How difficult is it to find someone who is in tune?

I met Ellie two years ago. At that time, she was thirty-two years old and a teacher in a college. Her school is next door to my house. She is my colleague's best friend. We climbed the mountain several times together. I like her unruffled personality, because she is close to me and always calls her for everything. So I became familiar with it.

Ellie is a quiet girl, slow to heat. There is a unique calmness in dealing with people.

But Ellie doesn't have a boyfriend. Teacher is a profession that many people like, while Yili is white, clean, quiet and generous. It should be very popular, so it's left.

Later, it was said that she talked about a boyfriend, H Jun, in college, who had been together for six years, aged 22 to 28, and all the fresh and lovely times in a woman's life were with him.

At that time, H Jun made great efforts to chase Yili, who was excellent, fresh and beautiful, and could sing and dance well. Many people like her. H Jun is tall and burly, slightly fat, with average appearance, average grades and average basketball skills. He can't sing or dance. But he has a burning heart.

In order to keep up with Ellie's pace, he made up his mind to study hard, practice basketball hard and learn to dance street dance.

It is said that fat people have good coordination ability. For half a year, H Jun's basketball skills matched the school team, and he has been accepted by the school team. During the year-end dance rehearsal, she was dragged into the school's literature and art department. Yili was the leader of the literature and art department and successfully won a close contact with the goddess for one month.

Besides, H Jun writes love letters to Yili with his considerate talent every day.

I'm finally with Ellie.

Together, they went from lush campus time to a pluralistic society in the world. They hit it off very well, and they had a good time talking about endless topics together. As it turns out, H Jun is still an interesting fat man.

However, Mr. H is the only son of his parents and runs his own business in Fujian. His future life has been planned, but in this life, Yili has been planned alive.

Break up peacefully. Perhaps all the reasons for not being together are excuses for not loving each other enough.

However, Ellie clearly loves very hard, and she is still helpless in the face of reality. From then on, your debauchery is like a dog, and mine is as light as the sky.

Second,

When we broke up, Ellie was twenty-eight years old and had just entered this college as a teacher. She put aside her inner pain and devoted herself to her work.

A lot of enthusiastic colleagues around Ellie have been introducing boyfriends to her, but she just broke up and doesn't want to fall in love. So I ran aground.

When I met Ellie, she was a little anxious and watched all her friends get married and have children.

The family was impatient, too, and used various connections to introduce Yili to her boyfriend.

She started dating, too. You can really get along, only to find that you have too few choices. She finally realized that her adolescence had long passed, and now she is mature, no, mature, rotting in the branches.

There are many blind dates, but most of them are uncles who are not confused.

A Jun, 42 years old, is engaged in design work and a senior landscape designer of a design institute. Divorced with a nine-year-old daughter.

D Jun, 40, general manager of an activity company in the media industry, divorced and has a seven-year-old son.

F Jun, 48 years old, is the general manager of a real estate company in the real estate construction industry. He is divorced and has a daughter of 18 years old.

K Jun, aged 35, is a senior software engineer in a Microsoft development company in the IT industry. He is unmarried.

…….

The blind date has a good economic foundation, and they are all middle-class people with houses, cars and deposits.

Comparatively speaking, K Jun will be more suitable for Yili in all aspects. K Jun is only three years older than her and belongs to her peers. There should be no "generation gap", the key is unmarried. She set her criteria for choosing a spouse at the age of 34 to 38.

Then the problem is coming. When Yili and K Jun met for the first time, K Jun made it clear that at this age, he wanted to find a young and energetic girl to accompany him for life.

Damn it, isn't it clear that Ellie is old? However, K Jun is really a good-looking talent with excellent technical indicators. So he has been single, either too picky or he doesn't want to settle down.

And even if he wants to settle down, he would rather find a girl in her twenties. An uncle like K Jun, who has an economic foundation and is still single during his career rise, is deeply loved by young girls.

As for why he came on a blind date, it may be a friend's repeated introduction, which is really embarrassing.

They met once, and before a cup of coffee was finished, Mr. K answered the phone and left in a hurry.

Ellie endured the impulse of' criticisms' and pulled K Jun into the blacklist of her heart. You are single. Are you awesome?

But then again, looking around, Ellie is really disheartened.

There are only two kinds of unmarried men aged 34-38, either too good and too many choices. Either it is too low and there is no choice. The rest are married and divorced men, but the proportion of divorced men in this age group is far less than that in their forties.

Men in their thirties, whether unmarried or divorced, are more interested in finding a girl with talent and looks in her twenties. All uncles like beautiful young girls. Youth is really a good medicine for love.

Third,

It took Ellie a long time to accept this reality. Her heart is very contradictory. She doesn't want to find a man younger than herself. She wants to find a man who is in tune, can talk mentally, knows the cold and the hot, and is at least materially better than herself, even if this man is an uncle.

Ellie began to embark on a long blind date.

I haven't heard from Yili for nearly a year since her college moved to the West Third Ring Campus. Occasionally chat on WeChat, I have never asked her other half. After all, everyone is an independent self. Too many people already care about her love. She's already bored, so I won't bother.

I think she will come to me when she needs to talk.

On New Year's Day this year, I didn't work overtime, and Ellie also had a schedule. We have an appointment to play badminton together.

Thirty-four-year-old Ellie wore a sapphire tracksuit, a ponytail and oblique bangs. She smiled sweetly, like transparent jelly. It looks much thinner than two years ago, like a little girl who just graduated from college, and the breath of youth is coming.

Talking about change, Yili said that everything should not be impatient, especially in the face of her long-awaited marriage. It's really difficult to find someone who is in tune.

There was a time last year when I was particularly anxious to play with my friends. Everyone has a lover and children, as if everyone's marriage is good, except me. Plus, one day my parents called and urged me to cry. I'm really worried.

Throwing caution to the wind, I don't mind my divorced uncle in his forties. Only he is really good to me. We have the same language and a good life.

I feel that my requirements are really few.

Fourth,

So under the introduction of a friend, I met Mr. E. Mr. E is 46 years old and divorced. He has a 15-year-old daughter, who is studying in high school, doing some foreign trade business by herself, and her economy is relatively rich.

When we first met, we talked a lot. After getting up, we pulled a chair for me. When we chat, we occasionally pop up a joke and give me more tea from time to time. I think he is an interesting and polite person.

So we left our phone number and added WeChat to each other.

Then E Jun often invites me to dinner and movies. I'd be happy to go. After several times, I also met his friends. However, I always feel that he didn't put me in the position of girlfriend. I don't know if it feels wrong.

After spending some time together, holding hands and kissing, there is no clear relationship, but I feel that he is my boyfriend.

So I often send him messages and call him. But when the news is sent out, it is often a sinking sea, and the phone is disconnected after being called.

He always says that he is busy, in a meeting and so on.

I was thrown cold water again and again, but after each time, he began to contact me enthusiastically. Actually, I just want to ask, where did he put me?

I was angry and ignored him. He drove directly to wait for me downstairs in our company, sending flowers day by day. I waited until I came down.

So, I am relieved again and again. When we are together, he also knows how to be warm and cold, which is very good for me.

But once separated, I seldom contacted him unless he contacted me actively.

He even said nothing about marriage.

I am a very old-fashioned person. Besides, at this age, I finally passed the hurdle in my heart and wanted to find an uncle to get along with. I went to get married.

If he doesn't want to get married, he should make it clear that he doesn't need to spend his limited time like this.

But he just doesn't talk. He will still disappear for a while, and then suddenly appear. Then it disappears and reappears, giving me a feeling of hot and cold.

I have struggled and lost. I keep asking myself, is this really the person I'm looking for? Or are you alone?

The so-called love between my uncle and me has been on and off for more than half a year. Finally, one time I really couldn't stand this mode of getting along. When I called him to prepare for a calm and good chat, he kept saying over there, drunk, headache, can't hear, maybe next time. ...

I suddenly found that it was just a play from beginning to end, thinking that I was the leader. In fact, the target is not on this channel at all, only myself is in the play.

Then, I hacked his phone, QQ and WeChat. Since they will never be on the same channel, why should they consume each other's remaining love flow?

Five,

Yili said that when she was 24 years old, there were many boys around her, thinking that the person she was going to marry in the future must be a hero in the world, so she drove the colorful clouds to pick me up.

At the age of 34, I always felt that I was the only one around me. I just want to find someone who is in tune, get married and have children, and grow old together.

What kind of people do you think are in tune? I asked her.

She said, I think harmony is:

He will laugh at my jokes; My cooking and his appetite; When I need him, he is by my side;

He can hum a few words when I sing; He can give me a hand when I wash clothes; He can understand my story;

We can go shopping together, watch the same movie, listen to the same music and travel to the same place. Even if two people bask in the sun together and don't talk, they don't feel embarrassed.

If we have the same hobbies and topics, understand each other's preferences, respect each other's differences and get along well. That would be great.

After a pause, she added, I really don't ask much, but finding such a person is not a simple matter.

Being with Mr. H is the most harmonious man I have ever met, but I have no choice but to miss it.

A few days ago, I was really stupid. I was in a hurry and regarded myself as a promotional item that was about to expire.

Now that the promotion period is over, I'll start again.

I still have classes, read books, cook, do yoga, watch movies, invite friends to climb mountains or travel for myself during holidays.

Compared with two years ago, my mentality has changed, from being eager to find someone to get married to waiting.

Tagore said that once a person's youth is over, there will be a mature period as beautiful as autumn. At this time, the fruit of life, like cooked rice, is waiting for harvest in a beautiful and calm atmosphere.

Maybe it is natural for others to find someone to fall in love and get married.

But for me, it's really hard to find someone who is in tune. Perhaps, the more precious things are, the harder it is to get.

So I'm trying to find and wait with my heart. Just like waiting for flowers to bloom. The flowering period of each flower is different. Flowers bloom in early spring, lotus in summer, Jin Ju in autumn and plum in winter.

What I can do is to face the present and the future with the best attitude.

Although it is not easy to find someone who is in tune, girls who love to laugh are not too unlucky, and I will not die alone.

When I said this, Yili gave me a big smile, as warm and beautiful as a sunflower in full bloom in the sun.

Yes, girls who love to laugh are not too bad luck. I wish her to find the person who is in tune with her as soon as possible.