What is the reason why a 30-year-old leftover woman becomes a leftover woman?

Nowadays, there are more and more "leftover women" in society, and the reasons for them are very complicated. In addition to their own reasons, parents’ excessive interference and outrageous demands are also important reasons. Some parents’ demands are simply bizarre. Now let's listen to three 30-year-old unmarried women talk about their weird wives.

01: Ms. Zhao, a civil servant

"My mother was always afraid that I would suffer a loss and that I would lose my status due to pregnancy. She followed me everywhere and restricted me everywhere. My boyfriend couldn't stand it and left."

I am tall, fair-skinned, and quiet. After graduating from college, I worked in a government department. Ever since I entered college, many boys have pursued me, but I followed my mother's orders and never got involved in emotional matters. My mother told me that after you graduate and have a stable job, she will find a good family for you.

As long as there was a boy with me at that time, my mother would always get to the bottom of it. If my classmates went out to play together, my mother would call me every ten minutes to ask about my situation, which made my classmates laugh at me.

After I started working, my mother’s colleague introduced me to a man whose family conditions were pretty good. But after I got in touch with my boyfriend, my mother’s old habits recurred. Every time my boyfriend and I were in the room, my mother would burst in. My boyfriend and I went shopping, and my mother followed us for various reasons.

Hey! I know what my mother is thinking. She is afraid that I will suffer a loss, be kissed by a man, and be coaxed into bed by a man, and then I will lose my status, so that I will not be able to get the bride price. My mother blew the news in front of me, saying that a certain girl had a big belly. In the end, the boy's family ignored her and the girl ran to the boy's house. "That's called price reduction, everyone is lost." Mother said.

Which boy wants to be guarded like a thief? In this way, I dated three boys and never kissed them. When the boy we finally broke up with left, he said to me: "Just stay safe for the rest of your life!" Really, I am 30 years old now, and I still Keeping one's body like a jade, maybe what he said is true, I will keep one's body like a jade for the rest of my life, but who is willing? Thinking of this, I blame my mother in my heart. My mother now knows that she was wrong and regrets it, but it is already too late.

02: Ms. Long, a corporate white-collar worker

“My mother always analyzes her boyfriend’s psychology and sets up various tests, but she is always worried. Her boyfriend was very hurt and broke up with her. ”

My family’s conditions are pretty good. Although I’m average-looking, I’m not ugly. Plus, I went to college and have a pretty good temperament. When I was in college, I had a relationship with a boy, and the two of us hit it off. But my mother is a suspicious person. Ever since I grew up, she has been watching "Men's Psychology", "How Bad Men Are", "Exploring the Emotional World of Men" and "How Men Trick Girls" at home all day long. Whenever my boyfriend comes to my house and does something, my mother will analyze it for me. When my boyfriend came to my house, my mother looked at him as if she were wearing a telescope.

Not only that, my mother also came up with various tricks to test my boyfriend, either asking her best friend to investigate, investigating secretly herself, or setting up traps. If my boyfriend falls into a trap, my mother will have to analyze it again. I know my mother loves me, but no man can stand her like this. My two boyfriends left me because of my mother, and I was very hurt. I am already 30 years old. If my mother acts like this again, I am afraid I will die alone.

03: Ms. Yang, an employee of a public institution

“The mother’s requirements seem very low. She doesn’t want the man’s gift, or the man buying a house or a car, as long as he’s a good person, but everyone on a blind date is scared. I ran away."

I have a bachelor's degree, I am a virtuous and quiet person, and I have a car and a house. Any man seeking marriage would probably smile from ear to ear when seeing such conditions, and that is indeed the case. After my marriage proposal was spread, many people came to ask for my hand in marriage, but without exception, they all failed. My marriage proposal conditions are: no betrothal gifts, as long as you have a good appearance and a kind heart. In this material world, the conditions for marriage given by the mother are simply a breath of fresh air.

My mother loves me, and I am the only one in the family who doesn’t care about each other’s material conditions, as long as they can get by.

However, those who came to the blind date soon learned that the mother's kindness began to be gradually quantified: if she can cook, my daughter will never cook in the future; if she can do housework, my daughter has never done housework. ; Be good-tempered and tolerant, my daughter is a bit squeamish; after marriage, all wages must be given to my daughter, and no private money is allowed; after marriage, the Spring Festival will be celebrated at our house... and a prenuptial agreement must be signed, if cheating , cleanse yourself and leave the house.

People who come for a blind date can tolerate it at first, but then they find it unbearable. I advised my mother not to do this. She said that you are so good and you don’t want others to buy a car or a house. You can’t tolerate this. Will you be good to you in the future?

Emotional conclusion:

I was honestly stunned when I heard the three ladies’ accounts. I didn’t expect that there were such weird parents who interfered so seriously with their children. Their love for their children goes beyond reason and has become deformed. In their eyes, children will never grow up and will always need their care, but they don't know that their behavior is harming their children.

Mother has to take care of trivial matters. Such a mother-in-law is obviously not popular with her son-in-law. Everyone has their own dignity, but no man with dignity can endure too much precaution, too much probing, and too many tests. There should also be a certain level of moral character requirements for men. You are looking for a son-in-law, not a saint. A prenuptial agreement cannot become a contract of betrayal.

Maybe other parents are not as serious as the three parents mentioned in the article, but don’t they also have similar behaviors? The children will bear the final consequences of what you do. Just let it go and your child will only get stronger and more mature. Imperfection is not a shortcoming. Inability to be independent is the biggest shortcoming of children.