How do women make themselves valuable?

How do women make themselves valuable? Because everyone has their own comfort zone, working and living according to the rules every day, just like boiling frogs in warm water, especially after a woman gets married, she has to take care of her parents-in-law, family and children, as well as her own work. If you don't pay attention to study and self-improvement, you will really be troubled by the life of rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea. When you meet ever-changing people and things, because you can't solve them, you will fall into grief and indignation all day. Long-term negative emotions are related to your heart. Your face is just unhappy.

Without a heartfelt smile, how can a woman be beautiful and blooming, and how can she be the soul of her family? There are many women, after 30 years old, with long shifts on their faces and various gynecological diseases. In fact, these are all caused by long-term dissolution and stagnation of liver qi. Your face is full of anger and frustration. Are others willing to communicate with you? Without communication, where are you from? Without collusion, where can we cooperate? Who in the world doesn't like people who are cheerful all day, ruddy-skinned, swaggering and full of positive energy? Who likes to talk about my husband, children, mother-in-law, and people led by colleagues? If you can't solve the contradictions in your life, you will become worthless, right?

The original me, in fact, is such a person, because of blind dedication, I don't know how to love myself, I live too seriously, I don't pay attention to my study for a long time, and the smile on my face is short-lived. Seeing beautiful women outside, I only have praise and envy, or praise and envy. All kinds of control at home, control the husband's diet and daily life, control the son's future, complain about parents' incomprehension, complain about the mother-in-law's strength, and complain about the inconvenience of living with her mother-in-law, because there are three elderly people in their 70 s and 80 s who need to take care of them and are often overwhelmed. At work, although the performance is not bad, but because of inner impatience, it is easy to make low-level mistakes at work. In short, my appearance is not beautiful, I am not confident, I am not sunny, my liver is depressed, and my face is covered with spots.

In order to change and make myself valuable, I embarked on the road of learning. After a period of study, I got three insights.

First, first find out your hobbies, set yourself a small goal, and always work hard around this goal.

So what is the goal I set for myself? It's almost four years since my son graduated from college. He gave up young people's fun and delicious food, and developed a smart home system with what he learned, that is, using a mobile phone to remotely control various electrical appliances at home, which has been installed in the homes of relatives and friends around him and runs well. From software to hardware, from experiment to product molding, my son has made great efforts and painstaking efforts. It is precisely because I saw his Excellence and enjoyed the convenient life brought by my son's smart home system. As a mother, I have never slacked off. I set a goal for myself, and I must help my son.

After 30 years' working experience, at first I thought I could help my son with my determination. With offline and online study, I feel more and more that I can't solve all kinds of troubles in my life, let alone help my son. I haven't survived yet. So around the goal of helping my son, I continued to study, and I really appreciate the great era of the Internet. I signed up for a course online, studied psychology, listened to audio every day, and finished my homework according to my experience of punching in audio. I also learned 48 books about psychological growth on the Internet. Offline, I read a lot of books about how to live a feminine life. I remember American psychologist Rogers' On Human Growth, and Ma's Sugar Cube Reading Club,< Dog Qian Qian >< Poor Dad, Rich Dad > and so on. Books. There is also Himalayan listening to Zhang Defen and Cai Kangyong's audio about improving emotional intelligence and spiritual accomplishment.

After work every day, I read books as long as I have time. When I am tired, I listen to audio. When you meet a good sentence in the book, write one sentence after another. But I bought all the good books mentioned in the author's book. Read them carefully. The more you learn, the more you feel your own shortcomings. Because I found something I am interested in, reading books and listening to audio, my time every day is very substantial. Going out to buy a dish is also time. I have to finish cooking quickly. I have a book to finish after supper. Through reading, my mind has grown.

I can deeply understand every moment, feel the people and things happening around me in my life, and know how to love myself more. Through studying, I feel happy every day, and I am no longer as sensitive and fragile as before. The working relationship at home is getting better and better. My husband praised me for my great changes, and my colleagues felt that I was becoming more and more cheerful. My son also said that my mother is becoming more and more skilled now. I feel much better myself. Although I still need to grow up, improve in many aspects and read many books, I firmly believe that through my continuous study, I will definitely help my son in the future. Try to be a wise mother in front of him.

I want to be an archer, aim at my goal, tighten my body and mind, pay close attention to it, and let everything I do work hard for this goal.

Second, write a success diary for yourself. Because of our shortcomings, everyone will have a certain degree of inferiority. For example, some people, when writing, have a lot of feelings in life, but they are embarrassed to say it, for fear of being told jokes and writing badly. In fact, this is also a manifestation of inferiority. Through reading, I know that inferiority refers to the feeling that others have something they are good at and they don't. It is precisely this feeling that they don't have, and inferiority is also the driving force for us to move forward. How to overcome inferiority complex? My practice is to write a success diary for myself every day. Pick up your mobile phone before going to bed at night, record what happened in the day, and only write down what makes you happy. What are you satisfied with? Even if someone praises you, record it. Stick to it for a while, and you will magically find that your way of thinking has quietly changed, because you only think about what you are satisfied with, and your heart becomes happy.

Because I insist on keeping a diary of success, my work style has changed and my inferiority complex has been eliminated. For the feelings in life, because everyone feels different, so what we write is unique, right!

Third, pay attention to the ways and means of writing. I always feel a little confused. What if we can't talk it over? What if I can't express it? At first, I didn't know. Later, through reading, I understood that I want to make one thing clear. Let me take this as an example first, and then tell you what I feel and what I can bring you. As I said above, how to make women valuable? First, list some of my situations, and then say that women should adjust their emotions, avoid the comfort zone, and let themselves have a beautiful appearance and a rich heart through learning. Finally, making yourself valuable involves pushing up, cutting down and translating. First ask questions, then give examples around this question, and finally return to the theme to be expressed through some personal feelings. If you explain one thing through the above three points, you will express it clearly, understand it clearly, and it can really impress and infect people.

There are also some golden sentences, which I understand are: some language essence that can touch your heart and link with you. For example, flowers bloom on both sides, and we live in a Buddhist illusion. As soon as I think of this sentence, it will affect my style of doing things. We can't be good people for a long time, because we are too tired to live in buddha magic. For example, peach blossoms bloom in March, chrysanthemums bloom in September, and the time of flowering is different. As long as we really want to change our present situation, as long as we are on the road to improving our self-awareness, it is never too late to start. As long as we study, you will gain something, and your spring is not far away. There is still the farthest distance from what is said to what is done. Whenever my son is depressed because of too many things, think about this sentence Although I don't like the fact that I often say golden sentences, think about the reason why I let him calm down and concentrate on his work. Write down an essential sentence like this, which will always affect your cognition.

Finally, to sum up, to improve learning, we must first set a goal, and all actions revolve around this goal. Write a success diary for yourself every day, and stick to it, it will definitely change your cognition. Finally, writing should pay attention to methods. If you don't know the result, it is the shortest way to learn from those who have the result.

A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. If your life is at a crossroads, if you want to change and become more valuable as a woman, then from now on, let's study together and make progress together.

Those women who can get out of their narrow living space, leave the comfort zone of work and life, constantly tap their potential, know how to respect themselves, love themselves and strive for self-improvement are the most valuable, regardless of age!