Two old people often quarrel because of their grandchildren, and the children are not obedient. What should I do?

Old people quarrel because of their children, mostly because the children are disobedient and do something wrong, so they quarrel. This is unnecessary. You can't spoil disobedient children, especially those who deliberately do something wrong, and let them be a little bit cruel, otherwise they will be lawless. Be patient with such children and don't talk too much. You should use tricks.

Old people can quarrel because of their grandchildren, and they will quarrel because of their children when they are young. Such people are not because of anyone's business, but because of their own personality, cultivation and cultural accomplishment. Children who grow up in this environment must be disobedient. If you want your child to be obedient, caregivers must first learn to talk well and discuss something. At present, children are no longer suitable to live with the elderly. It is suggested that parents should take the responsibility of being parents, which is conducive to the healthy development of children's body and mind. Because children are facing adolescence, if communication is not smooth, children will be more disobedient and even give up their studies.

Being sensible and obedient are two kinds of thoughts. Every child is an independent individual and has his own ideas. To cultivate children, we should encourage them to have their own ideas, not necessarily obedient. Cultivating children to be sensible is the direction of family parenting: being polite and caring for others. As for the quarrel between old people, it is unnecessary. The goal of parenting should be unified, and the environment of parenting is very important.

Shouldn't parents be responsible for the upbringing of their children? Why does the old man quarrel over his grandson, but the child still refuses to listen? As parents of children, haven't you thought about the problems that arise during their growth?

So now we have to find out the problem, and it should be ourselves, not the old people and children!

Old people help to take care of their grandchildren because they don't want their children to be too tired and bitter. They just help, and can't leave all the children's affairs to the elderly, especially the education of their children!

The older generation takes care of their children according to their own inherent experiences and concepts. They are separated by generations, not for fun. Old people often spoil their grandchildren, and they are really princes and princesses in their hands. Then the children raised in this case are easy to be selfish. They want what they want, don't know how to be grateful, and take everything others do for granted. When one day they can't meet his requirements, they begin to destroy it!

And everyone has their own ideas, especially the elderly. The three views have solidified and will not change themselves easily. In addition, some people have a bad temper, and it is easy to quarrel when the topic is divided!

When I was young, I grew up under the leadership of my grandparents, and my habits gradually formed. At this time, if they don't feel the love of their parents, they will also love to ignore their parents, and with the intervention of the elderly, it is difficult to change the living habits that children have formed.

Maybe you will say, no way, who doesn't want to grow up with their children, but the pressure of life is too great. With children at home, a person's salary can't support a family at all.

But not all elderly people with children will have this situation, and it is not that they have no time to educate their children after work.

Many parents give their children to the elderly, just waiting for them to enjoy themselves. What a pleasant thing to get rid of the shopkeeper, but now they are lazy and will be returned one day!

If we don't pay attention to children now, poor education may ruin their lives, so parents should seriously consider:

If you don't have time to take care of your children, let the elderly help you, and you should also handle your children's education yourself, and strive for a unified opinion of the whole family!

If the elderly have the time and financial ability, they can be given some lessons on how to educate their children.

If the old man sticks to his own opinion and doesn't change anything, he can only take care of the children by himself and try to change the bad habits that have appeared in the children. It's not too late. When I can't take care of the children, what's done is done. It's too late.

If the elderly don't take their children, there will be no problem of fighting for the children. If they fight for something else, it's their parents who have come to stop the fight.

In short, children will not grow up just by putting coins, but also grow well. We need to create a good growth environment for him, and we also need the love of our parents!

First of all, I have to say that a big reason for children's disobedience is related to grandparents.

In the process of children's growth, the adults around them are their "teachers", and there are parents, grandparents, grandparents and other relatives and friends at home.

There are many teachers for children, and one principle is very important, that is, the educational requirements, parenting attitudes and educational methods for children should be consistent.

But in real life, among family members, it is often the next generation of old people who dote on their children and even protect their weaknesses, resulting in the inconsistency of family education.

These situations are very unfavorable to children's education, and it is easy to form different attitudes of children in front of different people, resulting in unreasonable demands and bad habits of children.

Therefore, parents and other family members should use the same standards to educate their children, which is conducive to children to develop good behavior habits.

First of all, two old people with grandchildren should unify their thoughts. It is very important to educate the two old people well in order to cultivate a better next generation. If two old people, one doting and the other strict, the child doesn't know who to listen to, and finally, the child will suffer.

# Two old people often fight over their grandchildren, and the children are not obedient. What should I do? #

It is true that my father has a bad temper, and his impression is very strict. We dare not talk back to him because of his intransigence.

He sometimes teases the children next door to make fun of him. He never jokes in front of us. He just looks serious. Brothers and sisters are always vigilant, for fear of doing something wrong and being trained.

However, I asked my parents to take care of my children for four months. When I get back, I see my child disobeying or doing something wrong. I talked to the child and pretended to hit her. The father said in front of the child, "Let's see who dares to fight and who will fight me?" This old man is too protective of me.

Later, I brought my children home. Three-year-old babies are mean. If they can, they can take them. If they can't, they just won't listen. I said, "Don't listen to the stick!" "Hey, her voice did not fall, and two calves drummed out of the door, shouting," Grandpa, grandpa, help me, mom hit me! " "

From the father's attitude towards his daughter, it shows that grandparents are separated, and they are more inclined to spoil their grandchildren and protect their weaknesses. Don't underestimate two or three-year-old children. She knows who will protect her and stand up for her.

In the family, in addition to the pampering and justifying faults of grandparents, my child's father is also justifying faults. Although he has a bad temper, he is obedient to his daughter. He didn't give birth to his daughter until he was 30. He didn't like it very much, but he didn't say it, but I could feel that he ran outside every time he heard the child crying at first, and almost never hugged the child.

When a child can call mom and dad, run, make people happy, and start to get close to and spoil the child, he will take his daughter to the small garden and take a rocking car every day.

He came back late, and his daughter didn't go to bed at ten o'clock at night, so she had to wait for him to carry him to the amusement park. At that time, we lived in the suburbs, which was still a little far from the amusement park. He was in no hurry, and happily carried him out for a walk.

Once, the child's father hugged her, and her father jumped up first, ready to hug her again. She just cried and jumped around where it had just rained. Her father had no choice but to take her home and throw her to me.

I reasoned with her, but she wouldn't listen to me. I jumped up and cried so hard that I couldn't bear to hit her twice. Her father was distressed when he saw it and picked up a thick glass on the table. With a whoosh, it passed by my ear and crashed into the iron net door, breaking all over the floor.

Children can't tell the good from the bad because of grandparents' and fathers' justifying their faults, so they can't be disciplined in the future. They don't do their homework at school, I care. For this reason, we often quarrel. Her father is too strict with me to take care of the children, and he wants to beat me, which leads to the bad habit that children don't like doing homework from school to college.

The father of the child was used to it at that time and left it alone. From elementary school to high school, the teacher didn't do her homework, and she didn't find her parents. Her father felt humiliated and never went to see the teacher, only hurting the child and me. Teachers from primary school to high school reacted like this: "The child is fine, but he is lazy and doesn't like doing homework." You said he was old and angry!

The subject asked, two old people often fight because of their grandchildren, and the children are not obedient. What should we do?

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Whether it is grandparents or parents' connivance and protection of children's weaknesses, children will become more and more disobedient, because every time he is disobedient, one educates the children and the other protects them. When a child does something wrong, he will think, "Grandma dare not quarrel with me. If my grandfather bothers her, I won't listen. "

Over time, children become disobedient children in their parents' mouths, so it is unfair to say that children are too wronged. The first sentence of Saint Amethyst is very reasonable: "At the beginning of life, human nature is good. The same nature varies from upbringing to upbringing. Without education, there will be deviations. In order to teach well, you should think deeply. Yesterday, Meng Mu chose a neighbor. In Mencius' laziness, she cut the cloth. Dou Yanshan's righteous side is famous for teaching five sons. "

I don't even recommend that old people spoil their children.

In fact, neither of the two old people figured it out. Can they start working after sunset and set a good example for their grandchildren? It is normal for children to be naughty. Many contradictions can be avoided by separating children.

Hello, I'm glad to answer your question. Two old people quarreled or even fought because of their children, and the children were still disobedient.

I suggest you don't give your children to such parents. Because they are not suitable to take care of children at all, whether it is to take children to fight or because children are disobedient and shirk their responsibilities. Both of them showed their selfishness, bad temper, impatience and irresponsibility.

People with the above shortcomings will leave their children alone in the process of taking care of them in order to save worry. Finally, the child grows up and loses the fun of taking care of the child, and then we can tell you who is in charge. Finally, I will send you a three-character classic, hoping to dispel your worries and doubts.

What is a father? A good teacher. What is a teacher? A strict missionary. It is inappropriate for children not to study. Why bother if you are young and don't learn? The best diamonds must be cut. There is no point in not learning.