Use high emotional intelligence skills in daily life

Use words with high emotional intelligence every day

Use words with high emotional intelligence every day. As we all know, high emotional intelligence means being able to speak, and a high emotional intelligence approach can help you get through the cold moments. Difficulties, so a person who can talk can win the favor of others. The following shares the daily use of high emotional intelligence speech skills. Daily use of high emotional intelligence speech skills 1

1. Put "I can't drink"

Change to "I am better at pouring wine"

2. Change "Hahaha"

to "You are so interesting"

3. Change " You're awesome"

Change it to "The master is by my side"

4. Change "I don't know"

to "Maybe I can Understand"

5. Change "Do you understand?"

to "Did I understand?"

6. Change "Whatever"

to "It's up to you"

7. Change "Buy, buy, buy"

to "You can consider buying it"

8. Change "fuck"

to "Thousands of words are in my heart"

9. Change "uh-huh"

to "No problem"

10. Change "I'm so annoyed"

to "I need to calm down"

11. Change "How do I know"

Change it to “I don’t quite understand this”

12. Change “No time”

to “I have something urgent”

13. Change "I haven't seen it"

to "I haven't seen it, but it sounds great"

14. Change "I've kept you waiting"

Change it to "Thank you for your patience"

15. Change "It doesn't matter"

Change it to "My 0K"

16. Change " I can’t”

Change it to “Maybe I can learn from it”

17. Change “You are so stupid”

to “You have great ideas”

18. Change "You are too bad"

into "You actually have a lot of room for improvement" Daily use of high EQ speech 2

Positive energy

Gentlemen are magnanimous, and people with high emotional intelligence always face life positively and optimistically. They can always find pleasant topics to talk about, and they can easily control the rhythm of the conversation to stimulate emotions.

There are always some unpleasant things happening in life, but you rarely hear complaints from people with high emotional intelligence. It’s not that they haven’t experienced these, but that people with high emotional intelligence know how to control their emotions. What should be said and what should not be said.

Imagine if someone complained to you every day, something was not going well at work here, or there was a relationship problem there. Do you still have a good impression of this person?

Respect

Respecting the other person’s feelings before speaking is the quality of a gentleman; not saying anything that violates the other person’s boundaries is the emotional intelligence of an adult.

People with high emotional intelligence will put themselves in other people's shoes before speaking, let alone explore other people's secrets. There are always some good people in life who especially like to ask about other people's privacy and inquire about other people's family background. This kind of person is very annoying.

To be a person with high emotional intelligence, you must be measured in your speech, control your curiosity, and resist gossip. Don't try to be the quickest and unintentionally hurt others.

The friendship between gentlemen

The friendship between gentlemen is as light as water. People with high emotional intelligence will not easily confide in others, let alone talk deeply. They know how to get along with friends and what to say on any occasion.

People with high emotional intelligence will not inquire about other people's privacy before getting to know them deeply. Even if you are a close friend, you must understand that many secrets should not be asked by you, but should be waited for.

We don’t ask when others don’t talk. Sometimes it’s more likable to be a listener than to talk incessantly. People with high emotional intelligence understand this, so their words always make people feel comfortable.

Be a person with high emotional intelligence, grasp the occasion and opportunity to speak in interpersonal communication, understand the essence of speaking, and understand the way of speaking. I believe you will soon stand out from the crowd!

Learn to speak well

The wounds caused by speaking are all hidden wounds, which have a slow-release effect. If no one wakes up, you will not know it until you die.

The reason is simple - if you don’t speak well, others will! If you are a big-hearted person, you will laugh it off, but if you know that you are unreliable and cannot rely on you for important things in the future, you will alienate yourself. If you are a little hearted, I won't care about you, but you will politely find other excuses to reject you.

People who wait and wait may even pretend to be generous while wearing small shoes for you. So, what if the other person is also a person who cannot speak? Then start pinching, but it won't be of much help to you, because at this time you will feel that it is the other person and not the thing, and it will be difficult to reflect on yourself.

We live in a modern world constructed by words, and few people know this secret.

Over the years, we have only learned to squeeze our own setbacks, our own powerlessness, our own lack of self-confidence, our own transparency, our own invisibility to everyone, and our own words into a wry smile. ——"Hey, I just don't know how to talk." Daily use of high emotional intelligence words 3

Classic humorous eloquence to pick up girls

1. Chat

If I say such an opening, the result may be like you, being shot by a beautiful woman. In fact, I start with the same sentence as every beautiful woman: "Beauty, what industry are you currently engaged in?"

This sentence is very crude, but it is very effective. Do you want to know why? Because The purpose of our coming to this marketing conference is to learn how to make money. When I asked her how to make money, of course she would not refuse me. After chatting for a few words, I said I would like to learn from you, and then we exchanged business cards. It was as simple as that. Among them, there were two beauties who had a particularly interesting chat with me.

Brother, do you understand the principle after reading this? What, still don’t understand? Then I will tell you directly, the trick is:

The language when striking up a conversation and Body movements must match the situation.

2. Pick up conversations

Many of the classic pick up routines in dating are the product of specific environments, such as nightclubs. If you use them in life, they will definitely fail. If you try to strike up a conversation with some routines in life, you may even be called crazy by others.

The principle of pick-up in dating science is to show high-value charm in a short period of time in front of a strange girl, so as to attract the girl instantly. If you are not rich, handsome, and handsome, I advise you to use less.

Why do some brothers become even less good at striking up conversations after trying hard to learn a lot of dating skills? Because they only know how to apply conventions, regardless of whether the technique is in line with the reality of life.

For example: As we all know, we now live in an era full of fear of strangers. The most important thing for a beautiful woman to do when going out is to "prevent theft, robbery, fraud, and perverts." At this time, if you If you pretend to be a cool guy and use an exaggerated or funny approach to pick up a girl, do you think she will suspect that she has met a bad guy and stay away?

So, the pick-up line is The first key point is to make your behavior consistent with normal people's living habits, that is, your language and behavior must match the environment.

Maybe brothers find this sentence a bit difficult to understand? Let me give you an example below?

3. Language and behavior must match the environment

For example When you go to take the bus and see a pretty girl, why do you approach her and strike up a conversation? It’s very simple. Just ask for directions: “Beauty, which bus should I take to get to such-and-such building?” “I just arrived in this city and I’m not very familiar with it. "Excuse me, how do I get by bus at such-and-such station?"

For example, if you are taking a bus to another place and there is a beautiful woman sitting next to you, how do you strike up a conversation? "Beauty, are you going to such-and-such city to work or to travel?" "Beauty, it's my first time to go to such-and-such a city. Do you know any interesting places?"

For example, if you often meet a beautiful woman riding the elevator with you in an office building, how do you strike up a conversation? " Beauty, morning, you are so punctual every day!" "Beauty, you are so dedicated!" If you smile, will people reject you? Will the beauty return a smile to you? After two or three interactions like this, you and her Is it easy to ask for a business card?

4. Interaction

For example, if you meet a beautiful woman while shopping in a mall, how do you strike up a conversation? "Beauty, my mom. Let me buy a bottle of peanut oil for her, but I don’t know which one is better. Can you give me a reference?" Do you think a beautiful woman would have the heart to refuse a filial son’s request?

Some brothers have been After being addicted to dating science, you can no longer speak normally. Don’t you think it’s ridiculous? Some theories in dating science are seriously out of touch with the reality of life. You always want to attract the attention of beautiful women at the first time, and people will avoid you. Your cold reading, Are the skills of being funny and suppressing useless?

Therefore, the key to picking up a conversation is: the first sentence or body movement must make the beautiful woman interact with you, and only she will talk to you. Only then will you have all the opportunities ahead. To achieve this, the first is to comply with human nature, and the second is to conform to living habits.

What do you mean by complying with human nature? For example, if you want to find a beautiful woman to dance with in a ballroom, what do ordinary people say: "Beauty, can I buy you a drink?" "Beauty, can I buy you a dance?" Do you want to dance?" Such words convey an obvious intention: You want to pick her up! It's okay if you are rich, rich and handsome, otherwise you will probably be shot.

What should I do? You can sit down opposite the beautiful woman and ask: "Beauty, can you dance so-and-so? I can't master some of the moves. Can you tell me how to practice it? Okay?" After the beautiful woman tells you the method, you can then say: "I'm a bit stupid, please show me in person later and let me learn." When you hold the beautiful woman's hand and put your arms around her waist, you Do you have a chance to pick her up?

Why is it so difficult to refuse a beautiful woman like this? Because it is human nature to be a teacher, and it has nothing to do with whether you are handsome or not. As long as you know how to adapt to human nature, it will become very easy to strike up a conversation in life.

So what does it mean to be in line with life habits? The examples I gave earlier are all of this type, that is, you and your girlfriend should say relevant words in whatever situation you are in now.

Let’s take another extreme example: For example, if you meet a beautiful girl in the hospital, how do you strike up a conversation? “Beauty, why do you also have a cold? The flu has been really bad recently.” Go to the hospital The person must be seeing a doctor, and the success rate will be high only if the theme and scene of the conversation are related to the medical treatment.

Why do some brothers become more confused the more they learn about dating? Because you always copy some conventions and words by rote, and you are either considered a bad guy by beautiful women, or you are considered crazy. How can you succeed?

I am not an expert at striking up conversations. Like my brothers, I didn’t know how to strike up a conversation before. There once lived a beautiful woman in the house opposite my dormitory. I watched her come and go every day, but I just couldn't muster up the courage to strike up a conversation with her because she was so beautiful, but I was so ordinary.

Regarding pick-up, I have the deepest experience: as long as you try to attract the attention of a beautiful woman and make her feel good, then most of the pick-up process will fail.

Because you care too much about your own image and the reaction of beautiful women, it will cause you to have extreme anxiety and fear, making your words and body movements very abnormal, which will cause the beautiful women to have strong resistance. Therefore, the more deliberately you demonstrate your skill in striking up a conversation, the more likely it is that you will fail.