Before my daughter got married, I prepared a house and a car and had a meal with my mother. Should I persuade my daughter to break up?

When people live to 60 years old, they will lose interest in many problems and understand many things that have been entangled for half their lives. But no matter when, my heart will never let go of my children. Especially me, since my wife died suddenly 12 years ago, I have taken care of my only daughter, Wenjing. It can be said that she is the whole reliance of my life.

My daughter Wenjing, like her mother, is a knowledgeable woman. Especially after Wenjing finished college, she took good care of me. She is afraid that I will be alone at home and will come back to see me by car every weekend. I am content to have such a filial daughter. However, as the saying goes, the daughter is not allowed to stay, and the daughter will marry sooner or later. I am facing this problem now. How can I put it? I hope to see my daughter get married as a wife, but I'm worried that she won't have time to spend with herself after marriage. The feeling of sadness and joy is really hard.

However, my daughter is 29 years old and has reached the age of talking about marriage. Even if I don't give up, I can't delay my daughter's marriage.

My daughter has already told me about her future son-in-law. The young man named Xiao Lei and Wenjing were classmates at first, and they didn't have much in common during their college years. But two years ago, Xiao Lei suddenly began to pursue peace. The daughter felt that the two were congenial and old classmates, so she agreed to this relationship.

After dating for a while, Wenjing took Xiao Lei home for me to check. To tell the truth, I have a general feeling about this young man. From his manners, I can perceive that he has a lot of negative energy, unlike when he was a child, although he was poor, he always had an indomitable struggle in his heart. To digress, I came from a poor family. When I was down and out, I had only a few dollars left, and I was worried about how to fill my stomach every day. Later, through my own efforts, my life gradually improved. It was not until they met their quiet mother that they continued to work hard and achieved today's small achievements. Although they are far from being rich and expensive, they no longer worry about housing and eating.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but my daughter worships Xiao Lei very much and says she won't marry him unless he marries me. I understand that a girl in love is like a veil over her eyes, and most of the time she can't see through each other's hearts. Maybe I love my daughter so much that I agreed to their marriage after she coaxed me. During that time, I repeatedly asked myself: Is it too vigilant? There is no perfect son-in-law in the world. After the big deal, Xiao Lei will be promoted by training, so that he can grow up quickly and achieve something.

It's a poor family tradition. Fathers really worry about their children all the time, but men are sometimes stupid, so they use practical actions to express all their love. As early as when my daughter was in college, I bought a two-bedroom apartment in the city center. At that time, I thought, I am an only child, I have to prepare the wedding room early, so as not to worry and find a suitable location. Of course, I also have some selfishness. The reason why I am preparing for the wedding room is nothing more than to keep my daughter around and not let her marry on impulse, and it will be too late to regret it. I don't think it's an exaggeration for old people to have this idea. After all, I am alone, and I really can't live without my daughter's company.

In several conversations, Xiao Lei was very modest and embarrassed to say that his family conditions were average and he could not give Wenjing a comfortable nest. The daughter did everything and said bluntly, "Didn't I tell you so long ago?" You don't have to buy a house, my dad has already bought it. "

It can be seen that my daughter is really frank and careless about everything, but it just shows that my daughter really cares about Xiao Lei, so she will try her best to persuade me to agree to this marriage. Naturally, I was obedient to my daughter and promised Xiao Lei that their family didn't have to prepare a wedding room. Besides, I'm going to buy a scooter for the couple. My daughter was so happy that she said excitedly, "I knew my father loved me the most."

After all, getting married is a big deal. Only discussed with two children, ignoring the in-laws side. So I suggested that the two families meet, get to know each other and discuss the marriage in detail. To this end, I specially called my sister and asked her to negotiate as an aunt to avoid differences or misunderstandings on many sensitive issues. When the date was set, our two families finally sat together and communicated the marriage of our two children during dinner. Unexpectedly, through talking with my mother-in-law, I lost confidence in this marriage.

We had a good talk at first, but my mother didn't know what she was thinking, and suddenly asked me to sell the wedding room to my daughter, and then used the money to buy a bigger house in their hometown county. It was said that it was for the good of the children, to make them less stressed, and that she knew a relative who just had a new house to sell, and advised me not to miss this opportunity.

I felt terrible at that time. Although I have prepared a wedding room for seven or eight years, no one has ever lived in it. How can it not be suitable for couples to live in? I suspect that my mother must have her own selfishness in making this special request. Although the county is only a few tens of kilometers away from the urban area, the living environment is completely different. I can't let my daughter go backwards.

I don't agree with this, but after eating a meal, I got angry. From what my mother said, we can know that she should be a shrewd and serious old woman. On the way back, my elder sister said to me in a bad temper, "Brother, please think it over. This house is not for sale. This in-laws have ulterior motives. " Just now, when I went to the toilet, I overheard her talking with Xiao Lei. She is going to sell our house and buy a suite in the county, so that the name of the room can be written as Xiao Lei, and then they are going to buy a small house for her little son as a down payment ... "

At that moment, I completely understood why my mother always cared about the wedding room I gave her daughter. It turns out that she has her own wishful thinking. Before the marriage was finished, my mother wondered whether her simple-minded daughter could withstand her mother-in-law's "torture" in her future marriage. I was dizzy and worried about my daughter.

The more I think about it, the more I feel timid. When we married our daughter, we not only prevented our in-laws from spending a penny more, but also prepared our own wedding room and car. They are not satisfied yet, and they are still calculating their own interests. This mercenary, sinister family really doesn't deserve to be our in-laws, so I decided to cut the gordian knot and advised my daughter to break up with Xiao Lei so as not to be routine in the future.

My daughter won't listen. She seems to be possessed and obedient to Xiao Lei's words. For this reason, I scolded her, saying that she was blinded by emotion. Maybe I've never been so serious about her, and she ran away in a rage. When I left, I left a sentence: even if I was fooled, I would marry him.

Well, things are a little bad. A girl with a pure heart happened to meet a boy with an evil plan. My father is a loser. At the beginning, he just doted on his daughter blindly, forgetting to educate her that people's hearts are sinister and everything should be thought twice. Water under the bridge. This concerns my daughter's lifelong happiness. I cannot compromise. Even if my daughter doesn't want to, I will tell her the stakes and let her wake up from her dream.

Marriage is not a joke, I hope my daughter will not be impulsive. I wonder if it will hurt my daughter invisibly. I hope my daughter understands that everything her father does is to make her happy.