From Avenue to Simplicity-Living in a Minimalist Way

Minimalism is the highest state of life. The key to minimalism is to choose, what to choose and what to abandon, which is actually a kind of wisdom.

The other is the interference of WeChat group. We don't like to eat malnourished food. Similarly, the WeChat group with poor nutrition can completely quit. Everyone will join many free WeChat groups, because it is free, so it doesn't matter if you add it. But because 80% people like freedom, people with this mentality want to get some benefits from you, so you can't take advantage, including the so-called connections. Everyone is dreaming in the group, dreaming that they can have the help of the nobles, but unfortunately the nobles are not in the group, but outside the group. If we want to change our life, whether it is good or bad, the only way is to jump out of the current circle.

All our addictive behaviors can be understood as two reasons. The first is to escape, often because of the pressure of life. In addictive habits, you can get out of your original living space for a short time and get a false sense of relaxation. The second is emptiness. If your time can't be occupied by what you love, you can only pass the time by brushing your mobile phone.

When we try a new thing, the best attitude is to believe it and prove it. Because only practice can know whether this truth suits you. What others say is just other people's life experiences.

Therefore, whether life is simple or not, the highest state is to insist on doing a small thing and then have time to think about how to do it well.

Three realms of minimalism: ① Throw away all things you don't like, throw away all things you seem to like and dislike, and leave only things you like, and people and things you like are naturally happy; 2 having a happy confidant who can laugh and cry, it is not so important to be happy or unhappy; Let go of all external dependence, the family around the wall, lying on the floor, drinking and singing, free.

Let life trample, it is better to turn over and stand up and grasp your own life. The mysterious charm of life lies in the unknowability of potential.

"WeChat communication is more convenient, Weibo has more access to information, and Zhihu has more access to industry knowledge, but it seems that work efficiency and professional skills have not improved. Why? " The reason for your question is that we get fragmented information. We divide 24 hours a day into 1440 minutes, and each minute may receive more than one message. Imagine that such a cursory glance and cursory browsing will definitely have no effect. How long has it been since you did anything deep? The so-called depth means only doing one thing for more than 2 hours. "

I want to make three changes: ① I don't play with my mobile phone when I eat, ② I don't go into the bedroom, ③ I don't take my mobile phone when I go to the toilet, and ④ I watch my mobile phone at a fixed time every day.

Everyone has clothes. Everyone has more clothes.

Finishing clothes is a concrete action of spiritual practice, which we must need. The first step is to classify and know how many shirts and socks you have; The second step is to throw away inappropriate dislikes; The third step is to leave what you like; The fourth step is repeated and must be thrown away; Step five is useless. Throw it away. After these five steps, I basically entered the relative time stage of the article; Step six, throw away things that are not suitable for us. No matter how much we like it, we should simplify it. Our clothes should have a certain style, color and texture, so don't buy them as long as they don't conform. Step 7, allocate the space.

Apply perfectionism to your work, and you will do better and better. Use rare confusion in your life, and your life will be smoother and smoother.

Minimalism principle: the first principle is now, the second principle is like, the third principle is least, the fourth principle is self, and the fifth principle is simplicity in breadth, not depth. Once you have established your own style and preferences, you want to do your best in this direction. I want to buy the best clothes, the best bags, and choose the best lover within my financial tolerance. Not that you have many lovers at the same time, but that you have one lover, but you love him thoroughly.

The premise of minimalist life is that there are enough things, not tidying them up. Why is the home so crowded when so many clothes have been streamlined? I told him because your furniture is too big, too much and takes up too much space. Think about how big the wardrobe is, but how much space is occupied by sofas, coffee tables, TV cabinets, tables and chairs.

The appearance of your home is the appearance of your soul.

Furniture will occupy most of the home area, and the bedroom is used for sleeping, only the bed and wardrobe are needed. Furniture can be small, mobile and versatile.

Once we have something, from that moment on, we are also owned by it. Once these items exceed the necessary limits, we will be owned by what we have and become their slaves.

Living in this world, we naturally have something necessary. The so-called necessity is to meet your basic needs of food, clothing, housing and transportation, and then put a lot of time and energy into what you think is meaningful and valuable, so that life can burn warmly and fully. As long as there are necessary, minimum and best items. Having is having, so keep it simple.

Minimalism is a sentence: according to your own actual situation, you have enough items to meet your needs and achieve good quality at the same time. Namely: "less things, more poetic life."

Separation and minimalism is to find the people, things and things you really love through subtraction. Imagine how happy it is to be with love all day.

There are not many books, but they are very refined and apply what they have learned.

What is a book, like an old friend, an old friend full of wisdom? As long as you spend tens of dollars to buy a copy, she can remind you not to get carried away when you are proud, remind you not to sink when you are frustrated, give you warmth when you are lonely, and remind you to stay awake when you are crazy. Really, nothing is more cost-effective than reading.

How to organize books: First, take out every book, make sure it is no longer needed, and throw it directly into the garbage basket. Second, classify the books that have not been thrown away. Third, choose three books, at most three, a professional book, an interest book and other miscellaneous books (books that broaden your horizons and increase your knowledge). Fourth, start with a certain category, such as interest category, assuming it is philosophy, browse this kind of books roughly and throw away those that have no reserved value. Fifth, increase procurement. For example, if I am interested in philosophy, then the existing books are not enough, so I will buy more. What should I buy? Buy classic books. The advantage of classic books is that they can be preserved for a long time and can be read at any time. Sixth, make an annual reading plan, in which field do you want to make a breakthrough or in-depth study. Seventh, after reading a book or even a paragraph, I feel reasonable. Just use it quickly and internalize it as your own. This is wisdom, or it belongs to others.

Because the most important thing for young people is professional progress and career growth, since your main task at this stage is professional progress, you need to put 80% of your energy into professional reading. Many young people are confused and suspicious, largely because they have not made progress in their careers, and society has not affirmed their self-worth, which leads to self-doubt.

So how to pronounce it: 1. Choose a direction, 2. Find out the classic books in this field, 3. Don't worry, study hard. So, the secret is not how much you read, but how much this book has changed you. If you haven't read the previous text, you can just read this paragraph.

Is to develop your talents in your own field. No matter whether you earn wealth or not, such a life is beautiful.

The story tells the mistakes made by the owner in his work for so many years: without ambition, he will get angry if he has ambition. Here, ambition means what kind of person he wants to be. What have you really done and how much have you paid for your ambition? Without ambition, you won't mobilize all your energy and resources to do a hard thing. Therefore, make sure that what you like, what you are good at, and what you can earn to support yourself are the general direction of your career ambition. Second, if there is no accumulation, doing administration is actually a handyman, and the growth is not strong. If 45 years old and 25 years old are basically treated equally, it means they are in the wrong business. A person's energy is limited and his output is constant. If you want to break through, you must become an expert in a certain field and improve the gold content of unit products. Another problem is that you often change careers and develop regions, because changing careers means updating your knowledge, skills and contacts and needs to be re-cultivated. The third is pride. With proud capital, pride can be realized. "The mountains are not dusty, but the sea is rich." I believe that no one will help a low-level but arrogant person. No one can do anything without the help of others. Zeng Guofan once said that "knowing without laughing" is the first priority. Just don't laugh at others because they can't do it. You should pay more attention to the advantages of others, respect others, and pay more attention to your own shortcomings, so as to be lenient with others. Laziness, the unity of knowledge and action, knowing without doing is like not knowing. Since there is no lofty ambition and lack of accumulation, there is pride, but as long as we firmly grasp diligence, we can also achieve something.

No ambition, no accumulation, complacency and laziness are the fundamental reasons for my failure.

The pursuit of novelty is a weakness that people can't control. No interest can last long, except for pleasure. This kind of interest does not need to create value, it is purely consumer interest, and everyone likes it. But if interest is to create value for us, it is bound to be accompanied by boredom. Since they are all accompanied by a certain degree of boredom, choose one that you are good at. The better you are, the better you can do. The more social affirmation, the stronger the sense of self-worth, which can largely hedge boredom.

A great part of the happiness that people pursue in life comes from a sense of accomplishment, which can also be called superiority, that is, we do better than others in a certain aspect. Aside from opportunities and other factors, the achievement of this sense of accomplishment mainly comes from your talent. Talent means that you can be better than most people in some way. Just find it, improve it and stick to it. The stupidest thing is to correct your shortcomings all day without giving full play to your talents. Know what you are good at and where you are not talented. Then spare no effort to maximize what you are good at and try to avoid what you are not good at.

Practice is very important. If you want to do something, do it first. When you meet something you don't understand, come back to read and ask for advice. Don't be afraid to do it because of being swayed by considerations of loss. You know, there is no perfect execution, only a perfect beginning. Once you start, it's perfect. Don't set up artificial obstacles for yourself.

Sometimes we attach too much importance to the so-called interpersonal skills, management knowledge and instructions to do things. But don't forget, all these have a foundation, that is, your professional ability, what job you are engaged in and what you eat. Without this, everything else is rootless, and the pursuit of it is to abandon the root and pursue the end. The stronger your professional ability, the less you need other so-called skills, and the simpler your life. Being outstanding in a certain field allows you to live in the way you like. Depression at work doesn't just come from work itself. The boss's closed office and the pressure of cultural differences will all become your burden. Excellent medicine can greatly enhance your control over these things. People must form their own core competitiveness, so that the market will think of you the first time when allocating resources, so the first is to find the gap, and the second is to play their talents in this gap.

The correct way is to choose-focus-repeat-insist. Invest enough time to be good at something, and then passion will come into being. Having special skills will bring you many pleasant feelings. There is never a perfect job or lover in the world, and there is no ready-made thing tailored for you that will only be made for a lifetime. The only thing that belongs to us is our will. We can take the time to make choices, make the objective food become what we need, find that relatively good job, find that relatively good person, make sincere efforts, and in the process, it will turn into mutual wishful thinking.

Now there's only one question left. What's your specialty? I remember the teacher said that the so-called major means doing the same thing in your own professional environment. You do better than others, and you need less time to do it well. According to this standard.

If you sum up the perfect life in one sentence, what should it be? I think it should be: a belief (after all, we have something to believe in. If you believe that hard work can improve your life, then work hard; If you believe that intrigue can bring happiness, then intrigue; You believe that being kind to others can make a big difference, then be kind to others; What you believe, you must have it first, then you can talk about it. A career. A family. Close friends. A hobby. A space.

It is more important to make a plan than to carry it out. Don't blame yourself for lack of self-discipline, because self-discipline is too difficult, so failure is normal. Willpower is like a cell phone battery, it will run out, but it will also be full. The core problem is how to charge self-discipline so that it will not fail so quickly.

What goals should be set? Goals are divided into several categories: economic foundation, study, health, family, contacts and habits.

There are two levels of goal planning, making plans &; The reason why the execution plan is not in place is related to the plan we made, so don't blame yourself for the execution. The route is wrong, how can it be difficult to put it in place?

The first principle of making a plan is to be few but precise. People's resources and energy are limited, so we should focus on a few goals and have more than one can chew. Setting too many goals can easily distract you. In the end, you may not achieve any of them, but it will be counterproductive. Take out the things that have the greatest impact on your development at present, such as making money at present, and then get rid of all bad habits that are not conducive to making money, such as laziness and procrastination. Don't set seven or eight goals at the same time. This seems to be Marek Pentium's style. In fact, bluffing and spending the initial passion is unsustainable.

Set three goals at most every year, and delete all others. In my opinion, three is enough, 1 is the best. (1) Find a piece of paper and write down all your weekly plans. 100 will do. Write them out first. Learning belongs to one category, healthy belongs to one category, and similar items are merged. For example, health, beauty group running, swimming, fitness. In fact, their purpose is the same, that is, for health, so it is enough to leave one. (2) Then delete it from the easiest place and ask yourself, is this the most important and urgent thing this year? Do we have to do it this year? Can I bear the consequences of not doing it? If you delete it like this, there will probably be 10 goals left. You will encounter real difficulties here, that is, it is difficult to give up. It seems that everyone wants to achieve it. This is the most critical part of making a plan. You must keep deleting and discarding until there are only three goals left.

Set three goals, and then analyze: ① Is it feasible? Ask yourself whether this goal is suitable for your ability. For example, if you just graduated, you set the goal of being a top 500 executive within one year. This goal is beyond your ability and cannot be lower than your ability, otherwise you will have no motivation. The principle is that monkeys can pick peaches and jump. ② Is it clear enough? People often say that they want to lose weight this year, but this is a vague goal. 1 kg is to lose weight, and 10 kg is also to lose weight, so be clear. (3) Whether it can be measured, whether there is a clear standard to measure, such as whether the relationship with parents is good or not, and how to measure it is not a good goal. Why do you want to achieve this goal? Don't listen to other people's advice. Ask yourself if you really want it, because no one is happy or sad for you. ⑤ How long will it take? Although the annual target has been set, it may not be achieved until June 5438+February. Be sure to set a time, not too long, easy to delay, nor too short, otherwise it will make us very tired. Who can help you achieve your goals and analyze your own resources to use? ⑦ What is the biggest obstacle? Remember that there must be various difficulties in setting goals, but remember that there must be one difficulty at the core. If you overcome this difficulty, you will succeed.

How to execute: ① Print out the target. 2 open. ③ Join the organization. (4) Set the decomposition target. ⑤ Review regularly. The suggestion is not a review. There are many good places, many bad places and reasonable goals. If it is unreasonable and decisive, the goal is set too high or too low to be corrected, and the good reward is completed, but the punishment is not completed. Step by step. Finally, a word of advice, new year, birthday, lovelorn and other time points set goals. Are the products of impulse, or regret for the past, or expectation for the future. In short, they love dreaming and must be careful.

It's normal not to insist. Persistence means boredom, which contradicts human instinct. Instinctively like to be relaxed and fresh. When you do something, you will gradually form a habit, and when you are depressed, you will gradually give up. If you love one thing, you can persist. As long as you like it, it will bring you more happiness than boredom. Don't expect to be completely happy. Absolutely happy, absolutely boring. Therefore, you must choose what you like when you do something. I like to learn a minimalist life, like the feeling of psychological counseling, and like to be a human resource to help others. These three are quite right. The person you like is naturally willing to stick to living with him; Of course, your own baby will take care of it, and other people's babies will not; You can naturally stick to your hobbies. If you don't like reading, don't read. If you like food, eat it. Being a gourmet is no different from being a writer. There is indeed a difference between happiness and unhappiness.

When a person knows and can keep silent, he is closest to God.

How to listen more and talk less: the first rule is that when we speak, we should think before expressing, not instinctively expressing. The second is to talk less and write more. Because you want to have a system, an architecture that can convince everyone, it is even more difficult. People often ask, what books to read or what skills to learn, in fact, what books to read is not important, what matters is how you read. The first is that you should read it, express your thoughts after reading it, and be able to write the central things. The third is to grasp the main contradictions when communicating. The fourth is to choose the object of communication. Finally, our main purpose is to persuade. A core principle of persuasion, which I think is the most important principle, is to think of the other party. "Grasp the principal contradiction, then choose the object and think of others. Even without the above, as long as you really think about each other, communication will be much easier. "

If you can control your body, you can control your life.

All emotions have positive effects unless you abuse them.

Conditions of jealousy: ① This person is close to me, so the possibility and frequency of comparison are much greater, so jealousy at once will make you feel better. This matter is very important to me. You won't be jealous if Lao Wang buys a string of beads for 500 thousand, because this thing is dispensable, but Lao Wang has a big house and I don't. I am jealous because the big house is very important to me, and owning it will greatly improve my quality of life. This person is not as good as me anywhere, and people who are worse than me are better off than me. I am jealous.

Think about the process of jealousy: seeing people's Excellence → learning their own strengths → working hard → reaching or surpassing each other → continuous social progress, which can be called jealousy. There is another kind, seeing people excellent → feeling unhappy → verbal attack → action destruction → harming others and yourself → social stagnation or retrogression, which is malignant jealousy.

Find out who you are jealous of, what you are jealous of, are you willing to catch up, can you catch up, and what is your improvement plan for next week?

Offer to help others. Remember, don't do it unless he asks you for help. Adults are stubborn. If they don't realize the problem, your love will be cold and even misunderstood.

The best memorial is to experience it with your heart.

So what is yours? Only your experience is yours. In the long river of time, you have experienced such a thing. No one can deny that you have not experienced it, and you can't change it yourself. Only your experience is your own. So bravely discard it, bid farewell to the past and embrace the present.

On her thirtieth birthday, the hostess refused all invitations and chose to spend it alone. She wrote a passage in her diary: I used to like drinking, but now I like drinking tea; I used to like colorful, but now I like black and white; I used to like to stay on the surface, but now I like to explore the essence; I used to like complexity, but now I like simplicity; I used to like excitement, but now I like being alone; I used to argue about right and wrong, but now I like to laugh it off. This is the tranquility and simplicity brought by minimalism. I am quiet for self-cultivation, frugal for self-cultivation, indifferent for ambition, peaceful for distance.

Love a person, do one thing, and happiness comes. If you want to invest, it must be simple, because time is limited, energy is limited and resources are limited. We can only mobilize all our resources and abilities to do things before we die, and devote ourselves wholeheartedly to producing happiness. The so-called wholehearted devotion is definitely not to do one thing, but to do only one thing. This simplicity will give us feedback soon, and it will have good results because of investment. Because the result is good, we complain that this positive spiral is infinitely upward.

Simplicity means doing this without doing anything else. Don't read new books if you can't finish reading this book. If you can't do this job well, don't do a new job, don't understand this hobby in research, and don't develop new hobbies; This dress is still good, don't buy new clothes; This item can't be fully utilized. Don't buy new things, keep everything simple, unload the burden, don't worry about cleaning, don't worry about taking up space. Keep everything simple, concentrate on one thing, and don't stop until you reach your goal. Simple, so focused. Focus, so invest. Invest, so be happy.

Complexity is normal before the age of 30. Accept it. Simplicity is inevitable after 30 years old. Obey it. It is wisdom to keep it simple before the age of 30. It is foolish to remain complicated after 30.

Buying books is like a mountain, reading is like reeling, and I want to hit the wall when I move.

Buying that book when you see it in the bookstore is not much different from impulse shopping. Don't be fooled by the illusion, so that you buy a lot of bestsellers on impulse, just like clothes explode.

Some things in my heart are good. Treat them well if you stay, and accompany them to read and play again and again.

Be sociable and avoid becoming a house girl. Watch various interest groups or club parties, plan related parties by yourself and communicate with friends every week.

Establish a dress style around a color, make room for the wardrobe, make it easy to find, choose the fabric you like, avoid ironing, set the purchase target, and then go to the mall.

No one in the world insists on this matter. I just keep doing what I like. This is great happiness. There's no need to force it. No one has ever said that happiness is beautiful. Only when I am in pain and helpless will I mention the word persistence.

Think about it, we live in a comfortable space, have a harmonious family, a favorite job, one or two confidants, believe in a certain belief and have a hobby. There is nothing to regret about this life. This is what minimalist life pursues.

"Get along with everyone" means "In fact, your relationship has always been so superficial". No two people are exactly the same, even bosom friends. In-depth and quality communication is bound to be accompanied by differences and disputes.

You can spend 20% of your time improving your shortcomings, but you should spend 80% of your time developing your strengths.

Why isn't the baby worried? Because they can do whatever they want.

I have a lot, but I am unhappy, because there is too much rubbish, an unhappy relationship, a job I don't like, a lot of clothes I don't like, foggy weather and traffic jams in what I have. A normal person will not be satisfied with these.

In fact, simplicity is more difficult than complexity. For simplicity, you must try your best to clear your mind.

Throwing is abstinence, throwing foreign objects is abstinence from material desires, throwing spiritual garbage is abstinence from greed and ignorance, abstinence can lead to stability and wisdom, so throwing is practice. May I become an early yogi materially, intellectually and spiritually.

Users who frequently use social networks are 2.7 times more likely to suffer from depression than users who don't often use social networks.

There is no good way to throw away perfectionism, that is, to accept imperfections and live with them. Imperfect self, imperfect partner, imperfect child, imperfect parents, don't expect to be perfect, and don't treat others as saints. If you expect saints, the world will make you despair.

Focus on one thing, and then God will help you, and miracles will happen. Minimalism after breaking up is concentration.

Sometimes things you don't like can't be thrown away quickly. Maybe you are too idle and have too much time to dwell on these useless things. If you have a passionate life, passionate love, favorite job, and your best friend, gay friends, how can you have time to worry about throwing things? There are only 24 hours a day. If you don't get good possession, you will be attacked by bad things.

What's the point of something more expensive and of higher quality? It is to let us move forward step by step in our short life, so as to be worthy of its instantaneous glory. But it makes it possible for us to see another kind of beauty in the world through it and let us know that we deserve better.

What we want is few and precise articles, not clever arrangement.

If you can't say yes to an item for sure, then you must say no for sure. It is small enough and good enough.

Minimalism doesn't make people look for what they really want. What they really want is always by your side. Minimalism helps to get rid of noise, focus on what you want, and feel comfortable.

Minimalism is not less, but there is no redundancy, enough is not much, but you happen to be there.

Minimalism is a choice, and in this process, there must be a self-examination and ask yourself quietly: Is this suitable for me? Do I like this? Do you still need this? This is a process of knowing yourself, clearly knowing your hobbies and dislikes, knowing your strengths and weaknesses, leaving all kinds of things you like, thinking about this state of life, doing things you like, loving people you like, using things you like, and getting along with the world you like. This is happiness, a kind of advanced happiness.