My husband asks that the apartment we rent be used as a wedding room for my brother-in-law. Should I refuse?

01.

Marriage cannot be separated from firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea. Marriage can make people realistic, but marriage can also make people naive.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the most difficult thing to grasp in marriage. When your mother-in-law who was originally lukewarm to you suddenly treats you very well one day, will you accept it with peace of mind?

At least Guo Shan found it hard to accept. Guo Shan's workplace is far away from her home. She lives in the work dormitory during the week and only goes home to eat on weekends.

When I came home at the weekend, my mother-in-law, who had always been indifferent to Guo Shan, suddenly stood up and gave her a big shrimp: "Daughter-in-law, you eat more, these big shrimps cost 60 yuan a pound. You worked hard last week, so make up for it today."

After listening to her mother-in-law, Guo Shan realized that shrimps are so expensive. Her mother-in-law put four more shrimps into Guo Shan's bowl, feeling very distressed. Said: "Look at how thin your body is, you need to take more supplements."

"Mom, I have lost weight recently." Guo Shan said with a smile, and put 2 shrimps in the bowl into her mother-in-law's bowl.

"You are grown up now. It's time to get ready to have a baby. Why lose weight?" The mother-in-law brought over another chopstick of braised pork.

Guo Shan felt flattered by how kind her mother-in-law was to Guo Shan today. You know, when Guo Shan usually goes home on weekends, her mother-in-law would ignore her.

02.

My mother-in-law started to "bring about childbirth" in disguise again: "Our family has been thinking about having a child for several years, but you and your wife both have good careers, so we don't dare to push it. You, so, there is something we want to discuss with you." The mother-in-law couldn't hold back her temper and decided to say everything in her heart at once.

"What's the matter? Mom." Guo Shan knew that the meal was not that simple, so she still asked her mother-in-law.

My mother-in-law put down her chopsticks and said, "Don't you still have a house? Can you let your brother-in-law live in it for a while? It's empty anyway."

Guo Shan knew that her mother-in-law I actually came here for that house. That house was bought by Guo Shan with the money she saved before she got married.

House prices were low in the past few years, and her family supported the down payment, so Guo Shan used the money she saved from work to buy her first house in her life.

The house we live in now was a wedding gift from Guo Shan’s parents when they got married. Now the mother-in-law's idea is that she can't afford to get married, so she still covets the house that Guo Shan bought before marriage?

"Mom, that house is rented out now. The tenant has set a two-year lease term and paid the rent in full at once." Guo Shan was originally afraid that her mother-in-law's family would miss her pre-marriage house. , I rented it out specifically. I didn’t expect my mother-in-law to say such a thing even though she knew the house was rented out.

03.

“It’s better to rent it to someone else than to my brother-in-law. My brother-in-law finally found a partner this time and is now pregnant with three children. It's 3 months. If we don't have a house and my girlfriend doesn't agree to get married, we need to break up. We finally have grandchildren in our family, and you don't have them. We can't let our family be laughed at like this all the time. My brother-in-law can't afford a house now. You guys There happens to be another vacant house, so I will help my brother-in-law. When the time comes, I will tell my brother-in-law’s girlfriend that he bought the house and the rent of the house will be paid to you secretly without letting her know,” said the mother-in-law. Because of her own "wishful thinking" and fearing that Guo Shan would not agree, she burst into tears and started crying.

Guo Shan was frightened by her mother-in-law. Seeing that Guo Shan had not spoken, her mother-in-law was completely confused and almost knelt down to beg Guo Shan. She was so frightened that she hurriedly hid in the bedroom.

The husband comforted his mother-in-law and said: "Mom, borrowing a house as a wedding room is a big deal, so don't push it too hard."

"Brother, at worst, we will pay your rent. Rent it to us, and then I can make plans to buy a house myself when my job becomes more stable." The brother-in-law said it was a big deal, which shocked Guo Shan. What does it mean to pay the rent? Isn’t it natural to pay rent? Does the brother-in-law still expect Guo Shan to give him the house as a wedding room for free?

In the evening, Guo Shan discussed with her husband whether to lend the house to her brother-in-law. What her husband meant was that Guo Shan bought the house before her marriage and it was up to her to make her own decision.

Guo Shan felt: She and her husband got married, and her mother-in-law did not spend a penny. The house she lives in now was also bought by her parents. Why did her brother-in-law ask her to borrow a house when she got married, saying that he would pay the rent? Whether it will be given in the future is another matter.

Besides, my brother-in-law doesn’t have a reliable career. If I expect him to buy a house and then return the house to Guo Shan, I don’t know how he will get the house back until the Year of the Monkey.

Guo Shan has a headache when she thinks about this house. Let’s borrow it. She really doesn’t want to borrow it. She also feels that she is too unkind. She didn’t expect that the house she bought before marriage was originally What was a good thing has now turned into a contradiction.

Qiao Mu’s emotional message:

In fact, when it comes to the relationship between relatives, Qiao Mu has always agreed with the ancient saying, “A fight with rice nourishes kindness, a burden with rice nourishes hatred.”

This is just a house. If the other party is a grateful and repaying person, then it would be okay. However, in the article, I did not see the generosity of my mother-in-law, nor did I see the "brother-in-law". sensible".

The mother-in-law thinks that the daughter-in-law’s house is rented to others, so it is better to lend it to her younger son as a wedding room so that the younger son can get married as soon as possible. This should be the most important meaning of the daughter-in-law’s house.

As for the brother-in-law, when he said "I'll have to pay my sister-in-law's rent at the worst", he felt that his sister-in-law should lend him the house to get married. You see, I am your brother-in-law. I borrowed your house to get married and paid rent. How generous I am.

In fact, if you really want to borrow your sister-in-law’s house to get married, you should first prepare the contract and prepare the rent. Since you are renting a house, you must be prepared to rent a house.

An even more important point is that the mother-in-law wanted to use her sister-in-law’s house to deceive her daughter-in-law, saying that her son bought the house himself.

Qiao Mu feels that marriage is a lifelong matter and cannot be packaged in lies. Since you have not bought a house by yourself, don't pretend.

Do not deceive the other party if you fail to meet the other party's conditions. This is the basic requirement of being a human being.

At least the mother-in-law and brother-in-law like to take advantage of each other and cannot suffer any loss. It is really hard to say what will happen in the future if this house is borrowed for marriage.

It is best not to borrow. Fortunately, Guo Shan's husband left the matter of borrowing the house to Guo Shan and respected Guo Shan. This is really good.

Some things are hard to go back to once they start, so rejection is the best way.