What is sincerity?

Sincerity is like the morning sunshine, which shines gracefully on the grass through the leaves. It is not only gorgeous, but also reflects the coldness in the dark, which is real beauty. We should not only see the bright side of sincerity, but also see the "dark side"

For family members, we like to report good news instead of bad news, thinking that this is love for our parents and we are reluctant to let them worry; We know the truth of something, but we are afraid that the other party can't accept it, so we lie about our military situation and call it a "white lie". If "sincerity" means "truth" and "honesty" rather than "lying", then how to explain "white lies"? It is conceivable that in the face of an innocent sick child, our hearts often choose some facts to avoid, which is "untrue" to some extent. We clearly know that we are lying, but strangely, although we hate and even hate lies at ordinary times, only such lies make us feel at ease at that time. So we call it a "white lie" because lying is not what I want, but because I can't stand it; We believe that it is "goodwill" that makes us abandon "truth" and thus fulfill "sincerity". In fact, only by respecting "truth" can we achieve "sincerity", and only by combining "sincerity" can we achieve "goodwill"

When we report good news to our parents instead of bad news, we think that when we protect them from harm with "good" lies, the biggest harm they suffer comes from our dishonesty and distrust in the name of "good". We often cheat people who trust us, and the last thing that people who trust us can't stand is that we cheat them. What we want to protect and comfort most is the person we really love, so we put on a carefully drawn smile mask for them in class, and the person who really loves us just wants us to take off the mask and show our true self, even if there is a sad face behind the mask.

So does this mean telling the truth, being honest and not hiding it? We always have such a worry: many times, the truth will hurt people, but it is also the truth. There can be many kinds of statements, and different statements can often produce completely different effects. A little boy asked an adopted little girl: What's the difference between a biological child and an adopted child? "The little girl replied," the mother said, "the biological child was born from the mother's stomach, and the adopted child was born from the mother's heart."

When we are sincere and willing to tell others the truth, we have decided to respect and face the truth honestly. Then, maybe we can make ourselves more sincere and more sincere-instead of deceiving a person with "goodwill", we should try our best to choose a way that suits him best to tell the truth. Like the topic of death, we have to tell the truth. For adults, there is an adult saying, for children, use the language of children. There are many methods, but the purpose is the same: to help him understand the current actual situation and our real thoughts, and to minimize the harm caused by this fact to others. It would be great if we could guide him through the maze and help him tide over the difficulties. At this time, language is not only a tool to convey information, but also an art to comfort people.