In rural areas, many elderly people choose to give up treatment after discovering that they are seriously ill. Is it unfilial to your children?

A serious illness that gives up treatment generally refers to a terminal illness. Old people in rural areas will voluntarily give up treatment and save some money for their children, thus avoiding both manpower and financial resources. Conditional retirees generally choose to continue their treatment. Anyway, it's the state's money, and they can get an extra day's pension for an extra day.

The same fate, different life, different choices. Respect the doctor's opinion and make a filial choice!

The elderly in rural areas were found to be seriously ill, indicating that their condition was very serious, or they needed to be hospitalized for a long time, and they were not sure about the cure, or they were not cured, and their children gave up treatment.

If the child gives up treatment under such difficult conditions, it should be said that the child is not unfilial. Nowadays, most elderly people are only children, and their children also have great difficulties. If the elderly are hospitalized for a long time and need money, send someone to take care of them every day. Children also have families, and they should also think of their children. Taking care of the elderly for a long time makes children worry at both ends, which makes it impossible to cultivate grain fields. Moreover, they simply dare not consider working outside to earn wages, resulting in greater pressure on life. These difficulties are an unspeakable suffering for the children themselves. They think they are willing, but they are unable to do so. If they want to treat the elderly and are forced by living conditions, they really can't get by without treatment. Perhaps it is not surprising to give up when considering one's own life problems and the fact that the old man is not sure to cure the disease.

Old people in rural areas are not as good as retired civil servants, and their wages and medical expenses are fully reported. According to my conscience, it doesn't matter that a child of a serious farmer has no background, and he has to bear the cost of treating the elderly for a long time. It is really overloaded and difficult to support. Therefore, the elderly should also consider their children. When they reach a certain age, they should not bring misfortune to their children because they have an incurable disease. Besides, people and money will have an end.

It is a helpless choice for the rural elderly to find out a serious illness and give up treatment. Not all children are unfilial, but they have spent money and suffered, and as a result they lost their lives. Why do you say that?

There is an old man in our village who has been diagnosed with advanced gastric cancer. He has four sons and a daughter under his knee. Children can be said to be very filial, not the kind of family that is particularly poor. One son was assigned to a good unit after serving in the army.

This old man is my close friend, or, according to the rural saying, he hasn't taken five clothes yet. The blood relationship is still very strong. So I know the basic situation of this person better.

The old man has worked hard all his life to get married for his children. I remember that old man in his sixties still went out to work to earn money every year. Although he doesn't have much technical content, he can earn 70 to 80 yuan a day moving bricks.

This old man often comes to my house to chat, and he is basically the same age as my father. My father knows how to use some Chinese herbal medicines and saved many people in our village. Especially in the case of sudden illness, it can alleviate the illness, win time, and then go to the hospital for treatment.

The old man in our village often has a stomachache, so let him go to the hospital for reexamination. He always said that his family didn't have much money and didn't want to spend it, because there were still four sons who needed to spend a lot of money to get married.

Indeed, under his efforts to earn money, all four sons built houses in the countryside, then got married and had children, and they were all very happy. I have to admire the old man's willpower and fighting spirit. At least in the village, he was not laughed at, and he brought up all his adopted sons.

The old man often has stomachache. When he comes to my house, my father will bring him some Chinese herbal medicines to boil water to relieve the pain. Later, I always felt that it was not good to bother my father. Generally speaking, I just need to get some painkillers from the hospital for mild pain. If the pain is unbearable, I will go to my father.

My father suggested that he must go to the hospital for a check-up. He said he would go to the hospital for a check-up, but the next day, in order to save money or feel sorry for the little money earned by coolies, he still endured illness and did not go to the hospital for a check-up.

Such a small fault has dragged on for 10 years. The child got married and the daughter got married, which made him feel that his responsibilities were almost completed, but his body also collapsed.

At the age of 73, he was so thin that he could no longer work. Just this year, I didn't go out to work, because my body was no longer allowed, so I had to continue farming at home and didn't want my children to raise him.

It was this winter that the weather was so cold that my stomach ached unbearable. Finally, his eldest son called 120 to go to the hospital for examination, and the result was advanced gastric cancer.

The results of the investigation did not tell the old man, but his five children got together to discuss it, and then consulted the doctor, thinking that "a dead horse is a living horse doctor" and made the final treatment. A gastrectomy was performed, followed by radiotherapy and chemotherapy.

In fact, it was too late, because I didn't care about my parents' health at ordinary times, and finally I found out that my parents were seriously ill and were being treated, which really brought more trauma to my mind.

The elderly are very painful when they are treated, and they can't eat at all. It is even more painful when they are undergoing chemotherapy, especially for people in their 70s. That kind of pain is unbearable for ordinary people.

The medical expenses are borne by five children. After living in the hospital for half a year for radiotherapy and chemotherapy, the child really can't afford the money. The old man wants to know why he has been in hospital for so long. What's wrong with him?

I asked the doctors and nurses in the hospital, but they were all prevaricated and prevaricated, and finally said that they would be discharged soon. The old man asked the patient living in his ward and finally found out that he had cancer. Because the patients in these wards are unwilling to chat with him, after all, they are afraid of cancer infection.

After learning about his illness, the old man began to discuss with his sons about going home. Because he also knows that his five children have spent a lot of money in the past six months and can't continue like this, otherwise the children will be dragged down and their lives will be caught.

This is what rural parents really think of their children. Even if they are seriously ill, even if their lives are coming to an end, they still think about their children. The poor inherit the wind.

In fact, the old man didn't want to give up treatment, because he knew that he would die when he got home. Old people also have a desire to live. They want to live one more day in the world and see their children and grandchildren.

The old man said to the children: I also want to live for two more years and then make money for you. However, I am 73 years old this year. There is a saying in the countryside that "7784 died uninvited". It's time to report to the terrifying.

Of course, the child does not agree, and hopes to be treated again in the hospital, hoping for a miracle. However, the old man disagreed and took his own killer. The old man began a hunger strike and forced his children to go through the discharge formalities.

In fact, after the elderly in rural areas are seriously ill, the economic conditions in rural areas are really difficult to cure, and there are many cases where they can only wait for death. Because the rural elderly are distressed by money, because the rural elderly know that it is not easy to make money and are unwilling to drag down their children.

In fact, rural people don't often have physical examinations, because they don't want to cure some minor problems, but only take some painkillers or some Chinese herbal remedies. In this way, small problems became big problems, and finally became incurable serious diseases.

Because rural people don't have such good medical conditions, don't have so much money to toss around, it's not easy to make money, there are too many places to spend money, and they have to spend money when they are sick. As a result, the disease was not cured and people lost money. Therefore, farmers are unwilling to treat diseases, not all because their children are unfilial.

The old man in our village has been home for less than three months and is as thin as a bone. Finally, he couldn't eat any more and left. What did this tragedy give us?

First, farmers are advised to have a physical examination at ordinary times. In fact, medical conditions are better now, and almost everyone has bought the new rural cooperative medical system. It doesn't cost much to go to the hospital for examination once a year. At least it can prevent some diseases from getting worse, regulate the body function, or prevent the occurrence of diseases.

Second, it is suggested that farmers must find out the real causes of minor illnesses. In order to save money or save trouble, farmers don't bother their children and put off minor problems. In fact, this is not to save money, but to waste money again, because a minor illness becomes a serious illness, which costs more money. In the end, the disease is not cured and the life is gone.

Third, filial piety to parents should be timely, not after illness. Some children think that their parents are usually healthy and have the ability to work, and they don't ask some small questions, or they don't ask their parents for physical examination. It is unfilial to wait until parents are seriously ill in bed and spend a lot of money on treatment. Filial piety is the concern and care in daily life, so that parents can live a few more years healthily.

China has a tradition of "filial piety comes first", so filial piety to parents should be ahead of schedule. Don't wait until your parents lose their health, it's too late. "The son wants to be filial, but he is absent", which is the greatest sorrow in life.

As the saying goes, "a glass of water in front of the bed is better than a pile of ash in front of the grave!" " "Filial piety is to give parents delicious food when they are alive and have a happy old age, rather than burning a sheet piling for the living after death.

I have three children and four girls. My grandfather died young. At that time, my grandfather dominated the party and acted bravely. After his death, he left some gold and silver, and my milk sold my possessions to support my father and a group of children.

Take my uncle for example. When he 16 years old, he fell from a three-meter-high roof and broke his waist. Left a hunchback disability.

When he was in his twenties, he had no daughter-in-law. He was so angry that he quarreled with my milk and ran from Guanzhong Plain to Sichuan to find his wife. At that time, it was around 1960, and it was normal for a bag of food to be replaced by a wife.

My uncle liked to play when he was young, but he played very well. As soon as he reached out and whistled, the pigeon fell into his hands. After the disability, uncle's stubborn temper in rural areas became more and more serious. He is in the top three.

He has been on the construction site with ashes for decades. Summer is red vest and white shorts. Strong body, every time I am busy, I am covered in white ash. Anyone who builds a new house outside the village likes to invite him, because he works hard and hardly asks for leave. I don't rest even if I am sick, because I am afraid of gossiping behind people's backs, so I work hard.

He is not a staunch supporter, a fly flies by. He can hold it in his hand. I practiced his unique skills, but not as fast as he did. I can only catch a mosquito occasionally.

When I was in junior high school, my uncle planted the land in my home and the land where I nursed. Usually a family of three is 6 acres of land. His family planted nearly 20 acres of wheat. The main labor force is my uncle and cousins. Think about this workload, and you will understand how powerful he is.

My dad said, it's summer vacation, go and help your uncle collect wheat. I went back to the country alone. My uncle's son and I use mules to pull straw, my uncle uses sickles to cut wheat (he has a bad hunchback and can't use other tools), and my aunt sticks it. My uncle eats four or five acres of wheat a day, which is a legend in the countryside. It will take nearly a week to cut another 6 acres. In my uncle's eyes, those people are all working scum, and he despises them.

It was hot at noon, and everyone went back for dinner, except my uncle. Take a big kettle and sprinkle some salt in it. Let's go back to cooking first. Seeing no one in Fiona Fang's hundred acres, he was still cutting wheat. He took off his coat and was tanned by the sun. He got blisters on his back, which made my scalp numb.

From 7: 00 a.m. to 2: 30 p.m., he didn't go back to eat some rice, rested for half an hour after eating, and continued to yell at us to go to the fields. There is still no one in the field, but our new round of harvest has started again. I was busy until dark, and my uncle was the last one to go home.

Uncle and Ash have earned about 50-80 yuan dollars every day for decades. Uncle said that although the salary was not high, people took good care of their meals and gave him a pack of golden monkey cigarettes. It's beautiful, too.

My father works in the city, and many of my uncle's daily necessities are provided by my father, including tents, light bulbs, kettles and protective articles for drying wheat.

My uncle is a stubborn temper. He never used the protective equipment he was given. My dad said, look at you, smoking is dusty. What should you do if you have a disease? You must wear protective gear at work. My uncle said that rural people in our country are miserable. Few of us wear protective gear, and it's still uncomfortable. There is an old saying in the countryside that life and death are uncertain.

After my uncle's daughter got married, his relatives raised funds, and his daughter asked my uncle to invest 50 thousand. The father flew into a rage and asked his daughter to return the money to his father at once. My father told my uncle's daughter that your father's money is accumulated by dozens of dollars a day. He is a disabled person. How sad your father will be if this money is wasted in the future. Then his daughter got the money back. Soon after, the in-laws' fund-raising fell through, and people ran away with the money.

Seven years ago, my uncle was seriously ill. Don't sleep every night, out of breath for a night, menstruation cousin called relatives to go home, I will enlighten my uncle, let him go to the hospital. My uncle won't go anyway.

I can't help it My cousin asked me to go back. Because I often chat with my uncle, he thinks it might be useful for me to go back. As a result, my uncle saw me and said, don't worry, I know my body very well and there is nothing wrong with it. This disease has happened before, and it's nothing. I'll just rest at home for a while and don't listen to your aunt's embellishment.

My aunt said: Your uncle can't walk a few steps now, and he will sit on a stool all afternoon. She had to be helped to stand up and she began to cry. At that time, we all knew that uncle might be dying, but no one advised him to go to the hospital. Everyone knows that he has worked all his life and saved dozens of dollars every day. He wants to leave it to his son, not let the disease take it away.

A few months later, the documents of our village demolition came down. The village captain told my uncle that if you can cure the disease, won't the demolition money be divided in the future?

My uncle was dying at that time, which was the third year after he got sick. He agreed to go to the hospital. When my cousin sent him to Xianyang Second Hospital, my uncle had already passed out. Cousin quickly called all relatives to prepare for his father's funeral.

My uncle was saved as a result. After the doctor's examination, my uncle has terminal lung cancer and will not live for a few days. The doctor wants to have an operation, but my cousin doesn't know. All relatives want to have surgery, but only my family strongly opposes surgery. In fact, my uncle is 73 years old and can't stand the toss. Three years of lung cancer, think about it, is it still useful to do surgery?

I spent three or five thousand dollars a day in the ward and stayed for more than a month. Cousin is also very entangled, unable to bear the cost, and wants to make his father's illness better. But things didn't get better at all, and I fainted again.

I went to see my uncle, who thanked me very much. Everyone said that I had visited him several times. When I looked at him, he looked hale and hearty. He said that several people in the same ward had left, and I persisted for a few more days. I know my illness is ashes, and my Liu family is short-lived. I am 73 years old and Yan wants to take me away. Don't lose money or make money in this life, give me a long face.

That was the last time I saw him. A few days later, he died. Before I was buried, I also paid tribute to his appearance. His short hair stood upright, his dark red face was like a stove, and his wrinkles were engraved with the texture of the years. It's like falling asleep. When you open your eyes, you will smile and say to me, it's just a minor illness. I'm fine. I am strong!

Of all my relatives, he is the one who tears when I think about it. Because of his indomitable life, he won in the struggle against fate. Even if several pipes were inserted and several holes were opened, I never heard of him once, even if he said: I hurt. Because he is always a tenacious person, he never shows weakness to others, even until his death.

Conclusion: It is very common for many people in rural areas to give up treatment when they find that their illness is serious.

Rural people have worked for decades and earned tens of thousands of dollars. A serious illness is not enough. So many people go home without treatment after getting sick.

But now that the national policy is good, many diseases can be reimbursed for some expenses. There are also some cases in rural areas where children are afraid of spending money and don't check their parents before they find out what's wrong with them. This is unfilial.

Children should fulfill their responsibilities as children. If it's cancer, it's terminal. This is also difficult to treat. All right. If there is a great hope of cure, such as early gastric cancer, it must be treated. If it is not cured, it must be unfilial.

Therefore, it depends on the situation and cannot be generalized. See what disease first, the hope of cure is great, and the cost is not high. What's the treatment result? If you spend money for a long time and your condition doesn't improve, there is no way out. It has little to do with filial piety.

Attitude and action are filial piety, and it is certainly unfilial to make parents sick.

Uncle Li, 17 was diagnosed with cancer. He was educated and read his illness report. He didn't cry, but said to the children: If I get any serious illness, don't treat me. Anyway, I'm fine now, but I can't get off the operating table like your uncle Zhang, do you hear me?

He has three sons and a daughter, and his wife left early. He brought up these four children by himself.

He has been working in Beijing for his children to study. His eldest son became a teacher and his second son is also a civil servant. Only the third son stayed in the countryside to do some small business, and the daughter married to a neighboring village.

The children have been taking turns to persuade that the disease is either serious or requires surgery, so cut it. Either call or come together at the weekend. But the old man always said: I am content to live such a big age. You are all grown up, and I still have the face to see your mother. I just want to stop working recently, stay in my hometown and enjoy myself, okay?

The children all know that he already knows his own situation. Uncle Li rides his horse around the village every day, listening to the opera and smiling every day as if nothing had happened.

The first time I met him was the first time I went to my husband's house. /kloc-In the late summer of 0/7, the weather was still very hot. At noon that day, my husband took me to see their village. At that time, he was thin, but energetic, loud and especially fond of laughing. He also said a few words to my husband at that time. This is the first time I have met a cancer patient. I've only heard of it before, and I don't feel much when I see him.

I have been listening to my mother-in-law. Uncle Li has been working outside for several years since his children got married and had children. He has over 100,000 yuan in his hand. He parted early, with 30,000 sons and 20,000 daughters. Of course, this is what everyone was talking about after his death 20 years ago. He is really a great father. He has no wife for most of his life and has been thinking about each of their children all his life. It's amazing!

My father-in-law just spent money and left ten months later. 19 is really a mixed blessing for us. When my son was just born and was happy, I didn't expect my father-in-law to find out the cancer, which was terminal. Just bought a house, just bought a car, and the loan has not yet begun to be repaid. A bolt from the blue is what it feels like!

My husband almost sold the house and took out all the provident fund. There is really nothing left, because my in-laws are farmers, and my mother-in-law was seriously ill when she was young. She can't do heavy work, so she can only cook at home and earn money by her father-in-law. I managed to save some money for her children to get married, so there was no money left.

Spent money, but failed to save people.

First of all, I understand what my children do, because I am a 65-year-old man. The so-called serious illness is what I understand as an incurable disease. If I get this disease, I can't cure it anyway. I think that if I live one more day, the old man will suffer one more day. I think it is necessary to give up continuing treatment, which will cause great financial burden to children. In the end, people and money were both empty, so it was not my child who was unfilial. At this time, the old man will leave one day in advance.

It is the right choice for the rural elderly to give up treatment when they are seriously ill. Not that children are unfilial. This is an unwritten law and truth in today's society, and it is impossible to have no money. The traditional virtue of farmers and the elderly is that their descendants will prosper. At present, every farmer and old man is grateful for the care of the state, with a monthly pension of 100 yuan. If he is terminally ill and knows that there are tigers in the mountains, why should he lose everything? At present, the normal death of the elderly in rural areas costs more than 20,000 yuan for burial. For a peasant family, the annual output value of land divided by twenty or thirty people a year depends on land income. Although there is comprehensive treatment in rural areas, a serious illness is also devastating to a peasant family. The old farmer's habit all his life is to take care of himself. This is the reality of rural farmers at present.

Listening to the choice of the elderly and the advice of professional doctors should not be considered unfilial.

In real life, this kind of thing exists not only in rural areas, but also in cities and towns. Many old people know that they are terminally ill. If they continue their treatment, they will burn money. Some people will choose to give up treatment and let nature take its course. In fact, we all know that many terminally ill patients, especially those with advanced cancer, can't save lives with current medical technology. It's only a matter of time before ugly spots are cured. Besides, insisting on treatment is really beyond the affordability of ordinary families. I believe that everyone has encountered or experienced a real example. A person is terminally ill, which leads to high family debts, and finally both people and money are empty.

In the face of incurable diseases, many doctors with conscience will choose to persuade their families and relatives to give up treatment. Because, as doctors, they obviously insist on treatment, which is a waste of money. So this kind of thing really can't be judged by filial piety. Doing what you know you can't do is not necessarily filial piety. Listening to the doctor's kind advice and the patient's own choice can be regarded as doing everything possible to leave things to chance.

This situation exists in rural areas. A man in my village went to the provincial capital for treatment and went to a big hospital. The doctor made an examination and confirmed that he had lung cancer. After a period of treatment, his condition has not improved. The doctor said that it would be cured in tens of thousands of dollars, and both the sick son and the girl wanted to be cured. As soon as I heard about tens of thousands of dollars, I was discharged from the hospital and went home for treatment. Because people know that spending tens of thousands of dollars can't fully recover, that is, the disease is cured, and there is no way to relapse after a while. The hospital is radiotherapy and chemotherapy. Then there is excision. All three methods have been exhausted, and there is nothing we can do.

In this way, I went home to recuperate and found some Chinese herbal medicines from the old Chinese medicine practitioners nearby, which could alleviate the delay. Two years later, I died of illness.

There is another one in my village, nearly 60 years old, who is the director of the county commercial bureau. He also had to go to the provincial hospital for treatment. He has esophageal cancer. After examination, he had to undergo surgery, find the diseased part of the esophagus, puncture it, sew it with needle and thread, and recuperate for a period of time to recover. However, he got better and spent hundreds of thousands. In this man's view, it is not difficult to spend money. In less than two years after his recovery, the disease spread to other parts, such as a hoarse voice in his throat. After chemotherapy, she persisted for half a year, and her illness recurred and she died.

Most children are not unfilial when they are seriously ill. If they have money, they will spend more. If they have no money, they will spend less. If they have more money, they will be forcibly sent to a big hospital for treatment, and the charges of treatment are not pleasant.

10 years ago, my second aunt was watching TV when she suddenly fell to the ground and was unconscious. My uncle called my cousin while looking for a car to send to the city, and the ambulance in the central hospital picked it up.

My uncle said that when he saw that people couldn't be saved, he told the children that they didn't need to spend that money. But the children don't agree. Although my aunt and uncle are in the countryside and my children are working outside, money is not a big problem. Especially the sudden illness and sudden death, the blow is too heavy. The children must want to go all out to save them.

I'm ready for the operation, my hair has been shaved, and my uncle is still working as a child. But no one doesn't want to save his mother. People have pushed into the elevator and are ready to enter the operating room. My aunt died before she got out of the elevator and entered the operating room.

Before, when there were not so many names of diseases, they were called acute diseases. On the other hand, it is a good thing to die of such an acute disease. People don't toss, they spend a lot of money, and they don't keep it.

If it's a less urgent disease, a terminal illness, money is spent, and people are gone, the whole thing will be empty and money will be gone. To tell the truth, it is better to let patients live a quiet life at the last moment of their lives. People who are overtreated may die earlier or live without dignity.

Not only in rural areas, but also in cities, I feel that if I get seriously ill, especially incurable diseases, I might as well not toss about, and maybe I can live for a few more years. I have always told my children that if they get an incurable disease in the future, they will spend money and toss and turn, and the disease will not be cured.

Such examples are not uncommon. If you can really get through it, then don't treat it at all. Sometimes it may be that children are unfilial, and sometimes they are really helpless. Not that money can cure diseases.

There is a neighbor whose children are filial and considerate to their mothers. My mother was a vegetable in the last few years of her life, with bony bones, deformed face and almost no consciousness. Although there is still that tone, there is no quality of life. A situation like this is very uncomfortable. People are still alive, but not much worse than death. It's just that the living have a process of accepting from the heart.

Therefore, whether in urban or rural areas, it is not entirely unfilial for parents to give up treatment when they are seriously ill. Sometimes giving up treatment may also be a kind of filial piety.