Dad tells jokes with his children.

"You know what? Tik Tok's online celebrity father is divorced! "

A week ago, Mr. Mu forwarded this message to me. I was cooking for my child and didn't have time to talk to her.

When I first took over taking care of the children, I had watched the video about Xiao Qiang as a father.

I understand that I take care of my children at home, and the pressure on Teacher Mu is no less than mine.

If you still don't know who Xiao Qiang is, you might as well search Tik Tok.

It is especially recommended for parents who give their children to the other half or the elderly at home.

It's actually quite interesting. You can see how a big man is tortured to pieces by his own children!

Of course, the purpose of recommendation is not to tell everyone how difficult it is to take care of children.

There are so many articles exaggerating the hardships of bringing up children, but only those who bring up children can appreciate the taste.

The purpose of recommendation is only to hope that a family can have more hands and a more tolerant heart.

Talking about dad Xiao Qiang's divorce.

We don't know the specific reason, but from the video he sent in the past, we saw another life shattered by daily necessities.

Xiao Qiang said he had changed a lot.

A spiritual boy, for a tired uncle with a yellow face.

Feeling out of touch with society, I feel less confident when I return to the workplace.

To sum up, mental stress is easier to crush a person than physical fatigue.

Hey, I'm also a nanny with a baby at home.

I feel the same way!

So I turned and told Teacher Mu: Please be kind to me and give me the money for yesterday's milk tea.

The night I heard the news of dad Xiao Qiang's divorce,

When Miss Mu came home from work, she changed the old style of "pain here and sour there".

I started washing dishes in the kitchen for the first time. I thought I did something wrong. Let her out!

"These little things can let you do? ! "This sentence is not against my will at all!

It shouldn't be too easy for me to wash dishes after being tortured by little animals all day!

After giving the children a bath at night and putting them to bed, Teacher Mu asked me, do you feel the pressure of taking care of the children? Or go to work!

"I don't want our marriage to end because you take care of the children at home."

This is Miss Mu's heart.

I admire her character of listening to the wind and rain. Why do other dads think our marriage is crumbling when they divorce their babies?

"You see that Dad Xiao Qiang is divorced and it is so hard to take care of the children."

"You see, this is the problem!" I seriously told Mr. Mu that it is very hard to take care of children, that's right.

I am confident that I can bear the physical hardship more than my wife.

Psychological pressure, learn to resolve, is more important than getting rid of it!

The last point is particularly important:

People with children, don't be so anxious!

It is precisely because I know that Miss Mu is an extremely anxious and sensitive person.

So I decided to resign at the end of 20 19.

I just have a mentality, and I don't need my parents to bring it.

However, whoever is suitable will bring it.

About Xiao Qiang's divorce, the most discussed is:

"I only divorced for a year and a half. I don't know how so many nannies in China take care of their children in Du Jie. "

Focus, alone.

I never feel that I am raising a baby alone, even though I am a full-time nanny!

During the day, I accompany my children. After Miss Mu gets off work, the whole world is mine!

My gratitude to Mr. Mu was only felt when I went back to my hometown alone with my children.

On May 1 this year, I took my children back to my hometown.

Because my daughter has been with us, and she is not very close to her grandparents.

Plus, I don't trust the elderly to take care of the children. I play with the children during the day and bathe her at night to put her to sleep.

It was the first time that the child left his mother and cried at night.

Hold on for two days and evacuate quickly.

During the National Day, I went back to my hometown with my children alone. Compared with a few months ago, although I didn't cry at night this time, I was really at a loss for uninterrupted care day and night.

This is the difference between teacher Mu's presence and absence!

The importance of mother, children can understand, I am a nanny, and I know better!

On the surface, I take care of the baby full-time, but Miss Mu goes to work during the day and comes back at night to bathe her daughter and sleep with her.

I even think she works harder. ...

But for such a long time, we haven't complained to each other and have adapted to this life. One of the biggest reasons is:

Two people need to help each other and support each other.

Teacher Mu and I didn't make our life breathless because of the appearance of children.

The appearance of children will break the original rhythm of the family, which will inevitably lead to panic and anxiety, but learning to escape the discomfort in life will not make the heart feel out of control.

The help of the other half is a necessary condition for you to get rid of anxiety.

Mental stress is always there, and when it can't be solved, it can only be alleviated.

As a stay-at-home dad who has been unemployed for two years, saying that there is no pressure can explain two possibilities, one is a fool and the other is a superman.

I don't comment specifically on what is the pressure on Dad Xiao Qiang.

In fact, from the time he started making videos, I told Mr. Mu that if he played like this, he would kill himself.

I have made a short video before and successfully operated a 300W fan account with the team!

This experience tells me that running a video account with millions of fans is definitely not a task that one person can complete.

Video content is a very annoying thing, you have to think about what to shoot!

When shooting, we should also consider the venue, lighting, desk, the acceptance of each picture and so on.

Post-editing and dubbing ...

Turn it off! Keys! Yes!

You have to take care of the children! ! !

Can there be no pressure? Do you really think it's easier to make short videos than to make pictures and texts?

Of course, I don't want to comment on how Dad Xiao Qiang did it here, just want to talk about stress.

Everyone has different ways to relieve stress. I choose running.

Therefore, compared with before taking care of children, my body has not been dragged down, but has changed my lazy state.

Exercise is always an important channel for a person to maintain energy.

Moreover, running, a sport with almost no cost, is not suitable for me.

The reason why I run is really because I have intermittent anxiety for a while and feel that I am out of society. Is it because no one wants me anymore?

Maybe it has something to do with personality. When I think it's useless to think about it, I just don't want to.

Instead of lying anxious, it is better to release this leisure. ...

So, I fell in love with running as a decompression method!

Only when you are running, you don't have to think about anything but moving forward.

I am not a sad person, and I don't want to be an anxious father all day.

Whether you are a father or a mother, if anxiety and troubles become insoluble emotions in life, it will be a huge blow to children.

Don't many stay-at-home parents just want to give their children better company?

But if the parents' mentality has collapsed, what about companionship!

Dad, Xiao Qiang, divorced.

His stay-at-home dad career will end with the failure of his marriage.

This is his choice, but family life should not be like this!

As Miss Mu said before, if the outcome of having children is to sacrifice the whole marriage, it is better not to have children.

As Mr. Mu said now, if the solution of taking care of children full-time will break up the family, it will be ridiculous from the beginning.

Yes, if one day I feel unhappy, then I will choose again!