Topics you can't talk about with your colleagues?

Your own affairs have nothing to do with others, and don't waste other people's time listening to things that have nothing to do with others. The purpose of communication is to make each other happy, not anything else. . .

The relationship between colleagues is always competitive. When it comes to family problems, he knows you like the back of his hand. If he wants to hurt you, you will be defenseless.

Let me tell you an example I met before!

A few years ago, when I was in the branch, a colleague, Sister L, joined us. Because of this relationship, our relationship is not bad.

Sister L is very cheerful and often shares many things with you. For example, go out to play and bring small gifts to everyone, make small cakes at home, go out to play anecdotes with friends, get along with my husband and parents, and share what dramas I have been chasing recently, what movies I am watching, and so on.

Everyone likes to chat with her.

In addition, Sister L's own ability is also good, and she soon got the attention of the leaders.

For a while, Sister L's parents were ill. She and her husband often run around the company and the hospital. It was very hard, but she shared some information among her, which was a decompression.

Just at that time, the company added another position of department head, so that everyone could compete for employment.

Sister l signed up, although she ran from home to the company.

The process of the competition was very smooth, and Sister L successfully entered the final round of selection. The success of the competition for sister l is basically certain.

At the end of the discussion, something went wrong.

After this incident was later known by Sister L, she was silent for a long time. Although she still often shares some things with her colleagues, she never mentioned anything about herself again.

From her things, I also understand a truth, there are three things I shouldn't say in the workplace:

1, not to mention one's salary: people die for money, birds die for food, and salary is the biggest incentive for disputes;

2. Don't talk about your private affairs: Just like Sister L, maybe you just share your life with kindness, but it is used as a weapon against you by some people with heart;

Don't speak ill of others: because you don't know when this sentence will reach others' ears and what it will be misinterpreted and transformed into!

I quite agree with this view.

The workplace is the workplace, and the topic should focus on the work. In the workplace, family affairs are not divided between public and private, which may affect not only work but also family.

First, telling colleagues about family affairs not only affects the work efficiency of others, but also affects your own work efficiency.

The workplace is a battlefield where value is king. The higher the work efficiency, the higher the performance. Everyone's time is precious, and they are all working hard for their work and future.

Telling colleagues about things at home will not only occupy colleagues' working time, but also their own working time, which will naturally reduce everyone's efficiency and output.

Second, the competition in the workplace is fierce, and the housework you talk about is easy to be used by villains, affecting others' evaluation of you and your own development.

The workplace is full of competition. Whoever does well will have a chance. In addition to the performance struggle, there are all kinds of intrigues outside the performance.

If the family affairs you talk about are heard and used by people with ulterior motives, it will add fuel to the leader and affect his evaluation of you, thus ruining your salary increase and promotion, and there is no place to buy regret medicine.

Third, if family secrets are spread to colleagues, they will spread much more and be known by family members, which will easily affect family harmony.

If you often tell your colleagues about your family, or even complain about your family (such as complaining about your other half), these words will be inadvertently passed on to your family. If you are a man, get ready to go home and kneel and rub the washboard! If you are a woman, be prepared to bear the roar of your husband!

Therefore, in the workplace, telling colleagues that things at home are harmful, don't lose big because of small things!

As a senior HR, I will tell you a true story I met:

A close colleague of mine, chatting at lunch. Her child is just born, her mother-in-law is in poor health, and her lover is not very helpful. She felt very depressed. What should I do? There is also a bottleneck at work, and there is just a department TL competing for employment, and she also wants to try.

I immediately asked her sensitively, have you talked to your colleagues about your family? She was very surprised. As she said, after returning from maternity leave, colleagues will inevitably care more about her and talk about each other's experiences. I told her that it was best not to tell anyone about her family.

Unexpectedly, less than a month later, the leader of her business department contacted me and hoped that she would take the initiative to leave. And explained that I heard that she always talked with her team colleagues about her family and complained a lot, which affected the working status of the team. I don't think she is suitable for the company anymore.

This matter touched me a lot. What you think of intimate communication is actually digging a hole for yourself, and there are always her specific rules for interpretation in the workplace.

In the workplace, there are many taboos that are invisible and intangible. There are three things you'd better not talk about:

1, things related to money

In modern society, salary is a person's privacy, and earning more and earning less is compared with yourself. It's really not wise to complain about the situation of yourself or your family. You shouldn't ask about other people's wages. Moreover, many companies expressly stipulate that it is not allowed to inquire about salary. If there is a violation, the labor contract can be terminated.

2. Health status of oneself or others

You are not feeling well today, and your family is ill the day after tomorrow. You chat with your colleagues and lament that life is not easy, and it has reached the stage of being old and doing something small. Colleagues may not have a good way to comfort you except to echo. Unless the family encounters great difficulties, such as yourself or your family is terminally ill, it is ok to appeal for donations through the trade union, but are you willing to accept this heavy favor with high self-esteem? As far as I know, many people would rather find a way from an external fundraising platform than accept such "charity". Moreover, it also gives you a thought about your future career. With so many things, can you support a job?

3, rumors and rumors, or controversial topics

Personal image building in the workplace depends on bit by bit accumulation, and everyone should cherish their professional feathers. Therefore, if you are reliable, it is the basic principle of a workplace person to do reliable things. Everyone has a gossip heart. Talking about some harmless star news may help to narrow the distance between you and your colleagues. But if you talk too much about your family, it is inevitable that some people will spread gossip. Just like the example at the beginning of the article.

The workplace is like a battlefield. Don't dream of tenderness, only invisible smoke.

Some people will say that the company is a big family, shouldn't there be temperature? Don't be paranoid, this is just a superficial illusion, and the first thing in corporate culture is always enterprising and creating value. We are all adults, your family affairs only belong to you, your difficulties only belong to you, you can do it for a while, but who can help you for a lifetime? Companies or leaders always like people who can solve problems or provide solutions, but don't like people who complain or make suggestions.