At the age of eight or nine, can you still remember those who have been hurt?

As a means, beating children may seem inhuman, but it may not be good or bad in itself. A seemingly barbaric way may come from goodwill and can achieve many noble goals.

1, so that children can quickly learn to stay away from dangerous things and avoid physical injury.

When children don't learn to avoid injury, don't understand what adults say, have no memory of certain things that they can't do, and parents don't have time to stay with him all the time, they can hit children. This kind of punishment can leave a deep impression on him and avoid his physical injuries such as burns and scalds.

2. Avoid indulging children to do bad things.

Children do bad things in order to get an adventurous and exciting spiritual experience. If you don't hit him at this time, then the experience he brings by doing bad things becomes the only experience. Once this "pleasant experience" becomes the only experience after doing bad things, or because parents' criticism is not enough, so that this kind of pleasant experience overshadows the painful experience, children will regard doing bad things as something they yearn for very much, and will not leave a deep impression on "not doing bad things" in their minds. As a result, children are more and more courageous, and they will not realize their mistakes, let alone repent.

3. Overcome the child's egocentric tendency and correct the child's willfulness.

Now, because there is only one child, parents and grandparents often listen to their children. It is really "rain and rain, and wind and wind". Once a child does something wrong, adults often think of others or the environment instead of their own children. Even if I know that the child is wrong, I will protect him, thinking it is a "lovely" mistake, unwilling to let the child suffer temporarily, not knowing the truth that "long-term pain is better than short-term pain", and not correcting the child's bad behavior through effective methods.

After a child makes a mistake, corporal punishment can make him understand that many unreasonable things cannot be done. Not only can parents not help themselves, but they can't do it themselves. Once they do this, they may face serious consequences, which must be borne by themselves. Whoever it is can't save himself. There is an old saying in China that "to spoil a child is like killing a child", which is worth savoring by young parents today.

4. Learn how to overcome setbacks and correct your mistakes.

Beating a child can enhance the child's psychological endurance and give him an experience of facing mistakes. I'm afraid everyone will be punished more or less in his life. If children learn to treat their parents' corporal punishment correctly at home, they will be punished or even treated unfairly in the future. After being wronged, he can take the right attitude and method to face it. Don't think that if something happens, the world will end, just like some spoiled babies now, and learn to cut their wrists and jump off a building like TV.

5. Let children establish the concept of justice from an early age.

Being punished by corporal punishment after a child has made a serious mistake can let the child know that justice is immutable and that if he makes a mistake, he will bear the adverse consequences. Only by doing good deeds can he get positive returns. Beating a child after doing something bad can make him feel that a bad consequence will come with his own evil deeds, and avoid the child from having a gambling mentality of taking chances. If you don't fight, it is difficult to guarantee that other punishment measures will have a deterrent effect on him. He'll think, there's nothing you can do with me anyway. Just scare me. Once the bad temptation reappears, once the child's "window of self-discipline" is not closed, it is very likely to repeat the same mistakes next time.

You can't hit a child in six situations.

There should be many people who believe that there are no bad children, only unqualified parents. People who hold this idea will definitely object to hitting children, and even think that hitting children is stupid, because parents are incompetent and will not educate their children in a scientific way. Indeed, many times, you can't hit children.

1, the child made a mistake because the parents did not tell the child not to do it in advance, or the parents did not make it clear.

The mistakes made by children are also made by parents themselves.

Mom and dad don't know what to do in this regard. When children don't set a good example in this respect, don't beat them in a hurry. It's not too late to punish yourself when you correct your mistakes in this area and know what to do when you encounter such a thing.

Parents can't hit their children in a rage.

Because hitting children at this time is often just to vent their anger, they often lose their sense of proportion when they are punished and ignore the reasons why children make mistakes. It is also difficult to explain to the child why he should be beaten, and it is easy to accidentally hurt the child. You should wait until your anger has subsided and your mind is clear before you impose punishment.

4. Children with the following special physical and psychological conditions can't fight: children with hyperactivity and neurological disorders, very sensitive children, and children whose feelings have been hurt.

Children under the age of 5.3 should not fight.

According to the theory of personality development stage put forward by psychologist Eriksson, 3-year-old children are in the game stage and have a strong sense of autonomy. At the same time, their conscience and moral sense also developed, and self-unity began to appear. However, children before the age of 3 have not appeared or just developed. Even if some children are too naughty, the time of corporal punishment can only be advanced to 1.5 years old, and infants under 1.5 years old must never be corporal punishment. Because at this age, children's activities are mainly to meet physiological needs, mainly a series of conditioned reflexes brought about by eating and drinking Lazarus, which are unconscious. At this stage, corporal punishment of children will affect their normal physiological and psychological reactions, leading to their unhealthy body and mind.

A: Reward and punishment. Let the teacher reason with him, give the best love when the child needs help, and give a fatal blow when the child makes a big mistake. Only in this way can we manage our children well and let them listen to your education. I feel the same way! I think we should be children's friends, listen to children patiently, don't order children in an adult tone, and communicate with them more. He will be happy to talk to you! I think: first, find out why children lie, why they lie, and what the purpose is; Second, whether adults play a subtle educational role in peacetime; Third, do they usually have the habit of beating or punishing children, because children are still young, and once they make mistakes, the only way to avoid them is to lie. In short, the child is a plastic model, a changeable model. This period is crucial, which is the responsibility of parents and schools. And social responsibility. Children in this period are restless. . Parents can only communicate with their children more. The contrast can only be said that the school atmosphere is not very good. Then talk to the teacher more. Sometimes children's words and deeds are also a mirror of their parents. Think about whether you sometimes break your promise to your children and tell them lies that you think you are good to them without knowing it. Children are very clever. They have their own observations and judgments. When they point out your shortcomings, we should humbly admit our mistakes.

Sometimes, in lying and comparing, adults will unconsciously show it. At this point, we and our children should say that we should pay attention to seeking progress together. At this point, I think it will have a good effect to reach an understanding, mutual encouragement and mutual supervision with children. Now the child is always lying, I can't even train him, and I can't do it without training. I have no choice but to take him away. The psychological function of keeping up with the joneses in school is getting stronger and stronger. What should I do?