Why can the hatred of the moon be remembered for a lifetime? 10 mothers' lunar experience, watching everyone cry!

Women are weak, but mothers are strong. When a girl is just a girl, she doesn't need to be strong because someone loves her.

But when a girl gets married and has her own family, she should be strong even if someone loves her, because someone is waiting for her to take care of her.

When people reach middle age, no matter the pressure of career or family, they will force you to be strong.

This is especially true for a woman who has just become a mother.

People often say that "next month's hate" can make women hold a grudge for life. The women in the next month are all cheapskates, and they can't stand being hurt by others.

0 1. When I was very young, I often heard my mother talk about my grandmother.

Mom can't speak well of grandma. "You don't know how cruel your grandmother is. Your brother is ill, and your grandmother won't show it. At that time, the family was poor and had no money. Finally, I went back to my home and asked for a few dollars. "

Strangely, no matter what the mother says, the father will say, "How many years ago, don't say it in front of the children."

Father was not angry, and there was a trace of indefensible on his face.

"Am I wrong? You don't know what kind of person your mother is and how she treats me. I took good care of your mother when she was ill and gave her a pension. "

Father still doesn't talk. Actually, my mother was right. Father knows very clearly and feels guilty. Naturally, there is nothing to say.

I have never met my grandmother. My grandmother died of illness when I was born. I have no feeling about the word "grandma", which is dispensable.

When I grow up, I sometimes talk to my mother about the past and laugh at how she never forgets to take revenge all her life.

Mother said, "I can remember the hatred of the moon all my life, but I won't hate it all my life." It doesn't make sense to care about this with a dead man. " But I won't read her, because there is nothing to say between me and her. These are all in the past, and I don't hate your mother. It's over. "

My mother suffered a lot when she was young and never enjoyed the happiness that women should enjoy during pregnancy.

When pregnant, it is common to cook by yourself, do farm work in the fields and take care of the children. Even the mother who is confinement touches cold water, cooks and takes care of the children.

Women in those days really suffered too much, and they all "survived" in marriage.

Many men may not understand why women can remember the hatred in the moon all their lives.

Men always think this is a trivial matter, and there is nothing to haggle over.

I want to say, because you haven't experienced it, you don't know how difficult it is for your wife.

If you have suffered a serious physical injury and haven't recovered, and your wife ignores you when you need her care, will you be chilling?

We often say that relatives should help each other, but what makes you sad is that sometimes relatives are worse than strangers.

"I never wanted to expect your grandmother to do everything by herself, but I can't treat her like a good person. If I can't, don't persuade me to be generous. "

Why can the hatred of the moon be remembered for a lifetime?

I interviewed nine women who had given birth and listened to their experiences.

02. Don't believe it? Let's take a look at these 10 netizens who have had a confinement and talk about their experiences and mother-in-law. Bad mother VS confinement @lurk0009 1 1

I didn't sit well either. During that time, I never ate two meals a day on time. Sometimes we don't eat our first meal until three o'clock in the afternoon. Not a day goes by when I'm not hungry and my stomach hurts.

My mother-in-law said that she couldn't eat anything in the second month, so she ate beans almost every meal and occasionally two eggs. There is not enough milk for my children. They blamed me for not eating much. I feel sick when I eat beans. My mother-in-law said I was not hungry. When I am hungry, everything is delicious. ...

@ Fan Dabao

I will never forget how my mother-in-law "served" me in confinement. I believed her sweet words. I left my new house with good conditions and went back to the countryside to accompany her to confinement. In order to be busy with farm work, she can take care of me and cook a hot meal for her working father-in-law. As a result, every day before dawn, she woke me up and got me a bowl of brown sugar eggs, and she was fine. No one saw the baby until it was born.

I take care of the baby day and night. There are many rats in the country. I dare not put the baby on the bed alone, nor dare I sleep with the baby or sit by and watch, because I can't eat chicken and snakehead. Eat repeatedly heated peanuts and trotters all day without salt, and don't eat vegetables and fruits. I will get angry, have bad breath, be constipated, and feel terrible. I don't want to eat her cooking. She said I slept too much and asked me to go out for a run. He made me a bowl of fish soup for weddings and funerals in the village. The first time I drank it through my nose, I really couldn't drink it the second time. My husband took a sip and immediately poured it into the ditch.

@ can't remember the past lx. My mother told me to go back before giving birth. She takes care of my children, but I don't listen. At that time, I saw my mother-in-law was very enthusiastic, so I didn't give her face.

Only later did I know how painful it was, and I really thought they were abusing me.

My husband and I divorced eight days after the baby was born. ...

14 On that day, my friend came to see me and bought me a ticket to go home. I told them that I would leave when the tickets were bought.

So 15, I took my children home by long-distance bus for 9 hours.

Mother-in-law is not mother! In the eyes of mother-in-law, daughter-in-law is an outsider. Don't believe those words that will treat her as your own daughter!

@ obscene obscene

After giving birth to a daughter, men care nothing. He never cooks breakfast for me every morning. I cook noodles myself with rubber gloves. Then his mother came and waited on me for more than 20 days. Those chickens were brought back to me by my mother from the countryside six or eight times. And chicken soup always turns off the fire as soon as the water boils (saves gas), and chicken feathers float in the soup …

Later, my daughter was hospitalized twice, and they not only disagreed, but also said that she would be sent to an orphanage, so I chose to divorce.

@ wabuyu

I live upstairs in the countryside in summer, and the air conditioning is 26 degrees. Every morning, my mother-in-law cooks a small bowl of sweet wine for me at six or seven, and then cooks a bowl of noodles for me. She helps the baby bathe.

Then rub the baby's two clothes.

I went downstairs. I come up to deliver food at noon. I always complain that my leg hurts. I am only 48 years old. I used to go upstairs two or three times a day. It hurts to bring me food now. Generally, there are no guests at home, just vegetables, loofah and beans. I drink a big bowl of soup at every meal and a big bowl of water at night.

My mother sent seven or eight hens and pigeons, but I feel as if I haven't drunk chicken soup many times.

Then I didn't see anyone until I delivered the food at night, and then I didn't give me a snack at night.

I think my mother-in-law has figured it out. She is not a bad person.

This is mother-in-law. Don't expect too much.

I feel so depressed that I want to scream.

Confucius really can see through a person, and I am cold-blooded, but it doesn't matter now. When her transparency is not good for me, I will not be good for her. Good grandma VS confinement

@weiliang304 From knowing her husband, getting married and having children, until now the child is one year old, especially when she has a baby, she lives with her mother-in-law most of the time.

Never washed the dishes once, swept the floor once. My mother-in-law cleans, my father-in-law sweeps the floor, and never asks us to pay the living expenses.

Mother-in-law loves to be clean, much cleaner than * * *, and she usually takes good care of me, not to mention being pregnant.

The mother-in-law has been taking care of the baby since it was born. I think it's good.

Give 20,000 yuan for giving birth and 20,000 yuan for the first year.

My husband also has a younger brother, but I have always told him that my in-laws will live with us when they are old, and my husband and I will support them and die.

I love my family in 2006.

My mother-in-law was very kind to me when I gave birth. She made me sleep, watch comedies, eat and drink all day, and my husband was also a servant.

Before giving birth to a child, he was in poor health and loved to get sick. After giving birth, I will be raised in the next month, and now I am in excellent health!

It's good for me now, too Living together, even if the oil bottle falls down, you won't give me a hand!

Although sometimes they scold me and my husband: two lazy things.

But she still does the same thing. When such a mother-in-law is old, I promise to do my best to serve her!

Feng

My husband and parents-in-law treat me and my baby as treasures. My mother-in-law is not that close to her son and daughter. She cooks five or six meals a day in the month, and complains to my husband when she eats less. Now my baby is four months old, and she doesn't need me to do anything, such as housework, cooking, taking care of the baby and washing the clothes of the whole family. I even washed my underwear, so I don't have to work. My husband went out and asked me to follow him.

If my husband talks to me loudly, she will scold his son for everything. He treats the baby better than I do. Of course, I am also kind to her, and I will buy her clothes no matter how expensive they are.

My mother-in-law came back half a month before my due date. I haven't done housework since I came back. My baby is four months old.

She is very diligent and very kind to me. Apart from taking care of her daughter before, the two children seldom hold my baby. I basically take care of the children alone. I got a lumbar disc herniation last week and couldn't get out of bed. Now she is taking care of the baby except nursing.

? 03. Seriously, I wrote this article to remind married men to be nice to their wives, and not to make them too chilling.

A series of pains about children should not be borne by a woman alone. As a man, you should take responsibility and take good care of your wife, not let her suffer too much injustice.

At the same time, I also reminded some mother-in-law: "Everyone is a woman. Why do women bother women? You also come from your daughter-in-law. You have experienced "the pain of having children, the hatred of the moon, and the fatigue of bringing children". Since you have experienced it, don't let your daughter-in-law be too chilling. There is no obligation between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but there is affection. Don't hurt mutual affection.

This should be a family that faces the wind and rain together, and don't be enemies.

The hatred of the moon may be unforgettable, but if you want to live your life well, don't torture yourself with this so-called hatred.

I still hope that my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can live in harmony, with less malice and more kindness.