Men are common in feelings. What are the needs of * * *?

I once read a story that a woman and a man fell in love. Every time when eating, the man always left the fish body to the woman and ate the fish head and tail by himself. Later, they broke up and finally had dinner together. The woman told the man that she actually liked to eat fish heads and fish tails, and the man told her that he actually liked to eat fish bodies, so he left what he liked to her because he loved her. Speaking of this, two people can understand how much they love each other.

There are many men and women who are together, because they love each other, so they give each other what they think is best, but not everyone has thought about whether what they give is what the other person likes.

So in the TV series "My First Half Life", Luo Zijun started to be a full-time mother because of her husband Chen Junsheng's needs at first, but as life went on, Chen Junsheng's needs changed slowly. With the increase of pressure and the unsatisfactory career, Chen Junsheng found that she needed not only a woman who admired and admired herself, but also a woman who could encourage herself in her career.

It can be said that Chen Junsheng's emotional needs Luo Zijun didn't give them.

Luo Zijun has always lived in her own world. She thinks that men can earn money to support their families and be responsible for their own beauty, but men will encounter all kinds of pressures and challenges. Before the pressure comes, who is with him is the most important thing.

When the man changes, it is very common that you don't make appropriate changes and give the other person the emotional needs he needs.

But there are still many girls who, after falling in love with a man, always get along with him subjectively and think of their favorite lifestyle, so men will definitely like it.

I have a client who consulted me. She grew up in a single-parent family, which made her independent personality. She worked hard and became a supervisor from a salesman in a department. For her, her survival experience is to find problems-find her own shortcomings-change shortcomings-and solve problems. For so many years, she has improved herself through this way of self-examination, so there is no room for sand in her eyes. For her, mistakes are mistakes.

Later, she met a very romantic man. At first, she got along well with each other, but her old habit broke again. No matter how well the man did, she could always find the problem and criticize it 36 degrees. At last, the man asked her what to do to get a compliment. Because she was very tired, she broke up later.

Actually, there is no perfect person in life. For a man, if you can accept his shortcomings, it will move him even more.

With the development of society, women's status is getting higher and higher. First, early women hold up half the sky, and then there are feminist slogans. Therefore, it is difficult for many girls to really put themselves in other's shoes in the process of getting along, and some wrong feminist guidance makes some girls forget the fine traditions of our traditional women, such as tolerance, gentleness, modesty, dedication and so on.

furthermore, the proliferation of drama. It seems that all the men in the TV series are 24 filial boyfriends and 24 filial husbands, and no matter how much mistakes the woman has made, as long as she cries and makes trouble, the men will abandon everything to forgive her, not to mention the possibility. In real life, it is so easy to meet so many high-quality men and all of them will fall in love with you.

so what exactly do men need women to do? What exactly are their emotional needs?

I remember the great writer Gu Long once said that there are two things that people are most afraid of in life. The first thing is that people at the table don't drink when they are eating. The second thing is that there is a woman who is not sensible at the table and likes to interrupt when men are exchanging feelings.

There is another joke on the Internet, but I asked many male friends around me and they all agreed. The joke is like this: "For a man who is tired after a hard day's work, what do you want most when you go home? Hot bath water, a glass of iced beer and a delicious sex. "

In fact, these two small examples, to put it bluntly, are that we want women to be sensible.

so what kind of woman is a sensible woman?

I admire Liang Hongyu, the concubine of Han Shizhong, a famous Song Dynasty star. If someone asks me to recommend a perfect love, I think the love between Liang Hongyu and Han Shizhong can be called perfect.

Liang Hongyu comes from a military commander's family, so he appreciates and worships Han Shizhong from the heart, while Liang Hongyu, who came from a military commander's family, is no stranger to marching and fighting, and often has the same words with Han Shizhong. The battle of Huang Tiandang was the battle of Han Shizhong's fame. In this battle, Liang Hongyu personally played drums to strengthen the morale of the army. When I often see this passage, what I see in front of me is that mountains and rivers meet bosom friends, and the conversation and laughter about treating the enemy are gone.

It is a very lucky thing for any man to meet a woman who admires and worships himself, and who can encourage himself and stand up at a critical moment.

As men, we certainly don't expect to meet an all-round girlfriend. For men, we have all kinds of emotional needs, so women can have many behaviors to make men feel very understanding.

If you must ask what the most important emotional needs are, I think there are mainly six kinds: trust, acceptance, appreciation, worship, recognition and encouragement.

don't be nervous because a man has met several female clients. To recognize that no one is perfect, there are some shortcomings that do not violate the principle. When a man bravely shows you, what you have to do is to thank him for trusting you and accepting his shortcomings. Don't casually find a man to fall in love with. The man you are looking for must be attractive and appreciated by you. In the process of getting along for a long time, we should grow up with each other, face difficulties together and cheer him up.

I think if you do this, your man will love you more.