The third week of self-understanding and review

Summary: 1. I found that my focus was in the wrong direction. I was used to focusing on my shortcomings but ignoring my own strengths. This week I listed my interests and strengths and found out I have some advantages that I often overlook. Instead of wasting your time on areas that you are not good at, it is better to develop your own strengths, learn in depth about your strengths or areas of interest, turn them into your own abilities, and then meet your own needs and expectations. This week I have found something that I am really interested in. I am willing to devote myself to it. I can help others and at the same time realize myself and enjoy this goal.

2. If you care too much about the opinions of others, you will be sensitive, fearful, and unconfident because you want to seek the approval of others. As a result, my "resilience" and "self-exploration" abilities have slowly weakened some of my strengths. This week I learned how to change my mind, starting from recognition-acceptance-exploration-not being carried away by emotions, and the emotions will slowly dissipate.

Recalling a process of self-reflection: Whenever I call someone I have a close relationship with for more than ten minutes and no one answers, I will be very angry. Maybe it is also an insecure thought. I remember that day when I was angry because of this situation, I tried to change my mind and practice, and I said to myself: Oh! You are angry, I can understand why you are angry, think about why you are angry? Feeling impatient because you can't get in touch because it's urgent? Not entirely. Can this matter be solved independently? Can. Feeling discriminating? Do you feel like you are too important to ignore? Have you ever been so busy that you ignored other people’s calls? Yes, but I didn't mean it, so the other party is busy now, can I understand? I don’t need to be such a person. Others understand me and I can understand others. I can choose not to be angry.

DAY 15

In the yellow gift box, there is a pen and some small heart-shaped pieces of paper, some red and some white. There is also a game instruction card. You follow the instruction card and play with interest:

step 1 Write the things you like to do on the red heart shapes (write one on each heart shape, at least 10):

Reading novels, watching movies, communicating with people, traveling, shopping, reading, exercising, listening to music, taking photos, participating in activities, singing, managing money, dancing, and working in groups to complete one thing , eat, play games

step 2 Write the things you don’t like to do on the white heart shapes (write one on each heart shape, at least 10):

Cooking The whole process, writing, waiting, doing very mental things, washing the toilet, eating out alone, packing clothes, speaking on stage alone, meddling too much in other people's affairs, exercising alone, playing exciting games, troublesome others

step 3 Find at least one thing from the white heart with words that can be turned into something you like to do:

Write an article, give a speech alone

step 4 If it’s true Transformation occurs because of what?

Become someone you feel is great

Finally, please write down your feelings and discoveries while playing the game:

1. Find that whenever you write When you do something you love, you feel happy inside and feel understood: Yes, yes, yes! That's what I love! Some hobbies are buried in my heart, such as dancing. I have always wanted to do it but have always stopped taking action. I feel that writing it down today has acknowledged my inner love and made me more motivated to do it;

2. When When I write about things I don’t like, I find it difficult to write. I find that I have never asked myself what I don’t like. Because I am usually busy accepting and adapting to many things, I often overlook what I don’t like. I have thought about it for ten times. It took me five minutes to barely write down 12 things I didn’t like. Maybe I should ask myself more about my true likes and dislikes and follow my heart. When I wrote down the things I didn't like, I felt a little moved inside, and I felt like I was being tolerated. I finally confessed the things I didn't like, and I felt relaxed.

3. Try boldly and discover that it’s not that you really don’t like writing and speaking, but that you really want to be such a person but feel that you can’t do it, which leads to fear and dislike, especially when you think of doing these two things before. The inner noise and result of this matter were that the composition score was very poor and the speech effect was very poor. I felt that no matter how hard I tried, I could not compare with others, so I should give up early. I also felt the fear in my heart, thinking that if I did it, I would be criticized. Others laugh at you. If you can't do it well, it's better not to do it. Remember Jiahui's audio saying not to compare with others, as long as you enjoy the process.

With the mentality of trying, I wrote the summary content into an article. Although it felt a little less than the perfection I imagined, it was praised by others and was selected to be shared in four topics. It was very helpful to me. Personally, it is also the beginning of progress. I resumed my speech sharing at the reading sharing meeting, and found that the effect of the speech was as bad as before. But after a while, I found that as long as I interacted with everyone more, like chatting, my nervousness was reduced, and I found that there are many speech methods that I can borrow. The interaction brought us closer together and made me feel that giving a speech is not a person struggling alone, but a group of people working together with me, connecting the speech with what I like to do, and turning it into something I can like. matter. Be bold and try. Many things you don't like and fear are not as difficult as you imagine.

DAY 16

You share your achievement event with your teammates, and the ability keywords she helps you find are (at least five):

Good at Copywriting planning, providing good ideas, having the spirit of fighting monsters, being able to do on-site interviews, adaptability, making short videos, self-study and exploration skills, and communication skills with others.

The ability keywords you found through evidence (at least five):

Communication ability, copywriting ability, short film production ability, making friends, courage

The abilities you all think you have: communication skills, copywriting skills, short film production skills, monster-fighting spirit, self-study and exploration skills, on-site interview adaptability

Abilities that you think you have but that the other party has not discovered yet : Friendship ability

Ability that the other party thinks you have but you doubt: on-site interview adaptability, self-study and exploration ability

Through such ability exploration and interaction, your feelings and discoveries are:

1. Self-exploration

From the description of the achievement event and the description of the communication with teammates, I found that I have a lot of fears in my heart. I am thinking about why I have fear. My teammates can give me guidance. Some psychological hints, don’t pay attention to others. In fact, others don’t care at all. You should focus on yourself and learn to accept yourself. No matter what the current results are, you must learn to enjoy it. Thank you very much for your teammates’ help and encouragement.

2. My teammates discovered the abilities that I had ignored.

When my teammates said that I have the ability to adapt to changes in circumstances and self-study and exploration, it reminded me that I had these two abilities a long time ago. After I came out to work, I had a lot of worries in my heart, which gradually weakened my abilities in these aspects. I realized that I needed to relax. My teammates told me that only when I am in a state of absolute relaxation can I release my greatest potential. They also encouraged me to follow In my heart, I want to try more training work, and I am once again grateful to meet my teammates.

Due to self-denial and caring too much about other people’s opinions, I don’t believe in my own abilities. Try to relax, follow your inner voice, and find your own abilities.

DAY 17

The value I can currently provide to others is (write down at least eight):

1. Event planning

2. Copywriting planning

3. Short film production

4. Mobile phone shooting

5. Food recommendations

6. Experience suggestions< /p>

7. Communication and companionship

8. Discount information

Although it is not possible yet, I believe that I can provide value to others in the future:

1. Training knowledge (project management, insurance and financial management)

2. Dance

3. Psychological consultation (giving guidance and influencing actions)

In the process of completing this mission, your feelings and discoveries are:

1. I feel that I am great and have so many skills to help others. Reflect on how harsh I was on myself before. Relax and accept this. Even if you don’t have a special expertise, as long as you help others to some extent and even bring value to others, it is a good ability. Don’t ask yourself to be very complete, relax to understand yourself and explore an interesting life;

2. When I write about the value I will provide to others in the future, I feel that it is very visual. I can imagine the satisfaction of the other person after receiving help in these aspects. I really want to have such skills and use them in my heart. value, I feel very happy to see things I like in this exploration. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself, plan step by step, and believe that I will become what I want to be.

DAY 18

The 10th team surrounds vivi

My first "best in life" combination: event planning + copywriting planning + short film production< /p>

Things I can do with this combination are:

1. Hold a festival event

2. Online and offline public account activities

3. Hold a reading club

My second "best in life" combination: training ability + office skills + photography

What I can do with this combination Things include:

1. Office production training courses

2. Beautiful photo sharing

3. Photography and P-picture training

My third "best in life" combination: copywriting planning + food recommendation + short film production

The things I can do with this combination are:

1. Food public Copywriting production

2. Sharing of food strategies

3. Sharing of food short films

During today’s game, my feelings and discoveries are:

Discovered:

1. Soothe my inner emotions. After writing, I found that my small skills can output these products. I feel great. At this time, I asked myself whether I really have the ability to use these products. Landing one by one? At this time, I was a little timid, and I was explaining in my heart that it is not difficult to do this. The difficulty lies in considering the customer base and customer needs, as well as platform operations... I thought about a lot, and found that I like to think about a lot of messy things before taking action. Things, try to calm your inner emotions, and make up your mind to do it first according to your feelings;

2. The power of the same frequency, when I send out these abilities and output, a magical power happens After seeing this, my friends in the group added me as a friend. I felt the power of being on the same channel, which made me more confident. I understood that today’s homework can not only make my goals clear, but also make me work together with like-minded partners. OK;

3. While writing, imagine how you can achieve it. Your heart beats faster, you feel nervous and happy. In your imagination, you see that you really like it and believe that you can enjoy it. I was tired, and then thought about how I could help people in need, and I became even more excited. At this time, I wrote down my own small goals and gradually realized them.

DAY 19

The 10th team surrounds vivi

The options that are inconsistent with my values ????are:

1. Hold a show Holiday activities

2. Conduct reading clubs

3. Office training

My life is most likely to be:

1 .Photography and P-picture training

2. Food public account copywriting production

3. Online and offline public account activities

Are you willing to try and take action? ?

Willing

Tomorrow, please do one thing for your "best in life". What will it be?

Sharing photography and P-picture skills

Please describe your mood and feelings at the moment:

1. Feel your love, feel that you like it very much When taking pictures, I recall the joy I felt every time I took a satisfactory photo. I am very sure of my love for this. I feel that I am not only willing to do this, but also enjoy it.

2. Set a small goal. I happen to be learning to take photos recently, so I set a small goal for myself. I collect shooting skills every day, and while learning from the teacher, I share the shooting skills and feel that I am learning by myself. More motivation.