My wife earns 3000 yuan a month and spends 2000 yuan on crayfish. Should she be scolded?

When I was doing a hot search in Weibo before, it looked very festive: a woman earned 3,000 yuan a month and spent 2,000 yuan on lobster, which made her mother-in-law dissatisfied. According to the chat records, the couple's expenses are quite large. They just got 1 0,000 yuan from their in-laws last month. This month, the child went to the training class and asked her mother-in-law for money.

Mr. Wang complains that his wife spends too much, with a monthly income of 3,000 yuan and a crayfish meal of 2,000 yuan. My wife disapprovingly sent a circle of friends: "How can I eat lobster with my own money?"

Hehe, he is a stubborn and arrogant foodie. As for whether the news is true or not, let's take this opportunity to talk about the expenses in marriage. Earlier, my friend asked me a question: "After I get married, can I buy a bag with my own money and spend it on my life?" Knowing their income, I told her objectively: "It's not realistic.

They are located in Guangzhou and have no real estate under their names. Their annual income is around 300,000 yuan. According to their plan, the first step to get married is to buy a house. According to the average price in Guangzhou, small units within 80 square meters need about 3 million. If the down payment is not paid, the mortgage alone will cost 15000 yuan per month.

According to this calculation, the monthly disposable income is only 10000. Including water and electricity, gas, real estate, transportation, food and drink for the whole family. And once you have children, the cost of parenting and education is bottomless ... In that case, don't talk about brand-name bags, just go out to eat.

After listening to my calculation, my friends still don't quite understand: "But that's my own money, why can't I use it to buy bags?" Theoretically, you can earn $654.38 million+a year and spend $654.38 million+on a bag. But anyone with a little common sense of life knows that in real life, it simply doesn't work! Since you bought this bag, others have to help you repay the mortgage and car loan you owe. In this case, the bag is no longer bought by yourself, but stolen by others.

Like the woman who bought lobster with 3000 yuan and 2000 yuan. The salary is so high and the meal is so tight. I have to eat hard every month, and even the training fee for my children has to be taken from the old man. Under such circumstances, who is qualified to say "spend money to earn"?

You buy clothes with steam, and the flowers are all others'. Only when the lobster is your own can you confidently say, "How can I eat crayfish with my own money?" Think about it from another angle. If the old people at home don't pay, will this woman spend 2000 yuan on lobster?

No, I'm afraid she won't even give up 200 yuan. That's the truth. If you split it in two, you can do it. Idealism can be done by people, but in the end, we must do what we can.

The monthly salary is 3000 yuan. If you want to eat lobster freely and happily, you want to spend a lot of money. In this case, it is best not to get married easily. You can get married, work hard and find a rich man who doesn't need money to support his family. Love eating and drinking, kill two birds with one stone.

What should I do if the wages of both sides are not high and the pressure to support my family is great? Sorry, this moment is not suitable for "spending your own money" to enjoy. Because from the moment you choose to get married, you are responsible for marriage by default.

The house will not automatically repay the loan, the gas will not be automatically renewed, and the children will not earn their own money to support their families. Everything depends on the joint efforts of both parties in the marriage, either to increase horsepower to make money or to bite the bullet and tighten spending, otherwise what can we do? Eat 2000 lobsters a month and go begging in married with children at the end of the month?

Look here, unmarried friends are afraid of getting married again. Will the quality of life be reduced after marriage, and even crayfish can't be eaten casually? No, no, your monthly salary is 30 thousand, and no one can hold on. It may also be that your husband's income is high enough that you don't have to bear the responsibility of supporting your family, but you can also eat and drink aboveboard.

But the point is not only 3000 yuan a month? A low-quality life means driving a BMW before marriage and taking a bus after marriage. Isn't it normal to take the bus before marriage and still take the bus after marriage?

I have also mentioned countless times that marriage is a reality. The truth is, people order food. 30 thousand a month, eat 2 thousand lobsters, no one is qualified to take care of you. Earn 3000 a month, eat 2000 lobsters, and even netizens will accuse you.

But you need not be disappointed. Life is like this. If you have it, you will lose it, and if you lose it, you will get it. Mother saved money for sweaters and bought chocolates for the children. Dad saved money on cigarettes and installed a water heater at home. Sometimes I feel everything is bitter, and sometimes I get unexpected happiness.

This is marriage. Men take responsibility, women take responsibility, no one can sit still. Sometimes I hear some girls thinking about marriage: buy a bag, go shopping, swipe their husband's card, go to a beauty salon, and be as happy as a little princess without touching spring water. Otherwise, how can you get married? I really dare not say that there is no such paradise in the world. But years of experience tell me that it is very rare, and the probability is comparable to that of Mars hitting the earth.

Even wives on Forbes' rich list have to participate in negotiations with their husbands to solve thorny business problems and take care of complicated family affairs, not to mention ordinary couples. You're getting married soon, so you'd better prepare yourself first. Be a wife, a mother and a family member.