Parents are more understanding and teachers are more attentive.

In recent years, because there are more only children, every child is the treasure of the family. Because of this, some parents are very protective of their children, and some are even so overly protective of their children that they really want to put their children in an incubator.

But in reality, children live on campus and are surrounded by thousands and hundreds of people. Even in normal activities, some bumps and bumps are inevitable.

It was originally a small matter, with little bumps and bumps. The two parents tolerated each other and checked when it was time to check. If the doctor says there is no problem, then everyone can rest assured.

However, in the eyes of some parents, it is like this: I don’t think the child is doing well, why does the teacher want me to take the child for examination? The teacher just doesn’t like my child, so he wants to Are you asking me to pay for the wrong money? When I have a knot in my heart, I will have some complaints about the teacher's education.

Many times, teachers feel aggrieved and disappointed, which affects their enthusiasm for work. It is not because of the shortcomings of the children or how bad the children are.

Children are children, and we all allow them to be ignorant and are willing to accompany them to grow up slowly. And sometimes, it's precisely because of parents' inappropriate attitudes and behaviors. If the teacher's enthusiasm for work is dampened, the quality of teaching will be affected, and the biggest victims are ultimately the children.

Small matters that could have been resolved peacefully will turn into an invisible conflict because parents and teachers have different ideas.

Sometimes, the teacher says that your child does not complete homework and does not follow discipline. What is the purpose? I think 90% of parents will not think wrongly. The teacher said that he just hopes that we parents will take control, fulfill our responsibilities as parents, and help our children correct their shortcomings.

But some parents have very strange ideas. When a teacher communicates privately with a child’s parents that the child’s classroom discipline is poor. He believes that the teacher is unattractive and makes the children less interested in learning. So, when your child is the only one in the class who can't pay attention to the class, everyone may know whether the fault lies with the teacher or with his habits.

If a child makes a mistake, the responsibility should be placed on the teacher. Isn’t it a bit ridiculous?

When the teacher said that the child was not paying attention in class and called on him to remind him, he would murmur and curse. Parents can take it as a sign that their children don't like the teacher and laugh at the teacher's jokes.

Then when other teachers tell you the same problem, if parents still think it doesn’t matter. Then, your child's behavior in the future will make you doubt your life, and you will have many unique experiences in the future.

We all know that many times, if a student likes the teacher of the course, he will like the course; if he respects the teacher, he will listen carefully in class, the classroom efficiency will be high, and the knowledge will be firmly grasped. .

If a child doesn’t like the teacher, he or she usually hates the subject and will not participate well in the class taught by the teacher. The learning efficiency of the class will be relatively low, and the child will still suffer. child.

If a child is not interested in any class, it means that there is a problem with his learning drive. Parents should cooperate with teachers to find ways to mobilize their children's enthusiasm for learning. Instead of not caring about anything, even if the teacher takes the initiative to contact the parents, the parents still have to leave everything to the teacher.

On the way to educating children, teachers also play the role of correct guidance.

Family is a harbor. If a child is wronged at school or treated poorly by other classmates, but does not tell the teacher or is not discovered by the teacher, parents should take the initiative to tell the teacher what the child said. And after understanding what happened, cooperate with the teacher to solve the problem. Instead of thinking that it is the teacher's fault whenever a child has a problem. If you still don’t understand the problem, go to the leadership or higher education department and directly express your dissatisfaction with the teacher.

The best way to communicate is to use a friendly tone, communicate directly with the teacher, and understand all aspects of the situation. Don't get emotional when your child encounters some problem. No matter what happens, argue with the teacher first. Have your emotions been vented? Has the problem been solved?

Some time ago, a new student was transferred to Teacher Wu Ming’s class. He was transferred from a famous school in a big city to a rural primary school. This child often does not complete his homework, does not correct his mistakes, does not abide by discipline, and does not pay attention to school rules and regulations.

In order to gain support from parents, the teacher added the parents’ WeChat accounts and communicated with them privately many times. At first, parents didn’t reply to WeChat messages. Later, I replied to WeChat, which was just "Okay." As a result, it was never implemented. In the end, the child was still dictating and not correcting mistakes, and his homework was delayed for several days without being handed in.

This is not surprising. Maybe parents think that their children’s learning is not important. But what makes the teacher feel chilling is that the parents also have some prejudices against the teacher because their children lied.

Once, a parent in the next class was Teacher Wu’s classmate. He heard the parent comment: "Teacher Wu has a really bad temper. My children don't dare to hand in their homework to him."

Later, when the parent told Teacher Wu, Teacher Wu felt very sad. uncomfortable. My child doesn't complete his homework every day, but he says he doesn't dare to come to the teacher to hand in his homework.

Sure enough, one day, Teacher Wu sent another WeChat message to remind parents:

However, the next day, there was no reply from the parents. I don’t know if I saw it or not.

But the next day, when I asked my child for homework in the morning, he said he forgot to bring it. But later, the teacher found that the homework book was in the child's schoolbag, and he had written a little bit but had not finished it.

The teacher thought it didn’t matter if the child couldn’t remember. Later, the teacher asked, why do parents feel the same way? Could it be that your parents don't care about homework, so if they don't do it, how will the teacher approve it?

One can imagine what the teacher’s education for the children will look like in the end. The teacher would do this even when sending private messages on WeChat, and the teacher would tolerate the child’s other shortcomings. The lowest bottom line for teachers is to communicate directly if there is anything they can do. Don’t confuse right and wrong and negate the teacher’s work casually.

However, from the communication between this parent and several teachers, it can still be seen that the parents look down on the teachers from the bottom of their hearts. When he communicated, he said: I am a teacher, and I am still a tutor in my heart. I am also very ashamed and don’t know how to communicate with my own children...

I look down on teachers, have opinions about teachers, and think If you have a high degree of education, you will feel superior. He even thinks that the reason the teacher communicated with him about his child's problems is because he doesn't like his child.

This is actually a communication problem and a deviation in understanding.

If parents’ educational concepts are different from those of teachers, how can we educate children well?

Some parents are not willing to communicate with teachers. They may not be able to say a few words or make a phone call to the teacher in a year.

In fact, many teachers hope to receive feedback from parents and see their attitudes towards their children’s education. Nowadays, there are basically large classes with dozens of children. There are forty or fifty children in a class, and even fifty or sixty children in some classes. Teachers sometimes have more than enough to do. Even if they see some problems of children, they cannot solve them. Correct them one by one and give the child more attention. Of course, we can only seek support from parents, such as the child's writing posture and the child's homework.

Parents should communicate with teachers in a timely manner to understand their children's situation and solve problems in their children's learning, especially when their children have emotional problems in learning, and help their children. Or if you think the teacher's behavior is inappropriate, you can communicate and resolve it in time, which is what a responsible parent does.

There are many ways to communicate with teachers, including phone calls, WeChat messages, and a few words after school to get an overview of the child's current situation.

If you don’t communicate, you won’t know how your child is doing.

Teachers are the only people in the world who are not related to your children by blood, but are willing to be happy when your children make progress, worry about their regression, full of expectations, help them become talents, leave their small family to take care of everyone, and are willing to take care of everyone. An "outsider" with no regrets.

The more you understand the teacher, the more likely the teacher will be more attentive to your child.