"I finally don't have to be a nanny anymore." Divorced women send friends in the middle of the night, which pokes the hearts of many women. Why?

"Finally, I don't have to be a nanny. For 20 years, even if I was ill in hospital, I didn't serve my husband and in-laws. Now divorce is the most correct decision for me to live to this day. " Wen Li sent out this circle of friends at three in the morning and fell asleep.

At eight o'clock, the sun shone on her face and the bright light woke her up. I haven't slept so soundly for a long time, and the ease in my heart makes Wen Li's biological clock a little uncomfortable and makes her unaccustomed. Turn on the phone, click on WeChat, and dozens of WeChat messages flood in. She glanced at it. That's the long sound of her good sisters. She immediately turned off the phone, clicked on the circle of friends, and saw that the circle of friends at 3 am had won dozens of praises.

I like mostly female friends in the circle. Like Wen Li, they are mothers, wives and daughters-in-law. Although there is male praise, it is rare.

Lee, maybe his own words hit too many men's hearts. Even if they saw it, they would think it was a mistake. Men are not like this. They are used to avoiding important things and responsibilities. After that, Wen Li opened her friend Xiaoying's WeChat dialog box and clicked Play. The first thing Xiaoying did when she woke up was to call her.

Li Xiaoxiao quits WeChat and calls Xiaoying. After ringing for two seconds, Xiaoying picked up the phone. Wen Li listened to Xiaoying over there and said excitedly, "Wen Wen, you finally got through it! For so many years, I advised you not to divorce every day, and now divorce is meaningful. Didn't you say that for the sake of your children, in order not to let others tell you what to do, you vowed never to get divorced in your life? But whatever the reason, congratulations on finally getting rid of the pain. To celebrate, I booked a table in the restaurant. See you in two hours.

Wen Li refused, so she hung up. Wei Wei knows Xiaoying's character. She is not a woman in a hurry. A woman like her can satisfy her curiosity by talking face to face.

Vivian hurriedly washed up, dressed and drove to the restaurant. Xiaoying said:

In the restaurant, Wen Li saw Xiaoying holding a big bouquet of flowers. For so many years, Xiaoying is the only one who remembers that she likes sunflowers. Her husband of 20 years knows nothing about his preferences. It's ridiculous to think about it. At this time, Wen Li really felt the critical moment. She was the best friend.

Wang Guozhen once said, "There is a kind of friendship that will come to you silently when you need it. His eyes and heart can read you, and he will hold your thin arm with his hand. " Xiaoying for Wen Li, this is existence.

Took the flowers in Xiaoying's hand and gave Xiaoying a big hug. Two people sat down to talk about divorce. Xiaoying looks very serious at the moment, and Vivian feels very at ease.

When it comes to divorce, it's not an overnight decision. Twenty years ago, Wen Li and her husband were introduced and met only once, so they decided to get married. No bride price, no dowry, a bicycle, let Wenli go to other people's homes and be their wife and daughter-in-law.

After marriage, Wen Li and her husband have no emotional foundation, so Wen Li naturally has no right to speak in front of her mother-in-law. On the second day after marriage, Wen Li worked in the fields with her family for half a year. In half a year, Wen Li didn't take a day off. Even if she is confused by the fever, she will be called to cook the next day.

After half a year of marriage, Wen Li became pregnant. I thought it would be easy after I got pregnant. Who would have thought that no one would take Wenli pregnant seriously. At first, Wen Li didn't like her because she didn't know if she was a family member. Later, when I saw that my neighbor was pregnant and went to work normally, Wen Li realized that life is like this.

But the marriage in Wen Li's mind is not like this. Her imaginary marriage should be one that her husband loves and her in-laws respect. Now there is nothing, and she wants to change.

After giving birth to a son, the relationship between Wen Li and her husband improved because it was a boy. She took the opportunity to blow the pillow breeze, and six months later they went to work in the city.

Wen Li is very diligent, and her husband knows how to do it. In less than a year, the two settled down in the city by scrimping and saving. Xu's life has changed rapidly, which has also changed her husband's psychology. The male chauvinism in the husband has been completely aroused, and there is a tendency of deviation.

At home, there is nothing but verbal abuse and blows to Wen Li. Work at home and abroad has been transferred to Li Wen. I remember that once Wen Li was hospitalized for half a month, but her husband never went there once. The only time I showed up, I asked Wen Li for a bank card because there was no money to eat at home.

After leaving the hospital, I saw a messy home. This is Wen Li's first divorce. After several years, my son gradually became sensible. In order to give her son a complete home, Wen Li endured her husband's bad temper and took on all the housework. Her existence is her husband's free nanny. In spite of this, Wen Li endured it.

Naturally, in the following days, Wen Li never wants to divorce again. After getting along well with Xiaoying, Wen Li complained more than once about how annoying her husband's behavior was.

But she threw up again. Xiaoying tried again, but she still couldn't make up her mind. It was her son's change that finally made her determined.

My son grew up and found a girlfriend. Wen Li is open to her son's love affair. She doesn't object to her son's falling in love, and even encourages him to understand the responsibility that a man should bear as soon as possible.

But after seeing the daily life of her son and girlfriend, Wen Li found a big problem. Wen Li found that her son's behavior in love relationship inherited her husband's behavior.

For example, the son has nothing to do, lying on the sofa after dinner, and often giving orders to his girlfriend; For example, when a son's girlfriend is sick, his son looks impatient and says it's good to take antipyretics. Why all the fuss?

Many behaviors make Wen Li feel that her son is a copy of her husband. It seems that the marriage he insisted on was not good for his son, but made him learn badly.

She immediately divorced decisively. She said to her son, "You are a man, a man with indomitable spirit. It is men who love, take care of and care for women. It is natural that no one will pay for you. You should be grateful for what others have done for you. In this way, no one will really share your joys and sorrows, and no one will really love and appreciate you. Mom divorced because your father didn't take the responsibility that a husband should take. He is incompetent. I hope one day, when you become someone else's husband, you will understand.

Xiaoying understood the reason for Wen Li's divorce and breathed a sigh of relief, saying, "It's not too late for you to divorce now. Let your son follow you, he will change.

Many women will put up with it for ten years on the pretext of not divorcing their children, just to give them a complete home. In fact, in the eyes of children, what they want is not a complete home, but the warmth and love given by their parents. If parents can't give it, even if they live under the same roof, the children will not grow well.

If you are really kind to children, then women, you should be independent, be a good mother and set a good example for children, instead of giving up and struggling in an unhappy marriage.

Children are smart, so it would be better to be honest with them. May all women face the misfortune of marriage and finally make a relatively correct choice, not just know how to "endure".