The bride price for a 40-year-old leftover girl is only 1.6 million? With such overwhelming self-confidence, where does the confidence come from?

This topic reminds me of a joke on Douyin, which is a conversation between a mother and her daughter.

Daughter: Mom, I am already so old and it is difficult for me to get married. Why are you telling others that I want hundreds of thousands in gift money? Aren’t I even more unable to get married?

Mother: I just want such a high betrothal gift so that outsiders will think that you can’t marry because of the high betrothal gift, not because of your age.

This joke is a lively interpretation of older women’s marriage. For older girls, due to various reasons such as busy work, long school hours, own personality, high standards, etc., they have always been blank in love. Slowly year after year, they have grown from young girls to older girls, getting married. That makes me even more anxious, but love is something that can't come in a hurry, it still depends on fate.

As for the conditions for older girls in the love market, they are not absolute. The older they are, the lower the requirements, such as the age, height, occupation, income, housing, etc. of the other party. This still depends on the actual situation of each individual. Just like the case in the title, the girl is already 40 years old. This makes outsiders think that she is a completely leftover woman. Many people will think that she is already 40 years old. At such an old age, she has passed her best reproductive period. The requirements are naturally not high. But surprisingly, the conditions she required were not only not low, but quite high. The betrothal gift alone should not be less than 1.6 million.

The 1.6 million betrothal gift is associated with the age of 40. I believe that most people simply can’t bear it. They don’t know how much they weigh. The betrothal gift for such an old age is higher than that of ordinary girls. It’s a lot, who can ask for it? But in my opinion, regardless of the age of 40, first of all, they are married for the first time, and secondly, they have a doctorate degree. It is said that their annual income is also very high. Judging from their own conditions, they are indeed very extraordinary. Since their own conditions are very superior, The requirements are naturally high, and in first-tier cities, 40-year-old single women seem to be quite common, so asking for a bride price of 1.6 million yuan does not require anyone to give her confidence.

In fact, from a realistic point of view, if it is true, as this woman said, that she has a doctorate and a good annual salary, if she lowers her conditions and requirements and looks for another person of her own, Half of the time, two people will inevitably have a lot of conflicts in their daily interactions due to values, income, interests, hobbies, etc. The final result can be imagined.

In fact, I think that although this girl clearly put her price on the market and publicly searched for a partner, and the standards 1, 2, and 3 are clearly written, feelings are the thing that can change people the most. , the 1.6 million on the surface may not actually be that much. In reality, there are also many people who talk about their own standards for choosing a mate. When they really meet the one they like, all previous rules and regulations are forgotten. This is the power of emotion.

So, there is no need for us to criticize and deny this girl for openly throwing out her own criteria for choosing a mate. There are all kinds of people in the world, each with their own cognition, personality, concepts and ideas, and Regarding the standard of appreciation, maybe in your eyes she is a sensationalist, but in the eyes of others she is just a cutie?