Etiquette at dinner parties

Dinner etiquette

Dinner etiquette. It is common in China to invite people to do business for dinner, but such dinners are generally difficult to deal with. This requires us to understand some dinner parties. Etiquette, so as to make others feel good about you. Let me introduce you to the etiquette at dinner parties. Dinner etiquette 1

1. Quantity of dishes

Many people may be very casual when ordering dishes, and they do not pay much attention to the quantity.

But we have to know that even if you don't care about things like etiquette, there is no guarantee that others don't care either.

Therefore, the minimum etiquette must be done in place.

The ancients were particular about preparing three dishes and a jug of wine when sending prisoners on their way. Later, it was extended to the fact that the number of dishes served at the dinner cannot be an odd number.

So when we order, we must try to avoid the ordered quantity of dishes.

2. Don’t serve others food.

Many people always like to serve others food in order to show their enthusiasm when entertaining others.

After all, in most cases, we use chopsticks to eat. Using your own chopsticks to pick up food for others will make the other person feel unhygienic.

And it may be a delicious dish to you, but others may not like it.

If you give it to him and the other person refuses to eat it and keeps piling it in the bowl, he will be embarrassed and it will make you feel loss of face.

If you eat it reluctantly, you will definitely feel unhappy.

3. The order of toasting

Toasting is an indispensable part of the dinner, but unless you are the owner of the dinner, you are not toasting When you are there, you have to toast one by one, instead of toasting many people by yourself, which would be a bit overwhelming.

And in the beginning, the person who organizes the dinner usually greets everyone several times first, just to liven up the atmosphere.

If you interrupt the host before he has completed this process and run out to pay respect to others, it will naturally make people feel that you do not understand the rules.

4. What should I do if it falls on the table while picking up food?

When we are picking up food, we may have an accident and it will fall on the table.

In this case, never pick it up from the table and eat it. This will make others feel that you are unhygienic and that you are too disgusting.

The correct way is to put it into the plate where you put the leftovers, or wrap it in a paper towel and throw it into the trash can.

Don’t underestimate this action, it is a very important etiquette detail.

5. Don’t talk while eating

Many people can’t control their desire to talk and like to talk while eating. This is very impolite.

Because you talk while you are eating, not only can people see the food in your mouth, but it is also easy to spray some food from your mouth onto the table.

This is like spitting your own saliva into someone else's bowl. Most people will feel disgusted and affect their appetite.

So we have to remember that when we talk, we just talk, and when we eat, we should always eat.

6. Number of rotations of the dining table

Today’s dining tables are generally rotatable. This is also to take better care of everyone and to be able to eat every dish.

But we should not turn the dining table too often. It will make people feel that you are too greedy and like a country bumpkin.

Even if people don’t say it, they will not have a good impression of you in their hearts.

It is also important to note that when others are picking up the dishes, do not turn the table. This is not only impolite, but may also easily lead to others having just picked up the dishes. As soon as you turn, they will turn the table. The dishes fell on the table, creating an awkward atmosphere.

7. You have to leave midway because of something

Everyone was enjoying their meal happily, but you encounter something urgently needed and have to leave midway. What should you do?

Many people say goodbye to others in a big way. In fact, this is a very bad behavior.

Because no one knows whether you are really busy or just looking for an excuse to get out of the way, so if you do this, you will set a bad example and make others follow suit.

So, even if you really encounter something, just leave quietly, and then send a text message to the person who organized the meal to explain the reason.

Because as long as someone leaves, it sends a signal to others that the meal is about to end.

Originally, the master hadn’t even finished his business yet, and everyone was rushing to get out of the way. Didn’t this make his work in vain? Dinner Etiquette 2

1. Seating

Generally speaking, the seating arrangement is "to the left and to the east" and "facing the door". If it is a round table, the one facing the door is the host and guest. The positions on the left and right of the host and guest are based on the distance from the host and guest. The closer the host and guest are, the more respectable they are. At the same distance, the left side is more respected than the right side. If it is the Eight Immortals table, the right seat on the side facing the gate will be the host and guest; if it is not facing the door, the right seat on the side facing east will be the chief guest.

If it is a big banquet, the arrangement of the tables should be such that the chief guest is in the front and center, with seats 2, 4, and 6 on the left, and seats 3, 5, and 7 on the right. According to the identity, status, and proximity of the host and guest, Sit separately.

The host should arrive early, wait at the door, and guide the guests to their seats; the invitees should follow the host's arrangements to be seated.

Generally speaking, if your boss is present, you should lead him to the main seat, and then ask the highest-ranking customer to sit on the left side of the main seat, unless the person being entertained this time has a very high leadership level.

2. Ordering

If time permits, you should wait until most of the guests have arrived, then circulate the menu to the guests and ask them to order. Of course, as a business banquet, you need to worry about the budget. If you want to control the budget, you need to do more homework before cooking. It is more important to choose a banquet venue of a suitable level so that guests can fully understand your budget.

Generally speaking, if you pay the bill and the guests are too embarrassed to order, they will let you make the decision. If your boss is at a banquet, never let him/her take the order because you respect him/her or think he/she is experienced in socializing, unless he/she takes the initiative. Otherwise, he will feel unworthy.

If you are a dinner party, you should not be too proactive when ordering, but let the host take the order. If the other party asks kindly, you can order a dish that is not too expensive and not everyone's taboo. And remember to ask the people at the table for their opinions, "Is there anything you don't want to eat?" or "What do you prefer to eat?" to make everyone feel taken care of.

Notes when ordering at the dinner:

Take a look at the composition of the staff. Generally speaking, one dish per person is a more general rule. If it is a dinner party with more men, the amount can be increased appropriately.

Second, look at the combination of dishes. Generally speaking, it is best to have meat and vegetables, cold and hot dishes on a table, and try to be as comprehensive as possible. If there are many men at the table, you can order more meat dishes; if there are more women, you can order more light vegetable dishes.

Third, look at the importance of banquets. For an ordinary business banquet, the average price of a dish is about 50 yuan to 80 yuan. If the banquet is for a more important person, order a few dishes of sufficient portions, such as lobster, saury, anchovies, and a larger size, such as abalone, fin powder, etc.

Another thing to note is that when ordering, you should not ask the waiter for the price of the dishes, or bargain. This will make your company look petty in front of customers, and customers will also feel uncomfortable.

After ordering, you can ask for instructions such as "I ordered something, but I don't know if it suits everyone's taste", "Would you like anything else?" and so on.

3. Eating vegetables

Chinese people are generally very particular about eating, and they are also very particular about the way they eat. As workplace etiquette becomes more and more important, eating and eating habits at business dinners are becoming more particular. The following takes Chinese food as an example to teach you how to be polite and skillful at the dinner table.

At the beginning of a Chinese banquet, the first wet towel given by the waiter is for wiping your hands. Do not use it to wipe your face. When lobster, chicken, and fruit are served, a small watermelon will be served, with lemon slices or rose petals floating in it. It is not a drink, but a hand wash. When washing your hands, you can take turns to wet your fingers with both hands, rinse them gently, and then dry them with a small towel.

After the guests are seated, do not start taking food immediately. Instead, the guests should wait until the host raises their glasses to signal the start of the meal, and do not overwhelm the guests. Be polite and polite when dining. When picking up dishes, you should wait until the dishes are in front of you before using your chopsticks. Do not rush in front of your neighbor, and do not pick up too many dishes at one time.

Don’t ask foreign guests for food. Instead, introduce the characteristics of Chinese food to them. It’s up to them whether they want to eat it or not. By analogy, if you attend a banquet hosted by foreign guests, don't expect the host to give you food repeatedly. If you wait for others to bring you food, you will only starve.

After picking up the food, chew carefully and slowly. This is not only beneficial to digestion, but also a requirement for table etiquette. If you stuff large pieces into your mouth and devour them greedily, it will give people the impression of greed. Don't be picky when dining, or only focus on your favorite dishes, or rush to pile your favorite dishes on your plate.

Be gentle in your dining movements. Don’t bump into your neighbors when picking up dishes, don’t transfer the dishes on the plate to the table, and don’t spill the soup. Don't spit the bones and fish bones in your mouth on the table. You can cover your mouth with a napkin, take them out with chopsticks and put them on a plate. Don't eat any food that falls on the table.

Do not play with the bowls and chopsticks or point them at others while eating. When picking teeth with a toothpick, cover your mouth with your hands or a napkin. Do not let the tableware make any noise, or make unnecessary noises, such as "gurgling" when drinking soup or "baping" when eating vegetables, which are all vulgar expressions.

After the meal, you can wipe your mouth with a napkin, napkin or a small towel given by the waiter, but you should not wipe your head, neck or chest; do not burp or belch uncontrollably after the meal; When the signal is over, guests cannot leave the table first. Etiquette at dinner parties 3

7 etiquette for refusing to drink at the workplace drinking table

1. The first sentence of the "Guidelines for Refusing Drinking": As long as the relationship is good, drink as much as you can!

You can expand and say: "Nine thousand nine hundred and ninety-nine roses cannot complete a love. Only if the feelings are not enough, only roses can be used. Therefore, as long as the feelings are good, drink as much as you can." . I don’t want our feelings to be mixed with so much ‘moisture’.

Although I drank a little, every bit of it is full of love!

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2. The second sentence of "The Guide to Refusing Drinking": As long as the feelings are in place, you can be intoxicated even if you don't drink!

Try saying this: "Be with someone you don't like. Drinking is a kind of pain; drinking with the person you like is a kind of touching. When we come together, it shows that our feelings are in place. As long as the emotions are in place, you can still be intoxicated without drinking. "

3. The third sentence of "The Book of Refusal to Drinking": As long as you have feelings, whatever you drink is wine

If you really can't drink alcohol, you might as well convince the other person that you can drink or drink alcohol. Tea instead of wine. You ask him: "Do we have feelings?" He will answer: "Yes!" You take the opportunity to say: "As long as there is feelings, whatever you drink is wine." What is emotion? Emotion is understanding, long live understanding!" Then you express it by replacing wine with tea.

4. The fourth sentence of "The Book of Refusal to Drinking": If you have shallow feelings, even if you drink a big bowl; if you have deep feelings, even if you lick it

On the wine table , thousands of words, nothing more than boiled down to one word "drink". For example: "If you don't drink this glass of wine, you must think I am ugly." For example: "If you have a deep feeling, swallow it in one gulp; if you have a shallow feeling, lick it." The person who persuades the drinker compares the amount of drinking with the beauty and ugliness of the person and the depth of the emotion. Torn into a piece.

You can refute their connection: "If the depth of feelings is directly proportional to the amount of drinking, a glass of wine is not enough to express our deep feelings. We should jump into a wine vat because we have been friends for many years. , clear and deep as the sea. In fact, if the feelings are shallow, even if you drink a big bowl; if the feelings are deep, even if you take a lick. ; In order not to hurt the body, I drink a little

He advises you: "Drink! Emotional iron, drinking it bleeds! It is better to hurt the body than to hurt the feelings; it is better to drink a hole in the stomach than to break the feelings. Seam!" This is a sign of irrationality. You can answer this way: "We must consume rationally and drink rationally.

'Leave half sober and half drunk, at least I will have you with me in my dreams.' He is a person who is unwilling to hurt his body and emotions. Without a body, he cannot express his emotions; without emotions, he is a walking corpse! In order not to hurt his feelings, I drink; in order not to hurt my body, I drink a little. "

6. The sixth sentence of "The Guide to Refusing Drinking": In this happy moment, let's do multiple-choice questions!

Let's open up our minds a little, and here comes the way to refuse drinking. If he wants to express his love and affection for you through wine, you say, "When you are happy, you can do multiple-choice questions. To express your love and affection, you can: A. Hug, B. Hold hands, C. Drink, choose any one." I respect you, so I let you choose; you respect me, so I should choose. Now, I choose A. Hug, okay?"

7. The seventh sentence of "Refuse to Drink": A gentleman moves. Mouth, don’t move your hands, use your mouth to drink

If he wants you to drink a toast, you can cleverly set up a "dilemma" and invite you into the urn. You ask him: "Are you willing to be a gentleman or a villain? Please answer this question first." If he says "You are willing to be a gentleman," you can say, "The friendship between gentlemen is as light as water." Drink tea instead of wine; Or say, "A gentleman uses his mouth but not his hands. You use your mouth to drink" and invite him to drink.

If he says "I want to be a villain" and you say "I don't drink with villains" and then sit down with a smile, there is nothing he can do.

China’s Wine Table Culture

When China eats, the world is fed; when China drinks, the world is fed. China is both the aperitif and aphrodisiac of the world.

In China, not everything can be put on the table, except the wine table. The wine table is suitable for spiritual communication, social interaction and personal communication. The four common customs of Chinese people when drinking red wine: "clink glasses, toast, break glasses, and exchange glasses" may seem harmless at this time.

The wine table creates a social China, a festive China, and a ceremonial China. Someone once talked about the state banquet of Bama that hosted Barack Obama: chicken and bean curd soup with green sauce, Chinese steak, Stir-fried wild rice asparagus, grilled red star grouper, a dim sum, a fruit ice cream and 2002 Great Wall five-star wine.

From the head of state to the common people, if alcohol is not burned, it is not considered socializing. Therefore, the alcohol culture was scarred when it encountered the gasoline culture. Prohibition laws became more and more strict, but it was still difficult to resist the trend of accompanying people with drinks. Even if the car was left where it was, the wine had to be drunk.

During the New Year and the holidays, drinking is the rule. There is a joke that when people drink wine in Beijing: get a red one! It refers to "Red Star Erguotou"; get a cow one! It refers to "Niulanshan Erguotou". Drinking is unavoidable at holiday gatherings. Some people say that we need to change our customs, but for many years it has been normal for people to drink so much that they were put on IV drips and sent to the hospital.

You don’t have to understand Chinese language or culture, as long as you can drink. No wonder foreigners lament that "China is just a big party." It doesn't matter if you don't know anyone at the party, it doesn't matter if you don't understand the language, and it doesn't even matter how much you drink. As long as you get high, that seems to be enough.