These six manifestations show that you are in a false intimate relationship.

These six manifestations show that you are in a false intimate relationship.

What are six manifestations of pseudo-intimacy?

1. Accustomed to being a "good person" in a relationship?

You look very close. In the eyes of others, you are no different from a really close couple. You care and respect each other and provide them with emotional security. You treat each other in a way that you think is [good], and you will not easily express your dissatisfaction, thinking that you can receive the expected response from each other.

2. Because there is "correctness" in the relationship.

For example, the other party thinks that boyfriends/girlfriends should ... so they try their best to meet their expectations. There is often a template in a pseudo-intimate relationship. Under the expectation of role-playing, both sides complete the established tasks, because both sides are afraid to let the other side see their true selves and admit the real problems in the relationship, so they can't really communicate and solve these problems.

You are missing the other person's real emotional needs.

Although you have met the beautiful and correct expectations, your real emotional needs with each other are not there, and they are often ignored, hidden and not expressed.

4. Always like to use jokes to avoid sincere conversations.

It's okay to joke, but we need to know whether this is a way to avoid sincere dialogue, because telling jokes all the time can take care of each other's emotions and avoid expressing our true thoughts.

5. When you get along, you will be nervous unconsciously.

Because people who always want to maintain such a good and correct relationship are often in an unconscious state of tension, very sensitive to each other's emotions but unwilling to let the other side see their anxiety.

This is the biggest difference between it and real intimacy. Also care about each other. True intimacy is to accept and understand each other, while false intimacy is to avoid danger.

6. Dealing with relationships with "reason"

False intimacy is not used to expressing emotions, but it is a highly rational coping style, which may make a person efficient at work, but in intimate relationship, it may also keep TA away from real intimacy, because there is no internal emotional mutual vision between the two sides.

Pseudointimacy is a seemingly intimate relationship, which actually lacks real depth and connotation. In interpersonal relationships, false intimacy often masks real problems, which makes people feel confused and lost.