What should we do when a girl is defined as having late marriage and late childbearing?

Tonight, after playing badminton, my friends gathered at home to drink sugar water and chat about late marriage and late childbearing.

With the current concept of marriage and love, many people are delaying their age of marriage. As a person in 1991, I remembered the song "Late Marriage" by Li Zongsheng. I modified the lyrics to read: I had a premonition that I would get married late, but I didn't expect that I would still be single when I was almost 30 years old.

Woohoo~~

Sometimes I often think by myself, why do I have to work so hard to understand a stranger, get to know him, and then fall in love with him? My 28 years of real life experience tells me that a person can live a colorful and sunny life. Why am I asking for the trouble of (potentially) unlocking future household bits and pieces?

I am really afraid that my future "beloved man" will be bad;

I am really afraid that I will not be able to take on the role of "wife" and "mother";

I am really afraid that I will not be able to break away from the influence of my original family; I will not be able to reintegrate into a family that relies on each other for the rest of my life;

I am really afraid that his family will be dissatisfied with me; I I also don’t have the ability to balance the relationship between the two families;

I am also really afraid that I will have to face more real problems such as marital infidelity in the future;

At the same time, I am also afraid that when I am over 40 years old, but I am still alone. I eat alone, sleep alone, read alone, travel alone, and live alone...

I dare not be in a noisy crowd. Even if I say I'm not afraid of loneliness, I can't say I don't need company;

I hope that my relatives will always be there, my children will be around my knees, my lover will always be with me, it will be plain and simple.

Finding the other half, for most people, requires time, patience, and perseverance. My cousin joked with me: "How come it is such a simple emotional problem for others, but it has become such a big problem for you?" Sometimes I really want to laugh at myself and wonder why I am in this situation. I really don’t have high requirements for my partner: warmth, responsibility, and passion. Material things are not what I pursue, because I know deeply that a person's inner quality is formed over a long period of time, and the accumulation of material aspects requires subsequent years. Without good qualities, matter will collapse.

Now that I am 29 years old, I must have married and had children later in life, but my heart tells me that I can’t make do with my life, my choices, or my decisions. A relationship with good fate should run in both directions, rather than one person fighting alone.

I will still choose to wait, because I know that a good person will come naturally. At that time, he can accept my good and bad. We tolerate, understand, and struggle together; children are our lives, A continuation of love, not a union for the sake of children.

Time will give me a response, and I believe that God can see my hard work.

Attached reading materials - Late marriage and late childbearing:

1. The age of marriage must not be earlier than 22 years old for men and 20 years old for women. Marriage must be completely voluntary for both men and women. , no party is allowed to force the other party or any third party to interfere.

2. Late childbearing refers to the late childbearing of a married woman who is over 24 years old or who becomes pregnant and gives birth to her first child after a late marriage (population and family planning regulations in different places are slightly different). Late childbearing is conducive to the moral, intellectual and physical development of young women, and is conducive to controlling the number of births and the growth rate of the population. Late childbearing will delay the age of childbearing, lengthen the gap between two generations, and slow down population growth.