How should a mother answer a 4-year-old daughter's question about marriage?

One morning, I was combing my daughter's hair, and she just got up. She turned and threw me a question: "Mom, where is the person I will marry in the future?" Are you surprised that a four-year-old child can ask such a question? I was a little confused at the moment. I had a brainwave and answered her, "The man you married is about your age and lives somewhere in this world. He is as sensible, obedient and loves to learn as you are. " At this point, the child's father immediately took it over and said, "You should be obedient and sensible, so that you can be as good as him in the future!" " The daughter's face instantly showed a satisfied smile.

Out of this topic, I think it is necessary to cultivate a correct view of marriage and love for children in a timely manner. Don't say that children are still young, because some ideas need to be instilled bit by bit to play a subtle role.

Children are in the period of 3 to 6 years old, and with the continuous expansion of life scope, sociality is also developing. They will find that human beings have gender, and kindergartens have begun to divide boys and girls. They will find that their parents are very close, but this closeness seems to be different from her (him), even closer than her (him), but they don't know how to describe it in detail. At this time, some children's languages can express their psychology. For example, I want to get married when I grow up, I want my mother not to have my father, or I want my father not to have my mother, and so on. So, what methods should we take to intervene the children in this period and help them establish a correct view of marriage and love?

The influence of family background is very important. The most important growth in a person's life is accomplished in his family. In early childhood, children have no ability to distinguish between good and bad, and most of them learn from their parents' words, actions and behaviors, and are gradually assimilated. At this time, what we need to do most is to set an example. Setting an example is more important than teaching by example. One day when I was going to sleep, my daughter whispered to me, "Mom, I want to be like you and dad in the future." Although I can't express her meaning clearly, I probably understand. I answered her, "But we don't have a big house and a good car!" "My daughter blurted out:" Nothing, just be happy! "This makes me feel very gratified.

I remember when my daughter was almost 2 years old, I had a quarrel with her father. It was fierce, and I didn't avoid my daughter. My daughter's little eyes were full of horror, and finally she even cried. As a result, a long time later, my daughter remembered it and said, "Dad is not good, and I quarreled with my mother." This incident made my husband and wife deeply regret and feel guilty. From now on, we will never quarrel in front of our daughter again. If you really can't help it, quietly find a place to "make an appointment."

Understand children's "smelly beauty" behavior. If you have a little princess at home, do you find that she must wear a beautiful skirt and a beautiful hairpin? Every time I go out, I change my clothes and shoes and stink in front of the mirror for a long time. She likes to be praised as "beautiful" best.

Parents should give appropriate tolerance and understanding to their children's "smelly beauty" behavior. If she asks you, are you beautiful? Parents should give appropriate affirmation and praise, just let nature take its course. Never teach her that she shouldn't do this. That's telling her that you shouldn't appreciate yourself. In the long run, it will even cause children's inferiority complex. I remember a conversation between my daughter and me. My daughter asked me, "Mom, am I beautiful?" I told her, "Yes, you are beautiful, but that's not the most important thing. Study hard and be polite is more important. " The daughter naively replied, "What if she studies well, is polite and looks beautiful?" This sentence amused us all.

Allow children to have an admirer. My daughter came back from kindergarten for a while and said to me, "mom, I especially like that little boy in our class." I like playing with him best. " The little boy lives in a community with us. One night, my daughter insisted on waiting for the children to play together, but she didn't know which floor he lived on, so she waited downstairs for nearly an hour. We encourage and support her to get along well with the little boys, not lose her temper, and provide as many opportunities as possible for them to play together.

It is basically irrational for children of this age to do whatever they want. At this time, parents should never stop their behavior, on the contrary, they should actively guide and cultivate them. Help them get through this stage happily, let them learn to know the opposite sex and learn the simplest problems between men and women. This is of great benefit to future growth.