These five details of the child show that he is very "inferior" inside, and it is very important for parents to guide him as soon as possible.

Parents want their children to grow up to be lively, cheerful, confident and generous, but I don't know why, but children are becoming more and more shy in the crowd, which is far from the natural and graceful self-confidence.

No parents are willing to raise an inferior child, which may be related to the way of education or the growing environment, but many parents are hard to detect. In fact, if parents can discover their children's "inferiority complex" in time and guide them as soon as possible, they can still cultivate their children into confident children.

How do parents discover their children's "inferiority complex"? If the child has the following five obvious details, it shows that the child is very "inferior" inside, and parents should guide him as soon as possible.

1, very sensitive to what others say.

If a child feels inferior, he will be very sensitive to what others say. For example, an unintentional sentence when a teacher criticizes a child may do great harm to the child's psychology. Especially when others refuse their own requirements, such as borrowing things, they will feel that they are rejecting themselves.

2. Dare not try new things

For new things, confident and free children will dare to try, because they are not afraid of failure, and they are not afraid of being compared. Children with low self-esteem will be afraid of new things and afraid to try, because once they fail, they will feel ridiculed and compared.

3, dare not express their views.

When the teacher asks questions in class, many students will rush to answer questions, but some students will try to keep their heads down for fear that the teacher will see them asking questions. Even if they have ideas in their hearts and good answers, they are afraid to express their opinions on their own initiative because they are not confident in themselves and even afraid that they can't say it well.

4. Cross outside the house

If your child has this kind of situation, in addition to being afraid of life, there is another possibility that he feels inferior. Under the feeling of inferiority, I am sensitive and timid outside, afraid of being laughed at by others, but it is different at home, because the negative emotions accumulated outside will be revealed first in the places I am familiar with, and I will be grumpy and arrogant at home.

5. Always like to find fault with others.

Some children will like to judge and criticize others for no reason. In fact, this is also a manifestation of inferiority. Because children with low self-esteem lack inner sense of security, it is necessary to form a "protection mechanism" externally, asking him to deny others and affirm himself and "protect" himself from being hurt by others.

If your child has the above five points, it shows that the child is already very inferior, and the guidance of parents is very important. Give parents two suggestions.

Suggestion 1: Help children to know themselves more comprehensively and objectively.

For children's inferiority complex, most of them are because their cognition of themselves is not comprehensive, and most of them deny themselves, including their appearance, IQ and ability, and they are very insecure about themselves. The reason for this lack of confidence generally comes from parents' cognition of their children.

If parents always criticize and blame their children, then their cognition of themselves is negative, which will make them feel inferior. If parents always encourage and praise their children, it will make them confident, but it will inevitably make them too conceited.

Therefore, parents should help their children to know themselves comprehensively and objectively. Don't be stingy with praise in good places, and don't be afraid to hurt their self-esteem in wrong places. It is helpful for children to know themselves better.

Recommendation 2: Help children build their own value system.

The reason why children feel inferior is because they are not clear about themselves, care too much about other people's opinions, have insufficient judgment and are easily influenced by others. If parents can help their children to establish his value system, they can judge everything around them well, know that what others say is somewhat false, and distinguish whether others are joking or giving sincere advice.

When children have their own correct value system, their judgment will become stronger, they will not care so much about other people's judgments, nor will they become sensitive and suspicious because of other people's words, and their self-confidence will become stronger and stronger.

In the process of growing up, children are always inevitably subject to a lot of discussion. Sometimes other people's malicious remarks are likely to crush their fragile self-confidence. Parents can't protect their children forever, but they can give them a "protective cover" to resist bad words, so that their self-confidence will not be hurt and they will always be confident and free.