What if I suspect my wife is having an affair?

How to deal with the problems in marriage, especially when testing the feelings of two people, becomes very important. When a husband suspects his wife of cheating. The first man who has this idea has only one reason, that is, he is not confident enough in himself. He is afraid of his wife's infidelity because he feels that his charm is not enough to attract his wife. It may also be that the wife is too excellent or particularly beautiful, which is easy to attract the attention of others and makes her feel particularly insecure, so she is so preoccupied and suspicious. The most important thing in marriage is trust. First, the performance of derailment 1, mysterious behavior. For example, if there is a phone call, you can't answer it in front of you, and your mobile phone won't let you touch it. Sometimes a person goes out but doesn't want to reveal his whereabouts; People who once loved you and stuck together all day suddenly became independent. 2. Keep your distance, especially the physical distance. She stopped talking about you, even refused to hug and kiss you, resisted you sexually, or regarded sex as a painful task. Then, 90% of her heart is already in love with someone else. 3. Find fault with you or be dissatisfied with you. Repeated emotions will only show good or bad because of comparison. If a woman is suddenly dissatisfied with you and picky everywhere, you should be careful, which proves that her heart has begun to load others, because women are emotional animals. When she really loves someone and doesn't change her feelings, her boyfriend will be willing to tolerate, even if she complains. But if she starts to be picky and dissatisfied as the norm, basically, your position in her heart will no longer exist. And out of conscience, her mood will become repeated, and the thought of your procrastination will make you sick; But when I think of your kindness, I will feel guilty and be kind to you. Second, the way to prevent his wife from cheating 1, give his wife some love and encourage her to cheat, often because the efforts at home are not affirmed and the care they want is not obtained. Her heart is sometimes unsafe, so she turns her heart outside the family, trusts others and does things that are sorry for you. If you want to save your marriage, you must know how to give your wife some comfort and encouragement. You can find a happy evening, have a good talk with your wife and tell her that she has worked hard these two years! Thank her for everything she has done for you. At the same time, you should give your wife some promises to let her know that the future life is beautiful, and you also have the ability to give her everything she wants and reassure her. 2, the three chapters of the contract are with the wife, and the wife is derailed. It is inevitable that you don't want to know. Since you have doubts, there must be such hidden dangers. For the stability of marriage, you might as well give your wife "three chapters" while joking. You should let your wife know where your bottom line is. Once she touches it, it's not only a matter of going out clean, but more importantly, it will suffer the loss of reputation and money. At the same time, it may be difficult for her to wash away the stigma she bears in the future. You nervously asked her to agree to your "three chapters of the contract" to strengthen the next control. In order to save your family, although this is not authentic, it is also because things are here, so try to solve them. Don't let your wife feel lonely in marriage, which is also a very important reason why many women cheat. Especially after years of marriage, the husband's attitude towards his wife is getting colder and colder. Every day at home, he is either facing the computer or holding a mobile phone. I haven't spoken to my wife all day. When the wife wants to be spoiled, or wants to be wronged with her husband quickly, the husband can't wait to block his wife's mouth with a rag. In front of his wife's own husband, he can't find any taste of love. Once he meets the temptation of the outside world, he won't be indifferent once and ignore it twice. What about the third time? Many men say that other people's wives are good, and for women, other people's husbands may also be excellent. If you make your wife feel lonely and left out by you in marriage, once you meet the right person and opportunity, the possibility of cheating will increase. Third, the correct way to suspect that your wife is cheating is 1. Communicate with your wife more, and don't blindly doubt that husband and wife can get along for a hundred days. Many couples eventually divorce not because one of them cheated, but because of lack of communication. At home, you can talk to your wife about work, life, her thoughts and her views on family relations. And you can gently point out whether her performance can be better, remember never to. 2. Doubting others will only make you more miserable, and doubt often comes from ignorance of each other. Therefore, you can get to know her by integrating into her circle, and then get to know the people your wife contacts on weekdays. It is much better to know from the side whether your wife is cheating than to think for yourself. Couples can spend more time together, chat together, watch movies and give each other more warmth. 3. The more you find each other's beauty and often find your wife's good conduct, the more you will trust her and reduce the probability of cheating. In short, don't be suspicious until there is conclusive evidence. Want to change this state is very simple, is to improve their self-confidence and strength. A good man has enough confidence in his heart, believing that his wife can fall in love with himself and that she will not fall in love with others at will. Men, like women, once they lose their self-confidence, they always feel that the other party is not normal in going out to socialize, and they will always doubt it. Staring at each other like this all day will make them feel unable to breathe, will force them to jump out of this bondage, and will only force them to go. Too many couples, once married, especially for many years, really have nothing to say to each other. It's like, when you're in love, everything is finished. So you should remember that in your life, you and your wife have at least one common hobby or interest, so that you will never change in each other's eyes. A wife is not used to doubt, but to believe. Your suspicion of her will only make her feel worse. What should I do if I suspect my wife is having an affair? First, the psychological presentation of female physical infidelity is inherent. It is believed that women tend to prefer a kind of spiritual expression, and women love sex first. However, the fact that more than 80% of women's infidelity is physical infidelity is enough to show that women's yearning for free love and physical dedication are epoch-making. Of course, this first reveals that there are too many defects and dissatisfaction in some family life. As a result, the needs of these women are often ignored, while the desire to be loved is close at hand. Therefore, they will hope to find their initial feeling of love and their yearning emotion. Therefore, for them, cheating is the pursuit of emotion, which seems reasonable. In any case, this is an extremely dangerous signal. Although there are many reasons for cheating, the fact that over 80% of women cheat and almost all women cheat physically completely subverts people's views. It is foreseeable that in the future, people will be more sensitive to the topic of derailment, more intolerable and the consequences more unpredictable. First, people always think that the infidelity of different women in Seven Lonely Days is mostly due to their emotions. They will still be tempted when they meet a good man outside marriage, and will not choose to betray their families because of their simple physiological needs. From this perspective, it is more complicated for a woman to cheat than for a man. In a word, women are rational, and it is difficult for them to separate passion from love like men. Passion can't happen without love. But this survey completely subverts people's habitual thinking mode. Secondly, people have always mistakenly thought that women's infidelity is mainly emotional infidelity, and physical infidelity is rare. People always think that men are animals who think with their lower bodies, and men's infidelity is basically to get physical pleasure, so men's infidelity is physical infidelity. On the contrary, women rarely cheat because they pursue the unity of passion and love. On the other hand, even if women cheat, it is mostly spiritual. Therefore, in many families, it is easier to return to the family when the woman is found to be cheating. Once a man is found cheating, he basically packs up and leaves. Now it seems that this is a great misunderstanding. Second, the abnormal performance of the wife's body after derailment is 1, and the mobile phone does not leave her body. It stands to reason that married women have passed the age of becoming internet addiction girls. It's a little strange if she still has her mobile phone at this time and often plays alone in far away places. Most women who cheat will laugh at their mobile phones for no reason, or stare blankly at them. At this time, she may be thinking about another man. If a woman has been married for a long time and both husband and wife know each other's mobile phone password, but she suddenly changes her mobile phone password or prevents her husband from touching her mobile phone, it is worth pondering. This kind of performance is not only reflected in the woman, but also in the man. After all, they all have their own little secrets at this time. 2. Began to refuse to make out with her husband. After having an affair, a woman has a new partner and a new lover, so she will often feel bored with her husband and uncomfortable with his contact. For emotional animals like women, without feelings, too much physical contact will not be allowed. The word divorce is always on the lips. After the derailment, a woman's mind is no longer on her husband, and she often has a big fight with her husband because of some trivial matters, and her endurance is reduced. Moreover, they will bring up the matter of divorce intentionally or unintentionally. For example, when a woman quarrels, she will loudly say to her husband: Otherwise, we will divorce! As the saying goes, there is no insincerity in this world, only casual confession. For a woman who always talks about divorce, divorce may be what she really thinks in her heart, not a temporary angry remark or joke. 4, become cleaner, people are lazy, especially in winter, many people are not very diligent in bathing, but women who cheat are different. In order to destroy evidence, even if you are lazy at ordinary times, you will become diligent, cleaner and pay more attention to the details of your body, because in addition to destroying evidence, you will also ignite your confidence in your body and want to present a perfect yourself all the time. 5, become more fond of dressing up, women are born to love beauty, but in front of the person they face every day, it is meaningless to love beauty. After all, he has seen all his ugly faces, and they are too familiar, but after the affair, everything is different. For women who cheat, they will pay more attention to makeup, cover the dark yellow on their faces with foundation, cover dark circles or apply lipstick on their lips. This is ... Third, what should I do if I find my wife's body derailed? Language is a bridge to my heart; At this moment, what you and your cheating wife need most is spiritual communication. Pay special attention to your expression and language when communicating with her. Because your wife is very sensitive and fragile at this moment, you should communicate with her patiently and let her feel your kindness. You should understand why she cheated. If she has a crush on you on impulse or for the first time, forgive her! If she is hopeless, do you think it is necessary for you to be together? After all, there is another kind of women in real life who enjoy the splendor of the world. But they also cheat. In fact, the reason is that her husband went home for a long time and fell asleep in bed, but her feelings were ignored, resulting in extreme revenge. Under the guidance of this negative psychology, once they meet the right man, they will be unable to control their desires, break through their moral bottom line and have sex with strange men. If so, then as a husband, he should also reflect on himself while condemning his wife. As the saying goes, the past is not forgotten, so I should spend as much time with my wife as possible in my daily life. Even if it's just when she's cooking, gently holding her, or accompanying her to go shopping and play small games will make her feel valued. Love is often not as vigorous as in movies. A thoughtful gesture, a gentle look, and a sweet oath will make your wife feel happy. So don't waste your time on the woman who wants to spend her life with you. Maintaining feelings and family should be the responsibility of two people. Although it is impossible for every family to be impregnable, we should at least work hard in this direction, support each other and improve ourselves on the road of life. No one is perfect, and it's hard not to make mistakes all your life. When encountering problems, it is the right way to discover and understand. You know, empty things in your heart can't be satisfied and so on. This should not be the cause of derailment, but the driving force for progress.