Why can't you achieve your life goals?

Most people hope that the wind of fate will blow them into some rich and mysterious port. They hope to retire on a beautiful island somewhere in the distant future and live a carefree life. If asked how they will achieve this goal, they will answer that there must be "some" way.

In fact, the reason why so many people can't achieve their goals in life is that they have never really set a goal in life.

Dennis has been hosting seminars on how to decide life goals all over the United States and abroad. In these seminars, he found that most families would rather spend a lot of time planning a Christmas party or a holiday trip than planning their lives. Failure to plan is actually doomed to failure.

In one of the seminars, Dennis divided the 2 people who attended the meeting into many groups, with 6 people in each group. They sit at the round table, study five questions, then write down everyone's answers and discuss them. The five questions raised by Dennis are as follows:

1? What are your greatest strengths and weaknesses when you are engaged in a certain profession?

2? What is your most important goal in your personal life and career this year?

3? What are your major personal and career goals for next year?

4? In the next five years, to what extent do you plan to achieve in your career and how much income will you get?

5? Where will you live in 2 years? What will you do? What achievements will you achieve that will be praised and envied by your family or peers? How is your health? How much money or property will you have?

after the moans and complaints disappeared, these groups began to discuss some of the most important issues in their lives. On the surface, these questions may be difficult to answer and unreasonable, but you must know that these 2 people spent $5 to attend this seminar to set life goals. When they find that someone is actually challenging them to think about their lives in clear words. It's interesting to sit down and listen to some people talk about how they struggled out of slums and became great men. But if you have to think about what you should do, it's not fun at all, it's a bit like going back to school.

After the discussion in these six-person groups, Dennis noticed a little boy named Eric. He has red hair and looks about 1 years old. Dennis thought at that time that it would be a good idea for his father to take him to this seminar and see what the adult world is really like. Eric has been listening attentively while Dennis is talking. Now, he came up to Dennis and asked him what these people were doing at the round table. Dennis said: "I gave them a topic about their life goals, and asked them to discuss these issues in groups, and then discuss them with all the participants later."

Eric said that many of them seem to be talking about other things, and some of them are just chatting or joking. Dennis said that we can't expect everyone to be serious about this activity of determining life goals, because many people think that it is not difficult to decide life goals, just as easy as deciding to watch TV or watch movies. Eric asked Dennis why he didn't sit at one of the tables to discuss his life goals with them. Dennis replied that his life goals had already been decided, and if Eric was interested, he could write down these questions and try to answer the questions about his life goals himself. Eric took a piece of paper and a pen and began to write seriously. At the end of the 45 minutes stipulated by Dennis, he called all the groups together to discuss.

the first question is simple. As he expected, the most answers were "sociable", "caring for others", "dedicated" and "honest". In terms of shortcomings, such as "I can't use time", "I hope to spend more time studying and spend more time with my family". These are the standard answers for each group.

However, about 9% people seem to find the second to fifth questions really difficult. For example, the goals for this year (the second question) are "to be better than last year", "to do more things, earn more money and save more money" and "to be a better person". Similarly, there is no fixed answer, which also appears in the third question "life goals for next year".

the real problems appear in the fourth and fifth questions. When asked about their career achievements and income in the next five years, almost all of them adopted a conservative attitude and put forward the same excuse, such as "Who can predict the future development in this unstable era?" "It depends on the inflation rate." "It depends on the decision of my boss and the company." However, most of them admit that they expect to be promoted in five years and earn more money.

The fifth question really needs thinking. Where will you live in 2 years? What for? What have you achieved? Is it healthy? How much property is there? These questions make them feel painful and funny, and they don't know how to answer them. A middle-aged man replied frankly that by that time, he might have died. All the participants laughed, and the laughter diluted the tense atmosphere. Most of them have never considered these questions before, and they have come up with some stupid and meaningless answers. They said that they would become millionaires, and their yachts would stay on an island in the Mediterranean, or write famous novels or make TV movies. In each group, the answer is almost the same. No one wants to predict his or her own future. They are the same as the participants in several seminars that Dennis has taught before, but there is only one exception-this little boy named Eric.

Eric volunteered to go to the podium and read out his answers to these five life goals. All the participants in the seminar are very happy. They want to hear more jokes and new things. Dennis didn't have any special expectations at that time. He guessed that Eric couldn't be any better than these adults.

"What is your greatest talent and what do you want to improve most, Eric?" Dennis started asking questions. Eric immediately replied, "make model planes;" Playing video games gets high marks, which is my best. Tidying up my own room is what I need to improve most. "

Dennis quickly asked him about his personal life goals and career goals this year. He said that his career goal is to complete a model of a Colombian spacecraft; His personal life goal is to mow grass and shovel snow in winter, hoping to earn 45 dollars from these jobs. The audience whispered in praise. Dennis himself thought to himself that now, everyone finally got some meaningful answers.

Dennis asked him again what his personal and career goals are for next year. He replied that his personal goal is to travel to Hawaii, and his career goal is to earn 7 dollars to pay for this trip. Dennis asked him to explain some details of the trip a little. Eric replied that this trip will take advantage of the summer vacation to go to Honolulu or Maori Island, and maybe take Western Airlines or United Airlines, whichever has the lowest fare, take that airline's plane. Dennis asked him, what is the biggest difficulty in achieving the goal of this trip? He said that the biggest difficulty is to ask his parents to save enough money to buy their air tickets so that they can take him with them.

they went on to talk about Eric's five-year goal. When Dennis asked about his career and income in five years, he replied without hesitation: "I will be 15 years old by then and will be promoted to the tenth grade." He clearly said into the microphone, "I plan to take computer courses-and science courses if there are such courses in school." By that time, I will work and study, and I should have at least 2 yuan's income every month. " He said this confidently, and the students in the audience stopped laughing. Even Eric's father listened with interest to the 1-year-old child telling his life and career goals.

When asked about his plans in 2 years, Eric must think about it for a while. Then he said, "By that time, I will be 3 years old, won't I?" Dennis nodded. He continued, "I will live in Houston or cape canaveral, Florida. I will be an astronaut, either working for NASA or working for a big company. I will be responsible for putting a new TV satellite into orbit or transporting parts to a newly launched space station in space. My physical condition will be very good. If I want to be an astronaut, I must be in good health. " He came to this conclusion with pride.

Eric is very specific, but all the adult students in the class are unrealistic. Eric's talk was really pleasant. His influence is slowly entering the hearts of all the students. Each of them spent 5 dollars to attend this seminar, hoping to strengthen the skills of setting life goals, but in the end, a 1-year-old child actually came on stage to demonstrate what to do. Eric's biggest difference is that he hasn't started to think that he can't achieve his goal, and there are not enough factors to destroy his interest in traveling. He doesn't read enough evening news or newspapers; He hasn't suffered enough personal setbacks; He has not been spoiled, nor has he begun to doubt. His inexperience "weakness" has become his greatest strength.

Eric's thought-provoking answers became the best conclusion in that seminar. The achievement of the red-haired child in 1 minutes exceeded Dennis's five-hour speech. He has taught us that we can talk about our dreams in clearer and more specific words, as long as we don't let doubts stand in our way. Eric, a 1-year-old boy, has shown us the best example of how to set goals in life and try to pursue them.