should be promoted! If they hadn't found the fault before taking off, how terrible it would be if the plane took off! ? Nixon's words contained bitter satire, bitter sarcasm and silent accusations, but they were all conveyed through seemingly flattering words. Hearing this, he really couldn't speak, but smiled bitterly: people have nothing to say, so why leave it behind? Deep feeling? ,? Nervous? Where is the handle? But practice more? Read the text? 、? Answer the phone? Kung fu can improve your expression between the lines.

The answer is very simple, you can answer, you can echo. It seems that the text is not difficult to read, except that it is easy to understand. Listen to the sound, listen to the drums? It can also help you read between the lines. But in actual conversation, not everyone can accurately interpret words and pick them up properly.

Whether the reception is correct or not depends largely on the speaker's accomplishment and ability to master the language. Read the text? Whether it is accurate or not, it should not be underestimated. Read the text? Mistakes, this is not only a trivial matter that makes a few jokes, but also affects whether there will be contradictions and misunderstandings in interpersonal communication.

Sometimes people may ignore your information because they don't grasp the true meaning of your words. Let's start with a misunderstood story. I hope that when you communicate with others in the future, others will understand what you said to him.

Little Johnny said to the teacher. I don't want to scare people, but my dad said that if my grades didn't improve, someone would be beaten. ?

The possibility of misunderstanding requires us to pay attention not only to the appropriateness of literal expression, but also to the appropriateness of possible conversational implicature. For example, there is a popular advertising word? Carlsberg is probably the best beer in the world? There are also many advertising words that imitate this sentence. Some people think that this advertisement is true and not exaggerated, but from the perspective of conversational implicature, problems arise. According to the standard of quantity, what does this sentence mean? Carlsberg is not necessarily the best beer in the world? , that is to say? Carlsberg may not be the best beer in the world? Obviously, this is a useless word that advertisers and authors are unwilling to accept. Take daily life as an example. If you visit a friend's house, you must not praise the food or exquisite products. For example, you can't say? This bottle of wine is delicious, which I have never seen before? 、? Isn't this a beautiful lighter? Wait, or your friends will think you want a drink or a present.

However, in case you say a useless living connotation, you don't have to panic, because the connotation has an important feature, which is erasability. According to the British linguist Gaida, the literal content of discourse is more powerful than its vivid meaning, so the concealment of conversation can be eliminated through the discourse itself. To extend the above example, when you were a guest at a friend's house, you said it rashly? This bottle of wine is delicious, which I have never seen before? Sometimes, your friends will think that you want to drink this bottle of wine, because the sentence itself has it? Do you want to drink this wine? But you don't have to panic at this time. You can change your tone. It's a pity that I don't smell of drinking. I am allergic to alcohol. ? This will eliminate this hint and reassure your friends.

Second, implicit interpretation, with softness and rigidity.

In daily life, it is easy for listeners to hear words that directly insult others. If the speaker uses conversational implicature to insult others, the listener should pay more attention. Listeners should not only be good at listening to each other's malice, but also be able to do it when necessary? Deal with a man as he deals with you? Give each other an implicit return. It is said that a businessman met the poet Heine (Heine is a Jew) and said to him: I recently went to Tahiti. Do you know what attracts my attention most on the island? Heine said, tell me, what is it? The businessman said:? On that island, there are neither Jews nor donkeys! ? Heidi replied:? That's easy. If we go to Tahiti together, we can make up for this defect. ? Merchants here? Jews? With what? Donkey? In comparison, is it a dark spell? Jews, like donkeys, can't get to that island? Heine, on the other hand, recognized the insult and ridicule of the other party, and there was something in the answer, suggesting that the businessman was a donkey and let the businessman cut his own way.

In communication situations, when we encounter insinuations and criticisms from villains, we can adopt the following strategies:

1. Sometimes in conversation, the apparent retreat is actually for a more powerful counterattack, just like archery with a bow, in order to shoot more effectively. In ancient times, Yan Zi of the State of Qi was sent to the State of Chu, and was laughed at by the King of Chu because of his short stature. Is there no one here? Yan zi said:? Pedestrians on the capital street of Qi can cover the sun with sleeves at one stroke, sweating like rain, and people push each other. How can there be no one? The king of Chu kept moving: Since there are so many people, how can we send people like you to carry out the task? Yan Zi replied:? We kings of Qi send the most capable people to the most wise monarch and the most worthless people to the worst monarch. I am the most worthless person in Qi State, so I was sent to Chu State. ? A few words made the king of Chu blush and feel bored. In this story, Yan Zi's answer is to regard retreat as progress. It seems that he is the most worthless, so he was sent to Chu. Is this a retreat? In fact, it is a mockery of the incompetence of the king of Chu. What is this? Become? Retreat for progress and hide the needle in cotton, so that the king of Chu can't insult Yan Zi and be laughed at.

2. answer blows with blows. Grasp the loopholes in the other party's speech in time and skillfully to expose ugliness, tease ignorance, and fight back against malicious provocation in order to get rid of the predicament. Andersen is very simple. He used to walk in the street wearing a broken hat. A passer-by teased him. What's that thing on your head? Can you call it a hat? Andersen immediately replied:? What is that thing under your hat? Can you count the heads? Andersen's quick answer all his life is to laugh at each other with their sarcastic sentences, so that the onlookers feel comfortable and comfortable.

3. Be soft and strong. For example, the relationship between Party A and Party B is not good. Once they met in a narrow alley, and Party A proudly said, I won't give way to you once. What can you do to me? Can you eat me? B speak slowly. Of course I can't eat you, because I am a Muslim. ? Move. The answer seems to require A to compromise, but it is actually driving secretly? A is a pig? .

4. Hidden sharpness. On some occasions, a certain fixed tone is interpreted separately, giving the original words a novel artistic conception, making it possible to turn decay into magic and win applause. On one occasion, Zhou Enlai met an American journalist, and a hostile journalist asked defiantly. Mr. Premier, why do you people in China call the road the road that people take? Premier Zhou Enlai proudly replied:? We in China follow the Marxist road, which is called "Road" for short. ? The reporter was speechless and embarrassed. Premier Zhou's wonderful answer skillfully used the methods of litigation and mediation, creating a novel meaning. Sometimes the mountains are heavy and the waters are heavy, and sometimes the flowers are bright, turning the stone into gold, turning clumsiness into perfection. It not only safeguarded the dignity of the people of China, but also cleverly hit back at American journalists. It can be said that the ghosts and gods on the front line in Tibet are unpredictable and the tax is exposed to the world.

5. Text hides text. Generally speaking, there are two basic skills: one is to be able to hear each other's implication and malice, otherwise it will become a laughing stock, and Bai Zi will be accompanied by a smiling face when he is taken. The second is to express yourself euphemistically and implicitly, which is very artistic, so that the obedient people get the message and understand the edge of your words. Your enemy's knock on the door implies malice, is an invisible thunderbolt, and may even ruin your reputation. Never underestimate it. Against a sinister plot? Fly to town? The best policy is to answer darts skillfully and return the favor. Protecting your reputation and face is self-protection. Necessary kung fu based on the world.

Third, refuting people's face, stop here.

In interpersonal relationships, for various reasons, we sometimes refute other people's faces. If this matter is not handled properly, it is easy to offend people and make enemies. Others have already lost to you, should they? You have to forgive others, and you have to forgive others? , but? Forgive others? The expression should not be stiff; Pour out your heart to the person you love, but also be tactful and subtle, and try to be reckless. Hinting at others with argot is a secret skill that cannot be separated from time to time.

1. Reject appropriately. Some people who ask for help, for various reasons, are embarrassed to speak directly, and like to ask for directions by hinting. At this time, you'd better use hints to refuse. Two workmates, Li, found jobs in the city and complained about the difficulty of their work. They repeatedly said that they couldn't afford a hotel and rented a house. The implication is to spend the night. Li immediately hinted:? Yes, the city is not as good as our country, and the housing is tight. Take me for example, three generations have lived in these two houses, with big ears and big eyes. My son is in high school and can only sleep on the sofa at night. You came all the way to see me. Shouldn't you stay at my house for a few days? But I can't! ? After listening to this, the two villagers walked away very cautiously.

2. Just play dumb. The listener heard something from the speaker, but pretended not to say anything, leaving the other party at a loss. For example, Xiaoming said to his father: Dad, Xiao Wei's father took Xiao Wei out to play today. ? Xiao Ming's father replied: Yes, I know. ? Xiaoming's implication here is that he wants his father to take him out to play. Xiaoming's father also recognized his son's intention, but he deliberately played dumb.

3. It is difficult to interpret. Give some explanations to express your dissatisfaction. For example, a woman surnamed Zhou is on a business trip and sitting on the train with a man who looks very educated. The man accosted her on his own initiative. Ms. Zhou found it boring to sit alone, so she began to chat with him. At first, the man was polite, and he just talked with Ms. Zhou about the feeling of riding difficulties and exchanged some unreasonable phenomena in today's society. But somehow, while speaking, the man changed the subject and asked Ms. Zhou: Are you married? When Ms. Zhou heard this, she was disgusted, so she calmly said to the man, Sir, I have heard this. What is the first half of the sentence? You can't ask a person's income? That's why I didn't ask about your income; What is the second half of the sentence? Can't you ask a woman that she is married? So I can't answer your question! Please forgive me. ? After hearing what Ms. Zhou said, the man felt a little backward, smiled awkwardly and stopped talking. We have to admire Ms. Zhou's resourcefulness. A few words not only expressed dissatisfaction with the other party's defeat, but also did not embarrass the other party, which can be described as killing two birds with one stone.

4. Stop soldiers by metaphor. In the heated debate between the two sides, if the reasonable party thinks that reasoning can no longer eliminate differences, it may as well take warning language to stop the debate and end the conflict. Putting a dilemma in front of the other party and making it lose the foundation of its final struggle may have the effect of sincerity and calming down the argument. Biologist Pasteur, once working in a laboratory, suddenly came in and accused him of cheating on his wife. The two sides put forward a duel in the argument. Naive and rational Pasteur can completely drive the other side out of the house, or duel, but that will not solve the problem, and even lead to the consequences of both sides. At this moment, Pasteur said quietly, I am innocent? If I have to fight, I have the right to choose weapons. ? The other party agreed. Pasteur pointed to two burning forests in front of him and said, Look at these two beakers, one with smallpox virus and the other with clean water. You choose a bottle to drink first, and I'll drink the rest. Is it okay? The man was shocked. He suddenly fell into a difficult problem, had to stop arguing and challenging, and awkwardly withdrew from the laboratory. There is no doubt that it was Pasteur's thorny problem of softness that ultimately ruined the duel.

5. Secret heart-to-heart. A person's inner world can be seen from his body language such as expression and behavior. Fishing lovers can often observe their inner feelings from each other's every move or even a smile. Boyfriends always like to endlessly comment on their girlfriends or divide their talents when watching programs. His girlfriend can express her inner dissatisfaction with her trusted body language. For example, if you pay attention to the Spring Festival Gala, you just can't be distracted to listen to his opinions or read magazines. Express different interests by transferring cities. Slowly, you will stop because there is no audience in your high school. When in love, it is often difficult for some enthusiastic boys to control their emotions. Eyes or manners will inadvertently reveal some kind of expectation. How should a smart girlfriend deal with this radical expression? Loudly reprimanding is easy to hurt each other's feelings; This is not what you want to do. Then stare at him with angry eyes, or pull down your face and make an indifferent expression, which will definitely let him know his inner dissatisfaction and then dare not casually.

6. Accusation is skillful. Generally speaking, the party who has obvious advantages in an argument should never speak too hard. Even if the other party is completely wrong, it is best to hint at him with puns and innuendo, forcing the other party to admit his mistake and apologize, thus ending the useless argument with dignity. When an office worker was eating in a restaurant, he found a fly in the soup and couldn't help getting angry. He questioned the waiter first, but the other party completely ignored him. Later, he personally went to the restaurant owner to protest: Please explain whether this bowl of soup is for flies or for me. ? The boss just reprimanded the waiter, but completely ignored his protest. He had to hint to the boss: excuse me, please tell me, how can I sue this fly for infringement? The boss realized his mistake, quickly changed a bowl of soup and said modestly, you are our most precious guest here! ? This customer obviously has the upper hand, but instead of pestering the boss, he uses the analogy of so-called fly infringement to imply the other party: as long as you apologize, I will forgive you. ? In this way, it is naturally humorous and appropriate to resolve the embarrassment of both sides.

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