I asked my mother: If I don't get married, will you blame me? Mom said she would be ashamed. Will she be ashamed if she doesn't get married?

Someone asked me, what would happen if a woman never got married? I replied: I can't do anything. I can do whatever I want. It's very free and easy. If I don't get married all my life, I will devote all my energy to writing and improve my writing ability.

Then read more books and enrich your mind. Finally, I have to earn a lot of money, buy myself a house and a car, buy myself all the insurance, and improve my ability to resist risks.

In fact, getting married is just an easy way. Someone will bring you a bowl of soup when you are ill. Someone will gently hold your waist when you are about to fall.

The meaning of marriage is not to enjoy happiness together, but to bear the wind and rain together. Of course, you don't have to get married. You can taste your own happiness and loneliness without any obstacles. It is also a good living condition for a person to eat and the whole family not to be hungry.

Only in this matter of marriage, you can live with yourself, but you may not live with your parents. Qiqi, 30, has been very upset recently. Her parents called her every day to urge her to get married, and even asked her to quit her job and go back on a blind date. She can't wait to marry her at once.

She once asked her mother, "Mom, if I don't marry in my life, will you blame me?" Mom's answer is: "I will be ashamed." Kiki knows that the hardest part of marriage is parents.

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In fact, Kiki's parents think that marriage is a necessity for women and can understand it. After all, people in those days regarded getting married and having children as a major event in their lives. They have been married for more than 30 years. Even if they quarreled and divorced, they will always be the same person when there are difficulties.

As experienced people, parents know the troubles of marriage, but they also know the hardships of life. When there is no wind or rain, you can be alone. When there is a real dilemma, many times, you can't cross it alone.

It always feels much better to have someone to accompany you. Parents want you to get married, not only to let you have your own offspring, but also to consider that your life is too poor to rely on when your parents are away.

You are too young to understand your parents' worries. Our generation pursues individuality and independence, and marriage is undoubtedly a constraint on personal growth. When you spend time maintaining family relationships, you must sacrifice your freedom and even your career.

Especially for women, pregnancy is a hurdle, and all kinds of difficult family relationships will make you exhausted. In this era, in terms of family, the requirements for women are higher.

A woman can have no career, but she can't ignore her family. However, family is not suitable for every woman.

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Kiki analyzed her state very early. Her mind is focused on her work. She wants to realize herself more than having a warm home. She is capable and thoughtful, and is valued by the leaders in the company.

If at this time, she stops to get married and have children, then years of struggle will fall short. When you come back to work after giving birth, the trend of the industry has changed, and it is difficult for you to adapt to the pace of the workplace. It is even more difficult to regain the opportunity of career.

Of course, on the other hand, Kiki also knows that 30 years old is a turning point for women. If she gets nothing at home, she needs to face social pressure and others' eyes.

These Kiki don't care much, just want to get their parents' understanding. However, my mother feels ashamed not to get married. After all, there are many girls who get married at the age of 20 in the countryside. Others have a second child at the age of 30, and you are still alone.

In the dating market, older women are not cost-effective. Your physiological function begins to decline, and the risk of childbirth will increase in the future. A 30-year-old woman is less attractive than a 30-year-old man. Men are attractive because of maturity, while women lose their loveliness because of maturity.

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A woman who is not married will not feel ashamed, but in the eyes of her parents, she will feel that she can't hold her head in front of others. However, these are all constraints on yourself, life is your own, and others are just watching jokes.

Marriage has advantages and disadvantages, and life itself is not perfect. Married people will get tired of daily necessities, children and husbands will have a lot of trivial matters, and they will also exhaust their efforts.

When love is put into practice, the shortcomings of the other party are gradually revealed. At the beginning, such a lovely person will become a bitch, and so a gentle person will become tough.

But fortunately, husband and wife support each other. Even though they couldn't stand him any longer and even wanted to shoot him, on the way to buy a gun, they bought his favorite soybean milk fritters.

If you don't get married, you will be free, and there are not so many restrictions. If you don't want to cook, you will be ordered to take out. If you don't want to cook, you will be called a part-time job. You only have your own life, you don't have to think too much about other people's feelings, and you don't have to deal with complicated family relationships.

But on the other hand, you need to bear a person's loneliness and loneliness. You must go through those difficulties alone. In a word, marriage and being single are two different lives. No matter which one you choose, there are both beauty and regret. Being true to your heart and being happy is the most important thing.