When chatting with girls online, simply say goodbye, ok?

Cut to the chase: "Are you free for dinner today?" (Too anxious, no bedding, girls generally don't like it, of course, there are also very manly people who will be willing. )

Household registration management type: "hello, my name is xxx, I work in yyy, zzz." Nice to meet you. " It's not like a person, it's a computer program. )

Be caring and attentive "Tomorrow's minimum temperature 1 degree, and the maximum temperature 13 degree. Caring about the weather means caring about yourself. Don't forget to add one more dress. " Do we know each other? )

Joke: "Chimpanzees accidentally stepped on a bench pulled by gibbons. After the gibbon cleaned it gently and carefully, they fell in love. When asked how they got together, the chimpanzee said with emotion: ape dung! It's all ape dung! " Forwarding humorous news is a low-level performance that makes everyone laugh. )

Narcissism: "If one day, you feel tired, as long as you turn around, my blessing will be by your side. No matter how far away, no matter how many years, this blessing will turn into a blue star, flashing in the morning, flashing in the evening and flashing in every corner of your life." (mental derangement! )

Endlessly asking: "What should I do?" (Watching TV) "What program are you watching?" (If you are the one) "Is it interesting?" (Not bad) "What should I do after reading it?" (... the woman finally stopped answering her text messages)

What's more, it drags English: "Hey, what are you doing now? Close your eyes and I will be by your side, thinking of you day and night!" " (I don't comment)

If you have done these stupid things, please read on.

When it comes to how to send messages to unfamiliar girls correctly, we must first understand the differences in thinking between the two sexes.

Sasha and Fangfang are together

Sasha: "I saw a skirt in Xidan yesterday. It was beautiful."

Fangfang: "I saw a windbreaker in Dongdan the day before yesterday, and I like it very much."

Sasha is with her boyfriend.

Sasha: "I saw a skirt in Xidan yesterday. It was beautiful."

Boyfriend: "How much is it?"

For millions of years, men have been quietly waiting for prey in the grass, and women have been chatting with children in caves. Men and men cooperate because of a clear goal, and then start to act silently after consultation. It is normal for women and women to get together because of the same situation and talk about each other's state and feelings. Therefore, men are projection thinking and women are mapping thinking. Until today, we will see that two men can go fishing without saying a word, but they can squat by the pond for an afternoon; Two women go shopping, even if they don't buy anything, they will talk all day.

Look at the examples of Sasha and Fangfang.

Sasha: "I saw a skirt in Xidan yesterday. It was beautiful." (where to see something, this is the state; What is particularly beautiful is the feeling. )

Fangfang: "I saw a windbreaker in Dongdan the day before yesterday, and I like it very much." Women seem to be chatting happily, but in fact they are all talking about their own affairs. )

Sasha is with her boyfriend.

Sasha: "I saw a skirt in Xidan yesterday. It was beautiful."

Boyfriend: "How much is it?" (Go directly to the problem solver)

Men talk to solve problems, while women talk to describe themselves in problems. Men don't know how to chat with unfamiliar girls because they accept the influence of sexual thinking. He will think: anyway, that's what we are actually doing, or we can meet directly; Or "giving gifts", that is, showing concern; Or "let her know how strong my hunting ability is", which is called display value. In fact, these are all purposeful behaviors. For a woman, unless she is willing to let you enter the pursuit process, it will resist men's purposeful behavior.

There is a phenomenon in smooth sexual communication: the active party will adapt to the passive party's way of thinking. As a man, if a woman throws herself at you, of course you can act according to your own thinking, otherwise, you should learn to talk to them in women's language.

Let's talk about some basic principles of chatting.

First, know each other's status and often say "What are you doing" (or "Are you busy" and "How are you doing recently". ), and then comprehensively judge the state of the other party according to the speed, content and tone of the other party's answer (are you busy or not, are you in the mood to chat).

If you feel that the other person is not in the state, then don't continue to send text messages, so as to ensure that you don't make mistakes and are not annoying. You still have a chance in the future.

If you are not sure whether the other party is in a state, for example, the other party answers "at work."

You can answer, "Me too. I'm not busy now. When I suddenly think of you, I will send a message. " Introduce your status, add some feelings and find out your connection. )

This answer is both a communication and a test. It doesn't matter if the other party doesn't come back. You didn't make any mistakes. But as long as the other person is not busy and doesn't hate you, it is usually easy to continue. Girls usually talk about themselves or ask you some questions, such as "We are always busy and will go on a business trip next week." (Describe the status)

You can answer: "envy, I haven't been on a business trip for a long time, and staying in one place feels quite boring." (state+feeling)

Maybe she will continue to say, "What do you envy? We have a hard business trip and have no time to play. " (She also joined the feelings, which is a good sign of improved communication. )

That's it in short. Everything you say to me is trivial. It's natural to feel strange after talking too much, and then invite again, which is basically natural.

Remember, always grasp the "state"+"feeling" and find the connection between you and her (it can be the same or different, and it can be a topic of chat).

About the main points of asking questions.

Don't ask questions all the time. Keep talking and asking questions separately to avoid giving the other person an aggressive feeling.

When you are asked a question in the opposite direction, you should answer it well. For example, she asked, "Is your work always leisurely?" Just take this opportunity to introduce yourself, and don't forget to add "What about you?" Finally. It's friendly and easy to keep the chat going.

About the time of sending the message

Preferably around 4: 30 pm. Generally speaking, this time is the least busy, whether it's work or school. Moreover, another study claims that at 4: 30 pm, human sexual desire reaches its peak, but this may also be a rumor. Anyway, it is no wonder that many people are polite. ...

About the end of information

The characteristic of online chat is that you can return or not, and you don't have to worry about why the other party suddenly left without saying goodbye. Of course, we should be polite and considerate. We take the initiative. If the other party doesn't reply to the text message, it will be regarded as the end of today's communication, and we will contact you another day. At this time, we don't have to ask why people didn't reply to the message last time, and we can reopen the topic. Try not to send messages to a girl you don't know twice a day, including calling, otherwise people will think you are difficult.

In short, the characteristics of information are unpretentious, fully aimed at women's psychology, unlike other schools, which do not pursue wonderful routines, do not seek merits or faults (nagging is not long-winded, we must grasp the temperature well), and the rope saws through the water, and the slow work makes the fine work, and the iron pestle grinds into needles.