Night chat of the opposite sex: Encountering "Topic Terminator"? Which replies successfully ended the embarrassing chat?

Night chat of the opposite sex: Encountering "Topic Terminator"? Which replies successfully ended the embarrassing chat? When chatting, there is an embarrassment called: sudden silence for fear of anger. Indeed, chatting with the opposite sex, especially with the opposite sex you like, is very afraid of embarrassing chatting. In the early days of love, although many girls, like boys, don't know how to speak, they are suddenly filled with embarrassment and don't know what to say, just like this: Why are there embarrassing scenes? Why can't you find a topic? Why do you often become a topic terminator? In addition to the "introverted/extroverted" factors, researchers at Sam Houston State University in the United States also found that there are three kinds of psychological problems in interpersonal communication:

Work experience, industry, anxiety, psychological distance. (1) Work experience industry: including everyone's background, consciousness, values, prejudices, needs and expectations, etc. The speaker must number and receive information according to his work experience and industry background. Communication becomes more and more difficult when the accumulated experience of publishers and recipients overlap rarely. (2) Worrying about the sky: It refers to what we often see and hear, not what we see and hear emotionally. Worry is caused by our own hobbies. Many people only care about themselves, which virtually reduces the probability of contacting others and having the same topic with them.

(3) Psychological distance: If the communicator presupposes from the beginning that the other party is unwilling to communicate with him or is worried about the negative feedback of the other party, this concept will limit the good opportunity for effective communication. This is the problem of most topic terminators and the essential reason for embarrassing chat. And I want to improve this situation, or start with the root causes such as challenges and overlapping topics, and cultivate the other party to chat with you. In other words, chatting with the boy you like is not a day, but an emotion, an atmosphere and a pleasure. That is also a concrete manifestation of high emotional intelligence.

As Cai Kangyong said, "You are what you think." An effective way to stop chatting. In that case, how to chat is not easy to talk and don't want to be a topic terminator? The topic of different frequencies broadens the topic of different frequencies, which is also to broaden the topic across channels from the information replied by the other party and expand your ideas, from the macro time, address and environment to the real role, work, daily life, dinner and so on. Because there is a direct and indirect connection between things and objects in the world, through this connection, we can jump from one connection point to another harmoniously to broaden the topic.