Five standard daughters-in-law in the eyes of in-laws

What about being a good wife? In fact, you need to learn how to live. Learn to be a qualified daughter-in-law from every bit of life. If you want to be a good daughter-in-law in front of your mother-in-law, get on well with your parents-in-law and let them accept you, how can you conquer their hearts? Let's follow Bian Xiao to see five standard daughter-in-law in your parents-in-law's eyes!

A: Winding makes her mother-in-law feel "affirmed" and "needed"

Different eating habits make it difficult for me to fully accept my mother-in-law's cooking, but my mother-in-law's hometown has my favorite "eight-treasure porridge with crispy rice". I always drink two bowls.

"Mom, rice crust porridge is delicious. Shall we eat rice porridge tonight? " I shook my mother-in-law's arm coquetry, and her mother-in-law smiled and said, "Yes, I want to eat crispy rice porridge. Not so demanding. "

When the rice porridge is ready, the mother-in-law also announced: "Let the daughter-in-law drink first." I know my mother-in-law likes to eat at this time, and I won't shirk it.

Sometimes my in-laws say nice things and leave me behind, so I must jump out and take the blame for myself. "There will be my daughter-in-law! How can such a daughter-in-law miss me? " My mother-in-law patted my hand and said, "Yes, yes, and my daughter-in-law!" So some things that would have made many daughters-in-law feel lost were successfully solved in Chen Jiao.

The effect of this move: it not only satisfies my greed and coquetry, but also satisfies my mother-in-law's psychological needs of "being affirmed and needed", which makes her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law very happy.

B: Listen and talk to my father-in-law.

Working with parents-in-law is hard. In the small mountain village in 1960s and 1970s, the parents-in-law had to raise four daughters, a son, an elderly mother and a minor brother. The burden of the family is all on my father-in-law's thin shoulders. Every time I think of my hard life in the past, I look dignified. At this time, I chose to be a devout listener and lamented the hardships of life with the words recalled by my father-in-law.

Time and again, I listened with tears in my eyes and sincerely said to my father-in-law, "It's really not easy for you and your mother. At that time, the four daughters were all urban hukou, and it was not easy to give up a college student! "

Look at the beautiful life with my father-in-law: You see, now my children are very filial, my daughter-in-law is very pleased, and my grandson is also very good.

The effect of this move: my father-in-law wants to talk, and I like to listen to the past. One is willing to talk, the other is willing to listen, and everyone is happy.

C: Put yourself in the other's shoes and make sure that your in-laws feel the same way.

In-laws, like many grandparents, actually have certain "son preference" thoughts. When I was pregnant, my grandparents said, "Boys and girls are all the same." I said, "Mom and Dad, you only have one son. It is normal to want a grandson. I can understand how you feel. Although several sisters have sons, you still want grandchildren. "

Then tell her in-laws: It's no one's idea to have boys and girls, but it's not too much for her in-laws to want grandchildren. After all, my husband is the only child in my family, so if I were in my parents' age and environment, I might want my son, too.

The effect of this move: empathy has a miraculous effect in getting along with people. Think from the other side's standpoint and angle, and you will understand if you don't understand. If you understand, there will be no contradiction.

D: thank you very much. My in-laws have valuable experience gained from decades of life experience.

I have never been stingy with my in-laws.

Once, I took my son to my hometown to live with my parents-in-law for a while. Because my father-in-law likes to eat northern jiaozi, I want to pack more and put them in the refrigerator before going home, so that my father-in-law can satisfy his hunger. When filling, I just want to flush it with water. But my mother-in-law insists on peeling one layer at a time. At that time, I thought, "No need?" Unexpectedly, a cabbage caterpillar was actually peeled.

Surprised, I praised my mother-in-law for her wise decision: Mom, if you don't listen to the old man, you will be cheated in front of you. If you hadn't insisted on peeling it off, we would have eaten worms today!

Mother-in-law is naturally happy, and I-I mean it!

The effect of this move: a big truth made my mother-in-law smile, and I truly realized the old saying "Don't listen to the old man, be fooled"!

E: Be considerate and keep in mind the needs of your in-laws.

My father-in-law has bad teeth and likes to eat rotten food. On the contrary, I like to eat crisp and tough food. Is this a contradiction? No, it's not. I thought of a solution. Every time I fry until crisp, I will take out half a bowl for myself and stew the rest for my father-in-law.

In-laws don't like briefs worn by young people, and baggy boxers that old people like are not common in shopping malls here. On the bus, I accidentally found these shorts in a roadside shop and bought three pairs for my in-laws. My in-laws said "I spent money again", but my happiness was written on my face.

One year, I went out to buy new year's goods with my husband during the Spring Festival. I came across an old-fashioned monthly card and bought one. The teacher was puzzled and I didn't explain it. When I took it home, my in-laws took a look and hung it on the bedside. While watching, they said, "My daughter-in-law still knows the old man's mind."

My mother-in-law has high blood pressure. Once I saw a recipe of steamed lotus root with white sesame and rock sugar on TV, so I steamed a plate of lotus root for my mother-in-law as a snack every afternoon. Maybe I'm in a good mood, or maybe the folk prescription really worked. My mother-in-law's blood pressure has been stable for six months.

My mother-in-law and I went out to buy food arm in arm, and everyone we met said, "Your daughter-in-law is really nice." My mother-in-law also unceremoniously "sells melons", but I am embarrassed. "Mom, don't tell people that your daughter-in-law is good, which makes people laugh." My mother-in-law said happily, "Just fine."

The effect of this move: see the truth in the nuances and be the universal truth!