Girlfriend has been reluctant to openly love, why?

My girlfriend has been reluctant to reveal the relationship between the two people. The root cause may be that she is not sure about your relationship and whether to stay with you or not.

This "bottomless" is actually very hurtful! There are three reasons for this situation: first, the girlfriend likes the man himself, but she doesn't like his current social status. When Sun Mei was ten years old, his parents divorced because his grandparents were university professors and always looked down on his mother, who was a salesperson in a state-owned company. Sun Mei has lived alone with her mother since her parents divorced 16 years. /kloc-For 0/6 years, my mother, who was originally known as the "flower of the factory" with high spirits, worked hard to do essential work, worked part-time as a wedding emcee, and trained Sun Mei wholeheartedly. Finally, she successfully sent Sun Mei to Nankai University to study for a doctorate. After graduation, Sun Mei successfully entered a well-known joint venture company in China. Sun Mei's business is very good, few people can match it, but only she didn't inherit her mother's beautiful genes. In addition, her mother worked hard and neglected to accompany Sun Mei, which led to Sun Mei's introverted personality, so that her personal emotional problems were not smooth until she met her current boyfriend in her thirties. Sun Mei's boyfriend is a veteran, tall and handsome, and he is Captain Ren Baoan of Sun Mei Company. But before joining the army, her boyfriend only had a high school education, and her parents were old cotton farmers of Xinjiang Construction Corps. Sun Mei has been ambivalent since she got along with her boyfriend. She likes her boyfriend's rough and handsome, and his ability to do things simply, neatly and seriously. But I also know in my heart that he is only my own favorite, not my mother's favorite. Because in Sun Mei's marriage, she can only be half the master, and she is less than half. The other half of the Lord is in the hands of his mother. So, she can only take it one step at a time. For years, she didn't dare to bring her boyfriend to her mother's eyes! Second, my girlfriend Ms. Fang is a white-collar worker in Shanghai. Because of personal emotional problems, she switched to an emotional program of a TV station. Her appeal is to ask her boyfriend Zheng Dang, who has been in love for more than four years, to explain to her why she betrayed herself and prepared to marry her best friend. At first, I thought it was another farce about cheating, just like the audience on the TV screen. However, with the gradual deepening of the program, the audience discovered that the real scene is far more bizarre and funny than the TV series. It turned out that after confirming the relationship between men and women, Ms. Fang lived with Zheng in the apartment rented by Zheng. Zheng likes Ms Fang very much. Although Ms. Fang is also very satisfied with Zheng, she has been reluctant to disclose her relationship with Zheng. Ms. Fang's explanation is: In order to be responsible for each other, I hope that two people will get to know each other carefully first. When both sides recognize each other, it is not too late to disclose the relationship. Although Zheng's family is not very prominent in Shanghai, it is relatively well-off. Therefore, Zheng's parents attach great importance to their son's marriage. Now, after listening to Ms. Fang, I also feel very reasonable. So, I agreed to continue dating, and both of them kept quiet. After about two years, Zheng felt that it was time, and at the urging of his parents, he proposed to get married again. However, Ms. Fang always makes excuses. At this time, Zheng felt that things might not be simple, so one day she tentatively said to the other lady: If you don't think we are suitable, you don't want to marry me, or we will break up? Ms. Fang, on the other hand, is very determined. They are very suitable, but she wants to give herself another year and a half, "because she is not ready to get married." When Zheng saw it, he no longer urged Ms. Fang. As a result, this class is nearly two years. Seeing that Ms. Fang still doesn't want to get married, Zheng is somewhat disheartened. At this time, Zheng learned a very shocking news from Ms. Fang's girlfriend. In fact, Ms. Fang is dating her ex-boyfriend while she is dating Zheng. What is more exaggerated is that the two have never dissolved their cohabitation relationship. It turns out that Ms. Fang has been hesitating between two men-both reluctant to part with Zheng's Shanghai identity and solid family background, and unwilling to let go of her considerate, considerate and handsome ex-boyfriend. Zheng only reacted at this time, and he has always been a spare tire in the eyes of Ms. Fang. Exhausted and heartbroken, Zheng didn't go against Ms. Fang and didn't make a fuss. Instead, he decisively turned his attention to Ms. Fang's girlfriend. Unexpectedly, Ms. Fang's best friend has long had a good impression on the boyfriend of the other lady, but because of her close relationship with Ms. Fang, she has never revealed it to anyone. Now Ms. Fang's boyfriend has voluntarily confessed to himself, so Ms. Fang's best friend no longer hesitates. As the saying goes: there is no fire in the paper. Soon, Ms. Fang also learned the news that her boyfriend and her best friend were in love, and at this time they were already preparing for the wedding. So, Ms. Fang was very angry and anxious, so she called her boyfriend and asked him what this meant. But then she found out that her boyfriend, who hadn't contacted for almost a month, didn't know when he blacked out both the phone and WeChat. In desperation, Ms. Fang found the TV station. Third, girlfriends don't like the man himself, but they should keep friends with him. During the Pentium era, Bai Manning's parents died in Japanese bombing at the age of 15. At school, she was robbed by a landlord to be a little wife. Of course, Bai Manning refused to do anything and accidentally killed the bully landlord who tried to rape her. People in that era may not know what the law is, but they believe in the justice that has been deeply rooted in people's hearts for thousands of years-killing people for their lives. Therefore, I naturally have to bear the "charges" of the murderer. In order not to be discovered as a "murderer", Bai Manning changed his name and surname to hide everywhere, and finally came to Jiangnan Locomotive and Rolling Stock Factory as an announcer. However, I never imagined that I met Zhou Dachong, an insider who once helped me escape the landlord's pursuit. As a "factory flower", Bai Manning had to succumb to Zhou Tiemei's "arrogance" in order not to expose his "criminal record", which became a big joke of the whole Jiangnan Locomotive and Rolling Stock Factory. Although Zhou Tie Hammer can't be put on the table, his heart is not so bad as to be hopeless. Because he knew that the distance between himself and Bai Manning was the distance between toad and white swan. Therefore, Zhou's initial motivation was just to make himself a city resident and take a job as a city resident through Bai Manning's status as a city worker. But it is precisely because of this that Bai Manning finally lived an absurd life with no family and no husband. For this absurd life against human nature, Bai Manning can only choose to bear the burden of humiliation. Before, I was afraid that things would be exposed and my life would be destroyed. Later, I was afraid that my daughter's future would be delayed. Therefore, in the "marriage" life of nearly 20 years later, Bai Manning never talked about his husband-wife relationship with Zhou Tiemei in public, nor did he explain all kinds of doubts in their hearts to anyone! Your girlfriend has been reluctant to reveal the reasons for your relationship. Uncle Xiaoxiao can't measure which of the above three situations belongs to. Maybe it's the fourth weight besides the above three. However, if you have been in love, you just don't want to or can't disclose your relationship. At least one thing is certain-the other party won't recognize you for a while!