I just wanted to have an affair, but I didn’t expect that it would end up making me smelly.

I just wanted to have an affair, but I didn’t expect to end up in trouble

Wang Lan monologue:

Old Z is very scary, he copied all my and his Chat history, do you understand? It was my first time traveling with a strange man. Old Z was sitting next to me. The feeling was very strange. I felt it because I knew it shouldn't be like this. Women are all vain and would like more men to surround you and take care of you. I am no exception. In fact, Old Z is not stupid at all. He seemed to see that I was a little shaken, so he became a little angry

Opening remark: Shooting stones in the foot

I am particularly afraid of similar stories. I sympathize with the protagonist, but also hate that iron cannot become steel. As the old saying goes: "Those who drown are those who know how to swim." Most people don't know how to swim, so they stay far away from the river beach. Of course, there are those who dive into the river the less they know how to swim. That is considered suicide and is not part of our topic today. But the phrase "addiction leads to poor skills" has also been quoted many times by me. In short, "Sooner or later, you will have to pay back if you go out to hang out." This is another classic line in Hong Kong gangster dramas, and is worshiped by countless young people. The three sentences were put together and finally came to this sentence: If you don't have diamonds, don't take the porcelain job.

When I was a child, I always heard people say that I am not deeply involved in the world, and I am not deeply involved in the world. So what exactly is not deeply involved in the world? The key point lies in the word "related". Wade in the water. The water seems calm but is actually full of ripples. Putting it into life, the ripples of these two points may lead to a big disaster. It’s okay if children don’t understand. Why do parents play such a thrilling “game”? There are cute people everywhere on the Internet, and free gifts everywhere in life, but in fact, these are just sugar-coated bullets that attract people's soul. How can there be free breakfast, lunch and dinner in the world?

Interviewee: Wang Lan, female, 31 years old, married. She has a four-year-old son, and her life is very happy, but too peaceful. In Wang Lan’s own words, she just wanted to “add some sugar to life.” Unexpectedly, the added dose was too much, and the sugar turned into poison, making her Wang Lan was helpless. She first met a man on the Internet, who often told her about the bitterness of her marriage. In order to show her sincerity, Wang Lan also told the other party about all the unsatisfactory aspects of her marriage, but in fact, these were just the parts that Wang Lan was adding to the jealousy. She was actually very satisfied with her marriage, but she just felt that the seven-year itch was approaching. Just some fun. When the child grew up and went to kindergarten, Wang Lan, as a mother, suddenly felt free, so she suddenly wanted to try her charm on other men, so Lao Z appeared. His name is Lao Z, but he is actually younger than Wang Lan. Both of them were born in the 1980s. Wang Lan has been married for six years and Lao Z has just been married for one year. Lao Z and Wang Lan hit it off immediately and immediately agreed to go on a short trip. After that, Wang Lan Lan realizes that other men are just like this, so she recuperates and goes home to continue being a good wife. Unexpectedly, Lao Z told her on the Internet that he had divorced her and was waiting for her now. Wang Lan burned herself with fire and regretted it too late. Alai

Wang Lan's dictation:

I don't even want to mention this matter, I really don't want to, I have no face. But the current matter is not to say that it is difficult to get off the tiger, but it is almost the same. What on earth do I do with Alai? I hate myself so much. Do I really divorce my husband and marry Old Z? No matter how much he says he loves me, I really have no feelings for him at all. I don't love him. It's true, I only love my husband, not to mention we have such a lovely child. My husband loves me very much, and my son also loves me very much. I now have a comfortable life, and it doesn’t matter whether I want to go to work or not. My husband didn't ask for it at all. In my husband's own words, he is just a high-end wage earner, but he is no different than an ordinary small boss. In a Fortune 500 company, he can earn a monthly salary of 40,000 yuan, after tax. In short, I have never been as helpless as I am today. I hate myself so much. Why don’t I know how to cherish my good days and have to waste them?

Old Z is very scary. He copied all the chat records between me and him. Do you understand? In fact, I delete them all every time I go offline, but who would have thought that he would save them all? I never video-tape with Old Z, for fear that he will learn more about me and our family through videos.

I use fake names with him, but when we go on short trips, I have no choice. I have to use my ID. So I couldn't hide it, but I really didn't expect it would cause such a big trouble. I also have friends who have been with their lovers for many years, but their husbands didn’t even notice. Why am I so unlucky? This is really the first time I have done this kind of thing without telling my husband and caused such a big mess. I only went on that short trip for three days, and my husband didn’t ask any questions. He knew that I was going with a few buddies and just told me to pay attention to safety. My husband has always trusted me, which is really humbling, isn’t it? Old Z is one year younger than me, and he has been accusing his wife all the way, and I just listened. This was also my first time traveling with a strange man. Old Z was sitting next to me. The feeling was very strange. I felt it because I knew it shouldn’t be like this. Women are all vain and would like more men to surround you and take care of you. I am no exception. When Lao Z accused his wife, I had no choice but to tell my husband a few words. I can honestly say that it was really nitpicking. If there's anything wrong with our relationship, it's that it's too peaceful and boring. Otherwise, I really can't say anything.

But I didn’t agree to get a divorce myself. I really didn’t agree. I even advised Old Z to just make do with it, but Old Z said that we couldn’t make do. I thought at the time that the acting was really similar, so he wouldn’t work so hard when it was time to act, and I didn’t take Old Z’s words seriously at all. When I was with Lao Z, I tried not to let myself really fall in. Didn't some people say that since we are playing an emotional game, we must not show true feelings. Who would have thought that this time I did not show true feelings, but the other party did.

Now I feel sick when I mention old Z (of course I didn’t think that way before, I thought he was very artistic). He usually has long and greasy hair, and it is said that he only has one attic to his name. of used old units. I usually help people with design work. I go to work when there is work, and I don't go to work when there is no work. Old Z said that his wife had cheated on her to get him, and that she was pregnant with his child. In the end, she found out that it was all a lie, so Old Z got angry with her and has not forgiven her until now.

In short, when he talked about his wife, I listened to him like a story. I wasn’t moved at all and didn’t take him seriously. Old Z also has a bad habit. He always likes to compare with my husband. If nothing happens, he will ask, is your husband like this too? Is your husband like that too? Extremely annoying. In fact, when I came back from the trip, I already hated Old Z a little bit, and I thought it was a good thing I didn't find such a husband. But Alai, he got divorced quietly and even said he divorced me. Who asked you to divorce? Why should I be held responsible? Have I lost my mind? I don't want such a good husband, children, and home, but I want to run away to follow you? !

In fact, Old Z is not stupid at all. He seemed to see that I was a little shaken, so he became a little angry. I was afraid that irritating him would be more detrimental to my husband, so I could only deal with him, occasionally have a meal or something, and try not to have more contact with him. Although Lao Z hopes to be closer every time, I always find ways to avoid it. The ultimatum given to me by Old Z was a copy of our chat history. The more I read it, the more I sweated. Really, I didn’t think anything of it when we were chatting, but now when I read it, it really makes me blush and find it hard to talk about it. If my husband knew this, I would never be able to be a good person in the future. Even if my husband forgives me, I can't appear in front of him again. I didn't even dare to face my son's pure eyes. I cried when I picked up my son from kindergarten that day. My husband asked me what was wrong, and I said it was fine. I just felt so happy at this moment. My husband was quite happy and laughed at me and said, silly girl, that’s not worth crying. How did he know that I had caused a big disaster? It's almost impossible to end. I can't even imagine how sad my husband would be when he found out about this. I really deserve to die, Alai, please save me. I don’t want to lose him, the kids, and the life we ??have that everyone envies. But what about Old Z? Will he let me go? If this incident can let me pass safely, I will be grateful to God and start a new life.

But, will I still have a chance to start a new life?

To put it bluntly, there really is no regret medicine for sale in this world. If there were, I would have bought it long ago. Why should I wait until now? The most important thing is, I'm not afraid of divorce. I just don't want my husband to know the truth of the whole thing. As long as he doesn't know, I'll still be alive.

Flash scene

Alai: I understand you very much.

Wang Lan: Thank you.

Alai: Generally, children who get into trouble and can't end it will feel the same as you.

Wang Lan: The problem is that I am not a child anymore, so I am in more pain than a child, because children don’t think so much before and after.

Alai: Have you thought about it before and after? I'm afraid that there is a lack of "forethoughts" and "later thoughts" left.

Wang Lan: I know, I know. What would you do if you were me?

Alai: What everyone fears most may happen. It can also be said that it will definitely happen, so in addition to the iron law of "never do it again", there is also the rule of "never be afraid again". All those who are being coerced submit because of fear, but fear will never block the development of the situation.

Wang Lan: No, no, I don’t dare. Then I will really be dead.

Alai: This matter itself is a solution to the problem of "treating a dead horse as a living horse". Maybe when you are not afraid, the other party will find it uninteresting. I heard that for those perverted murderers, the more they see the scared eyes of their victims, the more excited they become. When you are fearless, these perpetrators may lose interest in pestering you further. I think you need to have a good talk with Old Z and tell him that you are willing to atone for the mistakes you have committed and choose to divorce your husband. But divorcing your husband does not mean marrying him, because you don't love him. Judging from what he said, I guess by that time, he will also feel that there is no point in continuing to entangle.

Alai’s Notes·The Taste Buds of Love

Many people don’t believe in the seven-year itch. I advise everyone to believe it.

The "seven-year itch" in marriage is almost equivalent to menopause. Some people have obvious symptoms, while others have mild symptoms, but mild symptoms do not mean that they can be ignored at will. The "seven-year itch" especially needs to be extracted separately for some repair and maintenance. It's like a diamond that is covered in dust and needs to be cleaned. It's like rolling the dice wrong in a game and returning to the starting point to play again. In short, the more careful and careful you are, the better. Some travel plans, the exchange of important accessories, and the rebuilding of the template of the two people's worlds are best combined with the seven-year itch.

In order to have a stable life in the future, this "seven years of calamity" is still worth investing and paying for. Yes, "seven years of tribulation" and "seven years of itch" are nice written words, but "seven years of tribulation" is the real straightforward description.

Once the couple has overcome this period hand in hand, there will be at least ten years of good days of sweetness and oiliness. Of course, when people reach middle age and forty, they need another adjustment. That It's a different matter. In short, marriage is about working together to survive one dangerous shoal after another. Once you have overcome it, it means victory, no regrets, and eternity. The "seven-year itch" is like a routine physical examination. You can't ignore it. Confidence in the "seven-year itch" not only gives importance to yourself, but also gives the other person a hint that you are a family member and that you and I are inseparable.

Why do some things make people angry and pitiful? It’s because they are not worth it. They just want to taste the forbidden fruit, but end up spending half their lives repaying it. Why bother? Let me tell you, all the apples in the garden actually have the same taste. If you don’t believe it, ask those who have tasted it until their mouths are tired. Do you still feel anything when it comes to eating apples?

People can live frugally, but they cannot destroy their taste buds.

Some practices are destroying your taste buds.

For each other’s sake, please protect the taste buds of our marriage and the taste buds of love.