As a manager, how about talking and laughing with subordinates all day?

Does a leader who talks and laughs with employees all day have authority?

Readers should be clear after reading it.

You can't laugh if you want to. The key depends on when, how long and how to measure it. The effect is completely different.

First, life events contain the mystery of management.

I want to say something that seems irrelevant first.

I was deeply touched by the conversation of several female colleagues at the same table when our unit went out for a group activity that day.

A man gnashed his teeth when talking about his mother-in-law: "He used to be very kind to me, afraid that I wouldn't marry his son. Now that I'm married, I don't care about anything. Before I got to his house, it was fruit, snacks and caring and attentive. He often criticizes his son for not caring about me. As soon as I got the marriage certificate, everything changed reversibly. She always looks at me, eats snacks and says you are not afraid of being fat. You just sat down to rest, she said, why don't you clean the room and watch no one rest? I think she lied to me and changed. " Then there is infinite sigh.

Another person said, "I don't think so. My mother-in-law used to be bad to me and didn't like me. " If you ignore me, you will really treat me like family after marriage. I'm afraid I'm tired and hungry and I'm not used to it. "When you say this, you can't hide your happiness.

A middle-aged male colleague next to him said half jokingly, "How did your relationship become like this? Your reference is different. Haha, your mother-in-law used to be very kind to you. After a little change after marriage, you will feel that she has become very bad. At first, her mother-in-law was not good to him, but later she was a little better. In her opinion, she is infinitely satisfied. " The male colleague went on to say, "So being a mother-in-law requires art.. Even if you like your son's girlfriend at first, you can't be too nice to her. When you reach a very high level, it will be difficult for you to surpass it in the future, because once you surpass it after marriage, you will become a "marriage liar". "It is not difficult to get your good mother-in-law, that is, let your good gradually increase the weight, and it is better after marriage than before marriage. The daughter-in-law will be infinitely grateful to you. "

This view is too original. Suddenly, several expectant mothers clapped their hands and cheered.

Second, the management of leaders should also be artistic. 1. Laughing and laughing all day, even if it is strict afterwards, it can't establish prestige.

If you talk and laugh with your subordinates all day, you get too close to your employees. It's easy to lose dignity. Stay with your subordinates for a long time, and others will know your weakness. There is a saying: all disgust comes from seeing through. Your dribs and drabs, your joys and sorrows, everything about you have been seen through by others. Who's afraid of you?

2. Being dignified and unsmiling at first, and then getting close to employees will help win people's hearts.

If you start to be very dignified and unsmiling. I am very strict about my work. You seldom deal with people in your life. The sense that gives a person is inscrutable and inaccessible. In everyone's mind, after this image is fixed, it will slowly ease. They are very close to the staff, and the staff will think, "Wow, the sun shines on me."

In this way, on the overall majestic background, plus two gentle embellishments, it will make people remember deeply. This is not only conducive to the development of the work, but also will not lose people's hearts.

So sometimes, we can't underestimate the dialogue in life. This simple parental shortcoming actually contains the wisdom of life and management.

3. The law of people's psychological acceptance: bad first, easy to accept, bad first, difficult to accept.

This reminds me of a similar thing,

If you go to the store to buy a catty of fruit candy, the clerk will grab half a catty for you first, and then add it one by one for many times until it reaches a catty.

If you go to the store to buy a catty of fruit candy, the clerk first grabs a lot of fruit candy and puts it in the weighing plate, and then reduces it one by one, one by one, many times, and finally reduces it to a catty.

Which do you think makes you feel more comfortable? Although in fact there is no difference at all.

Therefore, people's psychology is to suffer first and then easy. It's hard to accept the sweet before the bitter.

If you talk and laugh with employees all day long in the process of leadership, lose your dignity, and finally find that the work is not carried out well and becomes severe, then employees will definitely not accept it, and you will not change well.

If you are in the process of leadership, first establish prestige, take it seriously, be unsmiling and orderly. Form a sense of dignity among all employees. Let all employees always think that you are principled and systematic. They will also be meticulous about their work and take the initiative to approach when appropriate, which will make employees feel how approachable the leader is!

Well, my analysis is brief here, I hope it can help you.

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If the question raised by the subject is rigorous, then the answer to this question must be "bad". A manager who laughs with his subordinates all day can't live up to the manager's prestige, and even make employees feel that the manager who laughs all day is "easy to talk", "shapeless" and "easy to bully". Moreover, once managers leave the impression of "laughing and laughing" in the hearts of employees, it is difficult to "pull it back".

It's hard for managers to keep a straight face all day without laughing. Not exactly. The key is that managers grasp the duration and timing of "laughing", that is, managers know when to laugh, when to be serious, to what extent to laugh, and to what extent to be serious. To tell the truth, there are not many managers who can grasp this kind of discretion.

As we all know, human muscles have memories. Laughing and laughing all day, the performance of muscle "laughing and laughing" will form memory, and it will be frequent "laughing and laughing"; In the same way, if you are serious all day, your muscles will also form memories, and you will often be serious and unsmiling. Appropriate adjustment between the two is conducive to active atmosphere, and the other is to be able to switch between the two habitually and know the value and significance of switching.

I remember seeing a phenomenon in a course in Yu Shiwei: some Japanese managers drank and had fun together after work, and sometimes got drunk. Everyone smiled at each other and there was no gap between them and their subordinates. It seems that everyone is a buddy friend; But when I went to work the next day, last night's "laughing and cursing" and "drunk as mud" didn't seem to happen at all, and they all switched to a "serious" state. This method is reasonable. At this point, the managers of European and American enterprises have done a good job.

It is most important for managers to master the process of "talking and laughing", which means both "talking and laughing" and "being serious". I remember that his old man said "unity, nervousness, seriousness and liveliness", which is also a truth.

As a manager, it doesn't matter if you just talk and laugh with your subordinates occasionally. It's not good to talk and laugh with subordinates all day. Such a leader will make people feel that they are doing something wrong, and it is easy to lose their dignity in front of subordinates, thus losing the prestige of managers.

First, as a manager, it is good to talk and laugh with subordinates occasionally. Because work needs to be relaxed, everyone will feel a lot of pressure and physical and mental exhaustion in the face of busy work every day. Leaders occasionally play a joke on their subordinates, which can not only adjust the atmosphere, but also relieve fatigue, killing two birds with one stone. After the fun, everyone threw themselves into the work, thus improving the work efficiency.

Second, as a manager, it is not good to talk and laugh with subordinates all day. This makes everyone feel that managers are not dignified and no one is convinced. In fact, the working environment is very important, and so is the working atmosphere. Too lax working environment is easy to make people lack tension, thus affecting work efficiency. The working environment we need should be United, tense and serious.

Thank you for inviting me. I have a simple mind.

It is good for managers to talk and laugh with their subordinates all day, mainly depending on how well they grasp the "degree".

Someone has put forward a theory that when a leader must not get too close to his employees, he must keep his distance, so that he will have dignity and make employees feel that your leadership authority is inviolable.

I don't deny that this statement has some truth, but it is not suitable for every occasion and team. In addition, for management, the situation is unpredictable. If you stick to some seemingly reasonable principles to do management work, you will be very confused.

Then I will analyze two situations that I often encounter in the workplace.

1. Facing an active team

If there are several activists in the team and the atmosphere of the team is good in the daily work process. It's not boring at all, and no member feels lifeless, so it's best for leaders to keep a little posture, keep a little distance from this active atmosphere and participate occasionally.

Because too active elements can easily overwhelm your authority, after a long time, activists will bring the people who lead you into their entertainment. If that is true, your prestige will fade after a long time. When employees do something wrong, they will also find various reasons to prevaricate or even laugh it off.

I know this situation very well. If you criticize too much when they smile at the mistakes you point out, you will not be able to integrate with them in the future.

2. Facing a team with a dull atmosphere

As a manager, one of his own functions is to control the team atmosphere. If a team is lifeless and has no fighting spirit, it is mostly the responsibility of the leader.

If you are facing a team with a dull atmosphere, then the leaders may need to participate more. Usually there are many interactions and jokes, but at this time, we should also be careful not to overdo it. Once you go too far, it's hard to get rid of those men's shows and the weak, and you go too far.

You can take everyone to chat and talk nonsense when they are not busy, but don't distract them when they are busy. As a manager, you should also have your own fixed working hours and a period of uninterrupted time. Let everyone develop the habit of playing moderately and moving clearly.

Generally speaking, as managers and employees, it is not a big problem to talk and laugh. As long as we don't cross the line and affect our work, we will be closer, have deeper feelings and have stronger team fighting capacity. How many famous soldiers in history will share joys and sorrows with soldiers and make jokes together, so it is no problem to be used to large troops, but there is a big problem for small companies? Don't worry.

Many people think that leaders should look like leaders. Smiling and laughing will not only lose their leadership position, but also make their subordinates lose their awe!

I have to say that simply thinking that "laughing" is good or bad is too one-sided and arbitrary!

For example, in news programs, our understanding of the host used to be serious. Now, what we see is Duan Zishou, a true feeling and a living person. Then we will think that the host is unqualified, and the host is unqualified. No, we will only think that the host is a person, no longer rigid, no longer rigid or even rigid!

A friend is a manager. Friends are outgoing and humorous. His favorite thing to do is to play jokes on employees!

For example, when going out to play, he will take an ugly photo of sleeping in the employee's car, then send it to the employee, and then "threaten" with mirth. If you send such beautiful photos to a large group of companies or friends, will you let everyone see your "true face"? Subordinates are often embarrassed or won't let you, and the boss will bargain and not send it, and then send a photo that is not ugly to a large group of people and say,

For example, at work, everyone is easy to get sleepy in summer, even if they have a rest at noon, they will still get sleepy! At work, when my friend saw that the employee was sleepy, he immediately pulled up the other people in the team, smiled at the sleepy people together, and chatted while watching: Look, so-and-so is sleepy and asleep. Let's watch him fall asleep and have a good dream! Well, the staff woke up immediately, which was embarrassing!

Chatting with friends, you are so hilarious, can the staff convince you? It is unrealistic for a friend to smile and expect others to be completely convinced. Actually, persuasion is not the most important thing. The important thing is that the work results are good and everyone is happy. Isn't that great?

My friend is right, but I always feel that as a leader, I lack prestige!

A friend asked, what do you think prestige is? Are others afraid of you? Or did you see someone else toast you? Or did others see obedience to you? Or did someone else see you and like you?

The friend went on to say, what you see is hi-ha-ha, but every time you like hi-ha-ha, it's different. You have goals and requirements, but you put forward new requirements in the coat of hi-ha-ha! For example, the one who took ugly photos urged him to work harder and set a higher standard this month. It looked like a threat, but both sides accepted it happily!

Listening to friends, I'm really a little confused. Should management be strict or loose? Should it be awe or harmony?

In fact, there is no fixed management, and it is management and management. The most important thing is that managers find management methods suitable for themselves and the team!

Suit oneself

Management itself is to improve efficiency and promote the achievement of results!

Every manager will have his own ideas and personality! Doesn't mean what's right for others is right for you. When you see others smiling and the team performing well, you will manage with laughter! Seeing that others are serious and strict, the team order forbids, the discipline is good, and the performance is good, I will seriously ask for it with a straight face!

What we see is superficial, and the real situation is not just what we see!

The management of Xihaha is also serious; Serious and strict management, but also relaxed and happy times!

Fit for the team

Everyone in the team is different; In team management, not only everyone should be considered, but also according to different situations and different States!

When the team is in a downturn, if you keep pressing, it will only make the downturn worse. Appropriate laughter is a relief from the state of personnel and team!

When the team sprints, it needs strict requirements and strict discipline, and it is strictly forbidden to implement it; Laughing and laughing is equivalent to relaxing the morale and rhythm, even if you want to sprint, there is no state!

Places to pay attention to

Smiling is just a means, not an affectation!

Be careful to treat Xi Xi haha as a person's design. In management, the reason why Xihaha is not appropriate lies in taking Xihaha as a person's design and deliberately shaping the so-called "Xihaha" people-friendly image!

When employees are familiar with "Xi Xi ha ha" and get used to it, the manager's "Xi Xi ha ha" is established, which means a good atmosphere and can also create a relaxed atmosphere. Employees are not employees, and managers are not managers!

Moreover, once you get used to laughing and cursing, you will be irresistible and disgusted with severity and seriousness!

Laugh when you should, and never laugh when you shouldn't!

Managers deliberately laugh and laugh, just a small means of management. With the exchange of laughter and laughter, they can not only close the distance, understand the real thoughts of their subordinates, but also create a relaxed atmosphere for the team, which is conducive to the opening work!

Thank you for your invitation.

Regarding the problem, personally, it is still a matter of grasping the content and degree of laughter. My humble opinion is as follows:

1, if you are talking and laughing with your subordinates all day, the content is related to the promotion of your work, which is also a high level.

As people in the workplace, we all like a simple, harmonious and pleasant working environment, and we like amiable managers to lead us to struggle and win the battle. Such a working atmosphere is bound to have a successful working realm.

2. If you talk and laugh with your subordinates all day and have strict work requirements, it will not affect the achievement of the results.

In the workplace, we often need to put ourselves in the other's shoes: perhaps the laughter of managers and subordinates we see is just a way for them to adjust their work pressure, and more scenes we can't see are their unremitting efforts to achieve their work goals.

Professionalization is the foundation of humanization.

There are some advantages in the short term: getting along with subordinates is conducive to emotional transmission, which is the only good thing;

2 long-term is absolutely bad: no matter from the management authority or people's indulgence, it is not conducive;

Enterprise is not home: those companies that regard enterprise as home culture will certainly not go far;

Employees are not brothers: those managers who treat their work as brothers will eventually be paid by the company.

Please remember:

Enterprises are never home+employees cannot be brothers! !

As a manager, it is certainly not good to talk and laugh with employees all day!

1. Decline in popularity

As a manager, you need to be responsible for the daily management of the team, and some even take charge of the overall operation of the company. If you want to work better and enhance team friendship, you can't be too serious, but remember not to be too casual. To some extent, work and life should be separated. Do your job well during office hours. Occasionally a joke or humorous behavior can naturally make the whole office atmosphere relaxed and active, but excessive entertainment will only make managers lose their authority! Therefore, when there is nothing, it is better to be a strict leader in the hearts of employees than to be an unkind leader in the hearts of employees. After all, the relationship is so good when talking and laughing, and it may be unreasonable for employees not to do it when arranging tasks. In short, don't let employees feel that the leadership contrast is too big, and don't let yourself have a big gap;

2. idle?

What kind of job does this have to be, as a manager, to talk and laugh with employees all day? It will also give a bad impression. A dynamic and sustainable enterprise, I believe its managers have no time to do this.

As a manager of an enterprise, you can express your goodwill appropriately from the perspective of employee relations, but you must not let yourself express it casually. From the work point of view, as a manager of an enterprise, it is more important to lead by example, people-oriented, and lead everyone to create great value for the enterprise together. Always remember your mission as a manager.

Occasionally, it will make people feel friendly and easy to get along with, but if it is like this all day, it is easy for subordinates to find out their temper and it is not easy to manage.

It's okay not to pretend, just like Brother Ping. It's natural to be unpretentious and disobedient. As long as people don't pretend there is something wrong, there is no need for leaders to be serious, right?