Regarding sex education for children, I will teach you how to guide children through targeted education.

With regard to children's sex education, I will teach you how to use and operate it in practice to help more parents educate their children.

In 20 17, the tricolor incident was raging. While denouncing the parties, we can't help thinking about how to educate our children about sex. This has always been a difficult problem in the minds of China people. But as far as children's education is concerned, apart from moral education and knowledge education, sex education and self-protection education are really essential. Parents know the truth, but they don't know where to start. Therefore, I have summed up some things about children's sex education today, hoping to help everyone. If there are any shortcomings, please give me your advice.

First of all, sexual assault is divided into explicit assault and implicit assault. Domination is well known, and the aggressor carries out sexual assault with subjective desire. Implicit sexual assault: the aggressor has no subjective intention of sexual assault, but there is psychological harm similar to explicit sexual assault in behavior. This kind of infringement mainly comes from the caregivers of children. For example, parents wash penises for children aged 3 or 4, and couples don't shy away from their children in life, teasing their genitals with words or actions in public. This is very common for little boys, for example, adults will tell jokes about penis to amuse children.

Implicit attacks often exist in the parenting behavior of caregivers.

First of all, we need to know which inappropriate parenting behaviors belong to hidden sexual assault:

First, wear open-backed pants for children. In order to facilitate the child to urinate, he squatted. And can avoid the trouble of washing clothes to a certain extent. The harm of open-backed pants: First, it destroys the child's physical boundaries and the child's privacy concept about the body. Second, children will be gender-aware at the age of 1. Wearing open-backed pants often makes children feel that their private parts can be exposed to others at will. Third, it is prone to accidental injuries. For example, if the penis is caught by a toy zipper, it will be easily infected by bacteria if it is directly exposed. Fourth, it is easy to be sexually assaulted, because bad people can easily touch children's private parts.

Second: Joking, touching the child's sex organs at will will hurt the child's psychology and growth: 1, arousing the child's attention to the sex organs in advance will lead to exploring the behavior of the genitals in advance. What is the most important thing to give children sex education?

2. Casual play will stimulate the development of children's sexual feelings and make children have sex-related behaviors that are not suitable for their age. It will lead to children's sensory exploration of sexual organs in advance.

3. Touching the child's sexual organs casually will destroy the child's physical boundaries and have no sense of privacy. It may even lead children to establish a wrong concept: their penis can be touched casually.

4, will let children learn this behavior of adults. It will make children think that I can touch other people's private parts at will.

5, destroyed the child's sense of dignity and self-esteem for his body.

? Third: let the children urinate everywhere.

It can be seen everywhere in China, and some people even think that this is not a problem. I always feel that children are still young, and it doesn't matter if they urinate anywhere. When children grow up, they won't pee anywhere. It doesn't matter.

If you can pee anywhere. 1, let the children feel that I can expose my private parts anywhere at will. 2, it will invade others! You don't mind your children being exposed everywhere, but please respect other children and adults. For example, if you are a person with a normal world outlook, how do you feel when you meet someone who suddenly takes off his pants in front of you in the street? Experience it for yourself.

Fourth: forcibly kiss the child.

Kissing can convey love and care. Kiss the child, or let the child kiss you, but if the child doesn't want to, don't always push the child! Forcing children to kiss you often is also a kind of harm to children.

Fifth: help children bathe and clean their sexual organs.

Will raise a healthy child into a disabled child who has no ability to take care of himself.

This is the root of many families in China. I always feel that children are too young to do anything well, and I can't do anything, so I will do it directly for them. The child can't take a bath, I help him, the child can't wash his penis, I help him, the child can't eat by himself, I feed him ... Generally, children over 3 years old can take a bath and wash their penis by themselves!

Just because a child can't or can't do it well, he can't do it. It is to teach him to do it, not to replace it all the time.

How to correctly guide children to have sex education?

First of all, we should understand the three stages of sexual psychological development of children aged 0-6:

1, the first stage of sexual psychological development: oral sex desire period. 0- 18 months, producing pleasure through oral cavity.

2, anal expectation. Will deliberately suppress feces, resulting in physiological pleasure. Excretion through anus produces pleasure. Therefore, children in anorectal period deliberately hold their urine, so parents should not be ashamed to talk about it and scold them, which will make them feel ashamed.

3, sexual germination desire period. The most important psychological sexual desire stage. During this period, the body nerve development is relatively complete, and the sexual organs will feel. Children will find that if they accidentally touch their private parts, their penis will become hard and their bodies will feel happy, so many children will pinch their legs and things under their legs at this stage, and little girls will touch themselves and so on. Adults should not be rude to scold and humiliate. We need scientific guidance.

Parents should not rudely interrupt their children when they find these behaviors, nor should they make them feel that they are doing a shameful thing, which will make them feel ashamed and humiliated. The correct way is not to make a fuss, calm down, divert children's attention, play games with children and naturally divert their attention.

If the child masturbates, it must be that the child is too bored and begins to play with his body! Or because he found it by accident. Definitely not intentional, don't do negative reinforcement. Otherwise, the more you emphasize it, the more interested children will be in it. This involves what is negative reinforcement. . . Not much to say.

How to prevent sexual assault

The first thing: let the children know their bodies.

Don't say to your child as soon as you come up, son, you should protect yourself. I don't expect a child aged 0-3 to protect himself!

Protection is a matter for adults. When a child's physical privacy is violated, let it be said and let parents know. Let children know what aggression is, and they are willing to say it once they encounter it! This is the focus of early childhood sex education!

First, how to know the body:

1, identify the body. For example, let children point to their stomachs and legs to learn body parts.

2, with the help of pictures, different body shapes of men and women, let children know the difference between men and women.

Second: establish privacy:

Before the age of 3, if the child goes to learn physical fitness, the child is purely curious, but there is absolutely no moral color and no shame. Therefore, if the child asks questions, the parents will answer them directly. Don't blame the child! Don't let children feel ashamed and wrong to ask these questions. Help children build their private parts, let them know and teach them with pictures, and let them learn with such intuitive pictures.

Circle the difference between men and women with pens of different colors. And let the children realize the difference. Or let children draw boys and girls. Then let the children circle which parts of the woman can't be said and touched at will.

(The above method is suitable for children aged 3-6, because it takes 4 years to establish the concept of privacy. )

Before the age of 4, children can't establish privacy, because in this period, children need to know their own bodies and other people's bodies before they can know their differences from others, know themselves and understand the concept of privacy. Therefore, in kindergartens, the toilets for children before the age of 4 are unisex toilets, and after the age of 4, they are divided into unisex toilets. Children before the age of 4 should know where their differences are, and privacy can only be established after the age of 4. The ipsilateral design of kindergarten is also arranged according to children's cognitive and psychological development needs.

Third: after teaching children to be aware of their private parts, don't just tell them, but protect their privacy.

If so, the child will be afraid to tell his parents when he encounters sexual assault, because the child will think that his mother asked me to protect privacy, but I didn't do it. If I tell my mother, will my mother scold me, so the child chooses to hide it. It is to tell children that once they are violated, whether it is other violations or sexual assault, they should scream loudly and scream loudly. If the other person is still close, just push him away! Tell your parents when you get home. Be sure to tell your parents. This is what children must firmly believe: tell parents that they will not be scolded! Parents will help you solve it.

About drawing a book: Draw a book about sex safety education.

As for whether to show it to children, it depends on two points: children's psychological development and cognitive level, and parents' guiding ability. Drawing a book must be read under the guidance of parents, not for children themselves.

Before the age of 6, don't just emphasize that children should protect themselves. Under this pressure, the more difficult it is for children to express themselves. Protecting children is the responsibility of guardians, not children. Besides, children can't protect themselves at all.

Therefore, the key point of sexual safety is: tell children that once they are violated, tell their parents!

If you buy a sex album, parents should read it first, learn to understand the story first, then store the knowledge about sex education and show it to their children together.

Method 3: 25 questions. Help parents understand their children's situation in kindergarten.

The following questions can be asked selectively. Don't ask 25 questions repeatedly every day. Ask questions selectively according to your child's situation that day:

1. What is the best thing that happened in kindergarten today? What is the worst thing that happened in kindergarten today? )

2.？ Tell me what made you laugh today?

Who do you want to sit next to in the classroom today? Who don't you want to sit next to? Why? )

4. Where is the most interesting kindergarten?

5.？ What is the strangest thing you heard today? (Or: Did you hear anyone say anything strange today? )

6.？ If I call your teacher tonight, what do you think she will tell me about you?

7. Did you help the children today?

8. Are there any children to help you today?

9.？ Tell me what you learned today.

10.？ When are you happiest today?

1 1.？ When do you feel most bored today?

12.？ If an alien comes to your class and wants to take someone away, who do you want it to take away?

Maybe some children don't know about aliens yet, but they may know about monsters, beasts and so on. And they can change.

13.？ Who do you want to play with during recess?

14.？ Tell me about a good thing that happened in kindergarten today?

15.？ What did your teacher say the most today?

16.？ What else do you want to learn in kindergarten?

17.？ What don't you want to learn in kindergarten?

18.？ Which classmate do you think you can be nicer to?

19.？ What do you play best when you play?

20.？ Who is the most interesting in your class? Why do you think he/she is the most interesting?

2 1. What's your favorite food for lunch?

22. If you become a teacher tomorrow, what will you do?

23. Does anyone in your class want to make a penalty stand?

24. If you could change seats, who would you like to change seats with? Why?

25.？ Tell me when you used a pen in kindergarten today.

Why do you ask these questions to understand what happened to your child in kindergarten? Because adults have the ability to recall the emotions, events and details of this day!

If you ask a kindergarten child what he did in kindergarten today, it is impossible to get a systematic answer, and the child can't remember clearly, so it is very important for an adult to ask questions. Personally, I think this part of the problem is not only suitable for preventing sexual assault, but also suitable for families who just went to kindergarten. Parents can gradually discover their children's emotions and adaptation in kindergarten through a series of questions to help them better adapt to kindergarten. At the same time, I will find out things and clues about children in kindergarten.

Next, I recommend drawing a book:

Finally, everyday children ask questions and answer them directly. Don't be shy to answer these questions. Children are purely curious about these physical and sexual problems. Children have no sense of shame, but adults bring this sense of shame to children. The child asks the father, the father answers, asks the mother, the mother answers, don't avoid, you know what you know, learn and explore with the child.