A story takes you through emotional intelligence education.

There was a king who wanted to pass on the throne to his son. There are two princes on his knee. They are both very clever and lovely, which makes him in trouble. One day, the king called his two sons, gave them each a gold coin and told them to go to the market to buy something. Before leaving, the king sent someone to dig a hole in their pockets.

In the afternoon, both brothers came back. The eldest son is dejected and despondent, but the youngest son is very happy. The king pretended not to know and asked them what had happened. The eldest son replied in dismay, "I dropped the gold coin!" " "The younger son replied," I bought back a lesson with gold coins: before putting valuables in your pocket, check whether there are holes in your pocket. This is the intangible wealth that I have used all my life! Upon hearing this, the king immediately decided to let his youngest son inherit the throne.

Many people will think the story is over. This story is nothing more than telling us that we should think from a positive perspective when encountering things, learn to change our thoughts and emotions, and be a person with high emotional intelligence. But in fact, there is a follow-up to this story.

There are also two kings who are good friends with this king. Call them kings a, b and c for the time being. After seeing Wang A's method, Wang B and Wang C felt very good and decided to use it on their sons, but they both had only one son, so they didn't want to choose an heir, just to see if their sons had such a high emotional intelligence.

King B cut his pocket, gave him gold coins to finish the task, and waited for his son to come back with great expectation. But when his son came back in the afternoon, he just told him that the gold coin was lost, and King B left in frustration. From then on, he felt that his son's EQ was too low to compare with his friend's younger son. He was very disappointed and completely indulged his son. After the death of King B, his son succeeded to the throne. This disappointing son can't handle the relationship with ministers well at all, and often punishes his officials because of anger. When the enemy attacked the capital, the officers guarding the city surrendered first, so the son of King B became the king of national subjugation.

The son of king C, like the son of king B, came back with a depressed face and told his father that the gold coin was lost. But the king did not leave in frustration, but patted his son on the shoulder and said to him, "You lost a gold coin this time because your pocket was broken." What will you do next time I give you money to go shopping? " "

The prince thought for a moment and said, "Let me check my pocket first." "

The king nodded, "Yes, you won't lose money because your pocket is broken." . "

"But I still lost a gold coin." The prince still has some regrets.

"That you think about it, on the other hand, if your pocket is not broken and you don't lose money this time, you may not remember to check your pocket every time. Next time I give you a hundred gold coins to go shopping, how many gold coins will you lose if your pocket is broken? " The king continued patiently.

"A hundred."

"Do you think losing a gold coin this time actually saves you a lot of gold coins that you may lose in the future?"

"One hundred! Even if you subtract this one that fell today, there are still 99! " The prince opened his eyes excitedly.

"Maybe even more. The lessons you learned with the price of a gold coin today will help you keep more gold coins in the future. Think about it from this angle, is this gold coin worth it? "

"Yes!" A smile finally appeared on the prince's face.

In this way, Wang C constantly educated his son and helped him gradually become a prince with high emotional intelligence. After the death of King C, his son continued to govern the country with his heart and won the love of courtiers and citizens. With the joint efforts of the whole country, their kingdom has become the leading one nearby.

In the story of Wang A, because he has two children, he can naturally choose a successor with high emotional intelligence. But King B and King C have only one child. The difference is that Wang B, who has no choice, still wants to save trouble as Wang A, hoping that his son will be born with high emotional intelligence. Once he finds out that he is not, he will be disappointed and give up. Wang C did not give up after discovering that his son's EQ was not high for a period of time, but tirelessly educated him and improved his EQ.

In fact, we ordinary people are just like Wang B and Wang C. Even if you have more than one child, you can't choose what kind of child you will have. When your child can't reach your imagination, you have two choices. Let it go, no matter. Either persuade him and help him improve. I don't think people with conscience will choose the former, and the latter is the so-called "education". Fortunately, when there is an irreparable gap in people's IQ due to natural inequality, our EQ can be cultivated. But after all, all "education" is not easy and requires hard work and perseverance. In the face of this hard work, do you choose to give up like King B or be satisfied like King C?