How to get rid of my servility?

How to change yourself, don't be too servile.

Some friends are very dissatisfied with themselves. In the interaction with others, I often feel that I have paid a lot, asking questions about others, sending birthday gifts and blessings, and usually helping others do this and that. But others seem ungrateful and have a bad attitude towards themselves. Sometimes I feel that I am very cheap and unpopular, and I am afraid that others will ignore me. What should I do?

Tools/raw materials

life history

Methods/steps

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Cultivate more self-confidence for yourself. Sometimes I am afraid that others will ignore me because I am not confident. Maybe it's because I'm too timid, used to being cautious and not good at communication. But remember, you are on your own. Doing your own thing well will give you confidence and will give you confidence.

2

Be yourself and don't imitate others. If you try to imitate others, you just wear a mask and lack your own personality. In the eyes of others, imitation will be regarded as a joke, and you will only feel that you are fake. So I can't make friends I really like.

three

Don't covet others' return. You can care about others, which is a good thing and your advantage. But I want others to return, that is, I have psychological problems and greed. In this way, your concern for others is only hypocrisy. Think more about what a true friend is and what you should pay as a friend.

four

Know what you spend money for. Is it to better communicate with others and bring benefits to others, or to make yourself look superior to others? If you feel that you are willing and happy when you give, then you are selfless and really care about others. If it is not from the heart, it is best not to do it.

five

More self-reflection. Find out why, and then reflect on yourself. Aim at your own goals and check whether your actions are beneficial to your life and others. Think more about doing something useful to your goal. You can break the old pattern and start trying new things.

six

Don't just give. If you always do this, others will regard it as a habit and think it is what you should do, but they will not be sure of your efforts and will not appreciate it. So when you do it, you need to get feedback from the other side. If the other person doesn't say anything, just tell me how you feel, what you think and what you want the other person to do. Then the other person will understand you and think that you have paid.

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Matters needing attention

Love yourself and don't think of yourself as the savior of others.