The blind date woman tells: Why can't older men marry their wives?

A few days ago, I got together with my friend Xiaoya, during which she talked about the fact that her parents forced her to go on a blind date last year, which made her feel particularly funny and disappointed.

Xiaoya said that she never thought that she would go on a blind date one day, because she had heard and witnessed many examples of blind date, and few of them were successful.

Not to mention that those leftover men have no advantages, how many can hold up the scene just by looking at their looks?

Xiaoya laughed as she spoke. I didn't understand, so I asked her, What are you laughing at?

Xiaoya said: You don't know how wonderful the men who come on blind date are. I thought I could meet a few normal people, but as a result, I was disappointed in an instant.

Then Xiaoya said that she really wouldn't go on blind dates again, and she couldn't stand those wonderful men, let alone marry them.

After a blind date, I finally understand why some men can't get married.

Xiaoya, for example, a girl like her can be regarded as a quality woman in the new era, but what about the leftover men? They still live in ancient times, and they are old-fashioned and have no money and no conditions. Which woman will marry?

Maybe, for Xiaoya, there are indeed many problems with older men.

I hope that Xiaoya's blind date experience described in this article can give some inspiration and thinking to the older leftover men, and make the road of love smoother.

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Let's talk about the basic situation of Xiaoya first.

Xiaoya is 29 years old. If she is fair, I personally think she belongs to the kind of attractive girl. The more she looks, the better she looks.

However, Xiaoya is very clever, simple and likable in her life. She is generous and informal. She can be quiet and alone, or have fun with a group of friends.

Emotionally, Xiaoya talked about a boyfriend, a college classmate, who had been together for almost four years.

Xiaoya once said that when she fell in love with her boyfriend in the third year, both parents urged them to get married.

However, there are two reasons why the marriage didn't happen later:

First, my boyfriend cheated on Xiaoya and had an affair with another female classmate; Second, Xiaoya had to buy a house before she was willing to get married, but at that time, her boyfriend's family conditions were not good, and her boyfriend had just worked, so she had no money and could not afford a house.

Actually, buying a house is second. What Xiaoya can't accept most is that her boyfriend has an affair with other girls.

Xiaoya said that her boyfriend was so poor that she didn't leave him. He wanted to find another girl. How can there be such a love rat man in the world?

So, Xiaoya decided to break up with her boyfriend when she knew about it. No matter how her boyfriend came to ask her for a chance, Xiaoya ignored him. She really couldn't forgive him.

Later, Xiaoya moved home from her boyfriend, and she never saw her boyfriend again. All her contact information was deleted.

Xiaoya didn't find another boyfriend after breaking up with her boyfriend, so she has been alone.

Xiaoya is not in a hurry about feelings. She says it's nothing if she is only 29 years old. It's impossible to get married without a suitable man.

However, Xiaoya's parents don't think so. Her mother said that she will be thirty soon, and if she doesn't get married, she will lose all her face.

So, every time Xiaoya comes home, she will be forced to go on a blind date by her parents.

Xiaoya had a blind date three times last year, and the result was worse every time. She really couldn't afford to get hurt.

Xiaoya said that the reality is too pale, and those older men who come on blind dates basically don't have good conditions. They still want to marry a good girl like her, which is really a daydream.

Therefore, Xiaoya would rather stay alone and never plan to go home for blind date again this year.

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Next, tell me about Xiaoya's three blind date experiences.

(1) The first blind date

Xiaoya's first blind date was brought to her by an introducer who was a 33-year-old man who was working outside the home with a monthly salary of seven or eight thousand yuan.

Xiaoya felt disdainful of him at that time, because her own monthly salary was 7, yuan. This man was similar to her salary level, and he was several years older than her. She felt that it didn't match.

Not to mention, when Xiaoya asked if the man had a house, the man said he didn't. Xiaoya was a little disappointed. She doesn't even have a house and her salary is not high. Can he get a wife when he comes on a blind date?

Xiaoya asked him: Can you afford a house before you get married?

The man replied: Try to make a down payment and buy it in installments.

xiaoya almost didn't spray the water. She bought a house by stages, and she might have to pay it back with her later. She was drunk when she thought about it.

Then, the man liked Xiaoya very much, and said that the house would definitely be bought. As long as Xiaoya was willing, she would definitely not be wronged in the future.

Xiaoya really can't listen to it anymore. She doesn't have a crush on him at all. The man has nothing, and she wants to be empty-handed. She really laughs her teeth off.

So Xiaoya politely refused the man, who still wanted to add Xiaoya's friends, but Xiaoya reluctantly agreed.

The man said, ask her out to play sometime and get to know each other again.

Xiaoya said yes in a perfunctory way, but when she got back, she immediately deleted the man.

Xiaoya said that the man really didn't know himself and wanted to ask her out. I don't know where he got the courage. She is so young, will she settle for an older man who has nothing?

It's definitely impossible. In this way, Xiaoya's first blind date ended in failure.

(2) The second blind date

Xiaoya made a blind date for the second time and said that she had found a better man. Xiaoya thought that the man should be good at that time, but she was disappointed at first sight.

That man is 35 years old. Although he is rich, he looks really flattering. His whole body is black, as if his clothes are not clean, and he doesn't look like a rich man at all.

Xiaoya was shocked at that time. The blind date man in front of her was almost like moving bricks on the construction site. She thought he was in the wrong place.

Then, when the man saw that Xiaoya was pretty and satisfied with her, he said straight away that as long as Xiaoya was willing to marry him, there would be no less bride price for the house and car, and he promised her a good life.

Xiaoya felt that the male condition was good, but his quality was a little poor. The tone of speech is not only loud, but also boastful, and I don't know if it is true. Maybe he often says this to women. It's too frivolous.

Also, when a man speaks, he always looks at Xiaoya with a wretched expression, which makes Xiaoya particularly embarrassed.

Moreover, the man is also glib, sometimes praising her for her beauty, and sometimes saying that Xiaoya has white skin and he likes it very much.

Xiaoya thinks that this man is really unreliable. Although the conditions are good, she has no quality, and she can't make do with it.

This man is a playboy at first sight. In the future, he will definitely be dishonest in his marriage. She doesn't want to take risks.

Besides, this man is dressed casually, looks like dirt, maybe it is exquisitely packaged, and the actual conditions may not be as good as he said.

A truly rich man, like a coolie, still smells and has no culture at all. Don't say rustic, still staring at her, a pair of flirting.

Xiaoya said that this man is also unreliable, and she does not like it. It is better for her to marry such a man than to be single.

At the end of the blind date, the man also wanted to add Xiaoya as a friend, so Xiaoya asked him to scan the code and said he would agree when he got back.

Of course, Xiaoya received a man's request to be her best friend when she got back, but she didn't order it at all. It was just a tactic to slow down.

Xiaoya laughed when she told me about it. The man wanted to be a good friend, dreaming.

(3) The third blind date

Xiaoya's third blind date was introduced by an undergraduate, a 31-year-old man, who was very introverted and had not talked about his girlfriend.

Xiaoya recognized the man after meeting him, at least a little better than the previous two times.

On the same day, Xiaoya and the man talked about their respective situations and added friends, both of whom indicated that they could make further contact.

Xiaoya thought there was a chance with him, but after the blind date, it was noon, and the man suggested taking her out for dinner. As a result, Xiaoya went out with the man and was immediately disappointed.

Xiaoya recalled that the man took her out to find a restaurant, and it was very boring not to say a word on the way.

That's not to mention. Xiaoya was thirsty, so she wanted to buy a cup of tea in the mall, but this man was so stupid that he didn't even know to pay the bill for her.

At that time, the shop assistant also reminded the man that he had no response at all when he said * * * 12 yuan.

Finally, Xiaoya paid the money in a hurry and left, which was embarrassing.

Xiaoya thinks that this man is too straight. Even if he is introverted, doesn't he even know how to take care of girls? Even the shop assistant laughed at him, and he was still stupid.

Xiaoya was particularly wronged when she told me about it. She said that such a man is really stingy, so stingy, and it is really harder to find a wife than to appear on the surface.

Later, the place where the man took Xiaoya to eat almost didn't scare Xiaoya. That man actually took Xiaoya to a food stall to eat, fifteen yuan fast food.

Xiaoya was really disappointed at that time. There were many migrant workers in the shop, and it was noisy. How can we eat in this place?

The man ordered two dishes, one soup, and one * * * was less than fifty yuan.

Xiaoya was really angry at that time. This man was too picky. It was the first time he took a girl to dinner. How could he come to a place like this? It was really bad.

Xiaoya really can't eat any more before she finishes eating. She really can't eat this fast food with this man.

So Xiaoya found an excuse and said that she had something to go home.

Before she got home, Xiaoya blacked out the man. No woman would value such a stingy man.

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Xiaoya later summed up three reasons why older men can't get married according to her three blind date experiences.

(1) Poor economic foundation

Xiaoya said that most of the older leftover men who came on blind date had no economic foundation, not only had no money or house, but also had no good salary and low salary.

like them, if they don't work hard to make money and improve themselves, how can they buy a house and a car, how can they afford the bride price, and how can they get married?

At present, the living standard is high and the expenses are high. If such men are not motivated and don't work hard, no woman really wants to marry them.

Anyway, there is no economic foundation and no money, which is the main reason why those older men can't get married.

(2) Low quality

Xiaoya summed up the second reason, that is, many older leftover men have no quality, frivolous behavior, no internal self-restraint, and can't please women.

like the man I met on the second blind date, staring at Xiaoya with a squint, he is still rustic and has no quality at all. How can he be appreciated by women?

Xiaoya said, a man should have character. Even if you have money but lack character, which woman will marry?

So, those older men really need to improve their self-cultivation. When you are in good moral and economic conditions, there will naturally be women who appreciate you.

otherwise, these leftover men may really be single all their lives.

(3) stingy, too stingy

Xiaoya said that there are many older men who may have this problem, want to marry, and are particularly stingy and stingy.

she's surprised. A man doesn't want to pay a penny for a woman. Why should a woman marry you?

Just like the man on the last blind date, he can't even afford to buy a cup of milk tea for 12 yuan, which is really stingy. No woman would like such a stingy man.

Xiaoya thinks that many older leftover men wander around the blind date market all the year round, holding the dream of picking up a daughter-in-law for nothing, which makes them feel funny.

is this possible? These leftover men are really funny and fantastic.

To sum up, this is the reason why the older men can't get married after Xiaoya's blind date.

Xiaoya told me that she would never go on blind dates again. She would rather be single than settle for those older men. It's not worth it.

in her opinion, the man a woman wants to marry must be a man with good character, economic foundation, knowing how to pay for women and loving them.

Otherwise, there are none of those leftover men, and which woman values them?

Therefore, Xiaoya suggested: I hope those older men who are still wandering in the blind date market will change as soon as possible and work hard, otherwise they will really not get married.

What do you think of Xiaoya's summary and opinions? Welcome to leave a comment!