"Ode to Joy 2": Why is Qiu Yingying always "unkind to others"?

In the first season, she encountered a "white scumbag" and was played, betrayed, and betrayed. Later on, the "white scumbag" actually used all kinds of despicable means to deal with her.

In the second season, she finally got out of the shadow of the "white scumbag" and found the honest programmer Ying Qin. Qiu Yingying had just put down her guard and prepared to meet Ying Qin's parents, but the good times did not last long. Ying Qin He was actually a "patient" in the late stage of "straight male cancer". After accidentally knowing that she was not a virgin, he disliked her and decisively broke up with her.

Why was it that Qiu Yingying was the one who gave up on her two relationships and was kicked out?

Let’s take a look at Qiu Yingying’s character first. She is simple and straightforward, has a straightforward personality, is reckless and reckless, has no idea about everything, and loves love more than anything else.

He only cries after being bruised all over his body. He doesn’t understand the rules of this world and doesn’t know how to protect himself. His EQ and IQ are almost zero.

To put it bluntly, she is "stupid", and not just any "stupid". To say that she is hopelessly "stupid" is not an exaggeration.

Simple mind

Yingying's main character is that she is simple-minded and has simple ideas. If others treat her a little better, she will be so happy that she can't find anything to do with it.

In the first season, Supervisor Bai invited her to attend classes and work with her, and protected her with his arms on the subway, which would make her scream with excitement when she came home.

It is obvious that he likes the "white scumbag", and let the "white scumbag" see it and have despicable thoughts, which leads to the final tragedy. It's due to character.

I can’t tell the difference between true love and falsehood. I simply think that the “white scumbag man” really loves her. Even if she has doubts, she will immediately believe and forgive him as long as the “white scumbag man” explains a little bit. .

After Supervisor Bai’s “scumbag” qualities were revealed, Guan Guan and Fan Shengmei both kindly reminded her. Not only did she not listen, but she also thought Guan Guan was jealous that she had found an excellent boyfriend, a “white scumbag.” In just a few words, she can deliver herself without reservation.

As Fan Shengmei said: Even if you fall in love, you will become a fool.

Her simplicity is also reflected in her kindness to everyone.

In the first season, when she first met Ying Qin, she ran to deliver bacon rice to Ying Qin in the middle of the night just because Ying Qin and she were from the same hometown.

Later, the two fell in love with each other and slowly began to date. However, what was originally a good relationship ended up being rejected by Ying Qin because she was not a virgin.

In the past, it was said that a girl was simply a compliment, but if it was too simple, it would become stupid. Girls with simple minds and simple ideas are especially easy to be targeted by "scumbags". Because she lacks judgment and self-protection, it is easy for others to take advantage of her and become a lamb to be slaughtered in their eyes.

In this complex society, people who are too simple and have no ability to protect themselves can easily become unkind to others.

Love is as big as the sky

Another characteristic of Qiu Yingying is: love is as big as the sky.

She loses herself when she falls in love, her eyes and heart are all about the other person, and she likes to live in her own fantasy. No matter what others do to her, she can make a beautiful excuse for them.

In the first season, the "white scumbag" secretly moved Qu Xiaoxiao behind her back, and she poured all her hatred on Qu Xiaoxiao.

Although Xiao Xiaoxiao's behavior is indeed disgusting, the "white scumbag" nature of the "white scumbag" is also obvious. She not only refused to admit it, but also found various excuses to cover it up.

She obviously felt wronged and suspicious, but as soon as the "white scumbag man" explained to her, she immediately believed and forgave him.

Even if the "white scumbag"'s "scumbag" nature was completely exposed, she still held on to some illusions. It was not until she finally lost her love and job that she became completely desperate.

If the "white scumbag man" had explained a few words at that time, she would definitely forgive him and return to the "white scumbag man".

In the second season, pain is inevitable after breaking up with Ying Qin, but it shouldn’t be so painful that you can’t control yourself and ignore your work.

The sales volume of the online store dropped. The manager came to ask her about her situation. She did not answer and just hugged the manager and cried, saying that she was so sad. So the manager had to let her go home and rest.

She felt that it was Qu Xiaoxiao's fault and her own fault that Ying Qin disliked her for not being a virgin. Only Ying Qin had no problem.

Love is too humble in love, so humble that without oneself, one cannot get the respect of the other person. Zhang Ailing said: "When she met him, she became very low, as low as the dust, but she My heart is happy, and flowers bloom from the dust." But Zhang's love failed to bloom in the end.

Dare not face reality

Qiu Yingying’s biggest shortcoming is that she likes to live in her own fantasy world and dare not face reality. She always takes it for granted that everyone is a good person. She is sincere and will not hurt her. Once she gets close to the truth, she will use all kinds of excuses to cover up and escape.

In the first season, Guan Sui'er told her that Qu Xiaoxiao stuffed a note into the "white scumbag man" in order to remind her that there was something wrong with the "white scumbag man"'s character, but she didn't After admitting this, she was still angry at Guan Guan, feeling that she and Qu Xiaoxiao had lied to her and bullied her.

Later, she discovered that the "white scumbag" was dating other women behind her back. She cried and asked Fan Shengmei: "Sister Fan, can I believe that he is just for fun?"

If cheating is just for fun, then domestic violence is just for fun.

Fan Shengmei and Guan Sui'er accompanied her to get the gift. Fan Shengmei was so angry that she smashed the "white scumbag's" bed and clothes. As a result, the "white scumbag" smashed her computer and iPad. The police were called to slander Fan Shengmei, but it took several twists and turns to clarify.

But when Qiu Yingying went to work the next day, she was still fantasizing about whether the "white scumbag" would apologize to her and whether she should forgive him.

In the second season, Andy told her: Ying Qin probably won’t be able to come back. She burst into tears after hearing this, so Andy never dared to tell the truth to her again. He didn't dare to give her a ticket after he got it, so he had to ask Fan Shengmei for help.

Fan Shengmei did not dare to tell her the truth, so she could only weave the programmer's lies to comfort her.

On the way Andy sent her to the airport, she actually knew that Ying Qin would not want her. She said: He would rather spend more than a thousand yuan on a plane ticket than drive me back.

Andy looked at her sad look and couldn't bear to tell her the truth, so he had to lie to her and said: "Ying Qin is worth looking forward to." When Qiu Yingying heard what Andy said, she immediately boarded the plane happily. .

After returning to Shanghai, she was heartbroken to know that Ying Qin had a girlfriend.

Guan Sui'er couldn't help but persuade her: If I were you, I would give up Yingqin. If a person has been dating me for so long, he still doesn't know my inner self and doesn't know who I am. What kind of person is that, then I don’t think I need to wrong myself and stay with such a person for the rest of my life.

Qiu Yingying repeatedly said: Ying Qin is not a bad person. He used to be so good to me, but why did he break up?

Later, Guan Sui'er did not dare to tell the truth to her, so he could only apologize to her and said: "These are all my personal thoughts, don't take it to heart."

In fact, it doesn't matter if you are simple-minded, stupid, in love, or confused about everything. You are young. Who didn't make mistakes in their youth? Who has not been bullied by life? When people are young, it is especially easy to make stupid mistakes, and it is also especially easy to correct mistakes. This is called growth.

Don’t just make mistakes. After making mistakes, you can face the mistakes, think and summarize, and break through the old self and achieve a new self. However, if a person dare not face reality and is unwilling to accept growth, he will always live in an illusory world. If she always needs others to weave lies for her to live, then her world will never mature and she will repeat the mistakes of the past again and again.